Flow: How To Get Into “The Zone”


 

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Sometimes when you do what lights you up, something magical happens. Time seems to disappear, you no longer think, you just exist in bliss. If your passion includes a performance, such as playing an instrument, you find yourself playing to your highest ability and it feels effortless.
 

This state is sometimes referred to as “the zone” or “flow”, and it can be as elusive as its exact definition. In today’s mission, you’ll learn how to hit this state regularly and reliably.
 
 

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Task 1: What does “flow” mean?

 

As I mentioned above, “flow” is a state of effortless creativity and/or concentration. You may not even be aware of it, or if you are, you feel a little lightheaded with happiness, almost as though you’re a little tipsy.
 

Time has stopped existing. You feel like you could do what you’re doing all day. Runners say that they feel like they’ll never get tired.
 

Because Flow requires being fully immersed in what you’re doing, it’s hard to achieve with a conscious effort. In the next task, you’ll learn how to set yourself up for Flow.
 

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Task 2: How to reach “the zone”

 

The bad news is, Flow can’t be forced. It’s simply impossible to command yourself to be in the Flow, just as it would be impossible to be spontaneous on demand.
 

Why is this? It’s because Flow isn’t so much about what you are doing. It’s a state of being.
 

In order to create an environment conducive to Flow, think about an occasion when you have experienced it. Then try to recreate as many of the circumstances as possible. For many people, these include:

  • Being relaxed and stress-free
  • Feeling no pressure to “perform”
  • Being in a quiet environment with no distractions
  • Being rested and calm

By creating similar circumstances, you set yourself up for the possibility of Flow. It might not happen every single time, but it’s much more likely than it would be otherwise.

Are Your Dreams Really Your Own?


 

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A major value in our modern society is individualism. Almost everyone will proudly proclaim that they’re their own person, free and independent of other people’s opinions.
 

This narrative is so central to our culture that it’s hard for us to recognise and acknowledge to what extent we really are influenced by others. Your mission today is to find out what your dreams are like without anybody else’s influence.
 
 

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Task 1: Examine your dreams

 

To do this, you must first of all come to terms with the fact that yes, you are a product of the society you grew up in. Realise this isn’t a bad thing; humans need other humans to survive and thrive.
 

Acknowledge this and realise which part of your dreams and goals may be influenced by society. This is not to eliminate them! It’s simply important to have clarity about the origins of what you wish for.
 

Some examples of society’s norms and the goals based on them are:

  • Loving one’s family above everything else.
  • Finding your passion and making it your living.
  • Getting married and having kids.
  • Advancing in your job.
  • Material possessions such as a house, car etc.

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Task 2: Navigate the unfamiliar

 

Again, wanting these things isn’t a bad thing, nor does it make you uncool. To a certain extent, it’s part of being human. We’re social beings and much as our upbringing contradicts it, we do depend on the group to survive.
 

Rather, once you realise you really do want something, it becomes unimportant whether anyone else wants it or not. You become sure of yourself. You feel calm, centered, purposeful.
 

Finding your true dreams can feel very unfamiliar at first, so be patient with yourself! Here are a few questions you might ask to identify them:

  • If money was no object and everyone I love was perfectly taken care of, what would I do every day?
  • Where would I live?
  • Who would I live with, if anyone?
  • What passion(s) would I pursue?
  • How would I contribute to society?

The answers give you clues on what truly meaningful goals might look like for you.

A Beautiful 2021 (Part 2/2)


 

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In Part 1 two weeks ago, we reviewed and let go of the previous year. There was a lot to do, as it’s been such a weird and challenging year in many ways. Now it’s time to set ourselves up for 2021.
 

Especially if you struggled in 2020, it’s not enough to just say “good riddance” because unprocessed feelings have a habit of coming to haunt us. May sure you have closed off 2020 before you get ready for the next year.
 

Your mission today is to set yourself up for a beautiful 2021.
 
 

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Task 1: What success means to you

 

I said in the last episode that achievement isn’t just worldly or financial success. Getting through challenging times or battling issues is an achievment, too. We all have different challenges in life, which is why it’s imporant for you to define what success means to you.
 

Material success isn’t a bad thing, by the way. Receiving lots of abundance is beautiful! What I’m saying is, it isn’t the only kind of success we should acknowledge.
 

With a view to 2021, take a piece of paper and write down what success you wish to have. If it is “only” recovery health-wise or financially, or mentally, then that’s absolutely fine. Nobody gets to judge this.
 

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Task 2: A beautiful 2021

 

Now it’s time to get down to business. Write down everything you wish to do and achieve this year. Make it concrete: don’t write “more money” but instead a specific amount you wish to make.
 

Then write down the first steps you need to take. You don’t have to plan out the whole thing, just focus on the first steps. If you’re struggling with your mental health, write down your coping strategies and support system. Make sure to create enough room for it. If you strive for material success, write down what you need to do first to make it happen.
 

Lastly, plan and schedule when you’ll take the very first step towards your goals. Put it in your calendar and get started.

Closing Off 2020 (Part 1/2)


 

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I can already hear you say: Good riddance! Let’s just get rid of 2020 and move on.” Others question whether I should do a review at all.
 

I believe that it’s even more important in a challenging year like this one, to come to terms with it and close it off. That way, you can set yourself up for a beautiful 2021.
 

As always, this process has two parts: The 2020 review today and setting yourself up for 2021 in two weeks’ time (early January). Your mission today is to close off 2020 for yourself.
 
 

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Task 1: Define achievement

 

On social media, I’ve seen people question the need for a review of 2020 altogether. “Don’t ask me for my achievements – even getting through this year is an achievement!” they say.
 

My reply: Exactly.
 

We need to stop looking only at material “success” in terms of money or jobs. Struggling with physical or mental health is an achievement. Getting to the end of a challenging year like 2020 is an achievement. Please keep this in mind when you do Task 2.
 

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Task 2: Closing off 2020 – the year review

 

It’s time for the actual review. Please set aside some time, get comfortable and get something to write. The process is:
 

1. Write down what went well
There were definitely a few good things this year as well! Write it all down. Also remember Task 1 and include the fact that you have got this far.
 

2. Write down what didn’t go well
Get it all on paper and be sure to feel the feelings associated with these things. Feel the pain, the anger, the mourning, the frustration.
 

3. Let it go
Once you’re done with the “feeling” part, take the 2nd piece of paper and either burn it (be safe though!) or tear it up and throw it into a flowing water like a river. Feel it all being washed away or going up in smoke.

How To Find Your Purpose When You’re Aimless


 

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People often tell me they don’t think they have a purpose: “I’m far too aimless,” or: “I just take life as it comes.” Others are multi-passionates and can’t believe that everything in their lives would come down to just one thing.
 

These statements are based on a few misconceptions which I’d like to help clarify for you. Your mission is to learn the way to your unique life purpose.
 
 

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Task 1: Your purpose is not what you think

 

Teachers and coaches often equate purpose with a job or something you do in life. This is why so many people think that purpose is not for them. They have multiple interests and frequently change direction.
 

The thing is, purpose is not something you do. Instead, purpose is the underlying reason why you do what you do.
 

Others believe your passion must be your purpose, but that’s not true either. The reason why I suggest prioritising passions in order to find purpose is that the frequency of pure joy is what leads you to your purpose. It opens you up to the required type of deep insight.
 

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Task 2: From aimless to filled with purpose

 

There’s more to this, and that’s the fact we’re never taught to have goals in life. Most people live by default and react to what’s happening to them, rather than taking charge and creating their lives. This is one thing coaching has taught me, long before I studied to become a coach myself.
 

Signs coaching might be good for you include:

  • You feel aimless
  • There are things you’ve been meaning to do for a long time
  • You don’t know your passion
  • You don’t know your purpose

The way to go about finding your purpose is to dare make your joy a priority. The easiest way to do this is through your passions, because this doesn’t require another person, it’s 100% you who creates your joy. You need this pure “you” energy to uncover your purpose.
 

I wish you a magical journey!