Who Owns You Really?


 

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This might sound crazy. After all, if you’re watching this video, you’re almost certainly not a slave physically owned by anyone else!
 

I’m not talking about actual slavery, but entirely different, subtle forms of ownership. In our day and age, this usually happens through money.
 

Your mission today is to become aware of who owns you, and then minimise the outside influence.
 
 

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Task 1: Become clear on who owns you

 

Of course we are no longer physically owned by someone who can literally buy and sell us, harm and even kill us. And yet there are people and organisations that have a claim on parts of your life.
 

If you’re employed, large parts of your time belong to your employer. If you pay off a mortgage or buy anything in installments, you have effectively given away power.
 

This isn’t always a bad thing, but it’s something you need to be aware of. Create a list of everything you’re paying off or owe.
 

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Task 2: Take back ownership

 

A bank can take fairly drastic measures against you if you default on loan payments or a mortgage. Here are some steps you can take to gain back control.
 

Check the list from Task 1 so you’re fully aware of who owns you – or part of you and your time.
 

  • Separate the wheat from the chaff: For example, if you have a small child, they have a claim on you but that’s not ownership, it’s a natural and temporary duty of care.
  • Follow the money: Some forms of lending are good (mortgages can make a lot of sense, depending on the circumstances). But if you live in your overdraft or have loans for items, you need to re-assess.
  • Get smart about your money: read books, take coaching, go to a financial advisor. Create a plan on how to take back control bit by bit. It won’t happen overnight, so you need long-term support.

Too Uncomfortable To Leave Your Comfort Zone?


 

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Some weeks ago, I argued that it depends on your circumstances whether you need to push yourself out of your comfort zone, or actually get comfortable in the first place.
 

I’d like to go a little deeper on that last part. I think it’s a widespread phenomenon that we’re just too busy, overwhelmed, or stressed to even consider doing something daring – such as, you know, prioritising a passion!
 

Your mission today is to create a comfort zone you’ll be able to leave.
 
 

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Task 1: What makes you uncomfortable?

 

Here’s a list of things that might make you uncomfortable; simply take what applies to you and disregard the rest.
 

1. Sleep
This is the most overlooked bit. Sleep requirements vary from person to person; anything from 5 to 9 hours is normal. Find yours and stick to it (there can be fairly dire consequences if you neglect this in the long run).
 

2. Overwhelm
Are you always bogged down by things you need to do and/or places you need to be, chores and meet-ups? By the way, what constitutes “too much” is entirely up to you. If you need a lot of recharging time, prune your obligations.
 

3. Unresolved issues
You might be uncomfortable because you carry trauma you never addressed, or deal with a physical illness and never go to the doctor. It’s time to give your mind, soul, and body the attention they deserve.
 

4. Lack of BEing
You’re not a human doing. Try to spend 15 minutes a day doing nothing. I’ve issued this challenge before, and I’m repeating it: try it for a week and see what it does!
 

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Task 2: Get uncomfortable in the right ways

 

Really, the first task falls under basic self care. You’d make the effort for loved ones without blinking an eyelid; aren’t you worth the same dedication?
 

Now you can look to leave the mental or emotional comfort zone by doing new things or shifting your focus to prioritising your passion(s). This is where you get Coaching, join a women’s group, or reach out to a teacher or mentor. You’ll find yourself and your priorities through interacting with others.

4 Ways To Get Into Action Mode


 

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It’s no secret that I adore Steven Pressfield. If you haven’t read The War of Art, Do the Work or his latest, Turning Pro yet, go and get them! They’re huge eye-openers and very actionable loving kicks-in-the-butt to get you going on what lights you up.
 

There’s one sentence in particular from Turning Pro that I’ve underlined five times in my copy: “The sure sign of an amateur is he has a million plans and they all start tomorrow.” Hands up who knows this phenomenon?
 

Your mission today is to break out of inertia and get into action mode.
 
 

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Task 1: Understand it’s not about how good you are

 

Here’s what “pro” doesn’t mean: It doesn’t mean that you have to make your passion your profession or business. You needn’t earn your living with it. Whilst this is definitely possible – and if it’s your dream, I’m cheering you on all the way – it’s not what “turning pro” refers to.
 

What does it refer to? Your attitude. It’s what I mean when I tell you to prioritise your passion. We have usefulness drummed into us from childhood, so if something isn’t any “use” in terms of making money, it automatically becomes an afterthought.
 

This idea is destroying our happiness.
 

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Task 2: Get into action mode

 

Your passion is what lights you up and also lights the way to your purpose. It deserves a “pro” attitude. Here are four ways to get there:
 

  1. Calculate how much time you spend on unnecessary things every day (social media, pleasing others, things you’d rather not do or could outsource). Eliminate these things.
  2. Get coaching. Seriously. Nothing gets you into action mode faster.
  3. Do one thing for your passion today. Just one. But it has to be today. As a bonus, schedule this step in your calendar.
  4. Find others who share your passion.

 

Make a decision, right now, that you’re a pro at your passion(s). And then start.

Find “Your Thing” Through Alignment


 

Abstract:
 

Let me start by asking a few hard questions.
 

Are you living, or just existing? Is life an exciting journey with you at the steering wheel, or are you drifting along and only hope you’ll arrive somewhere unscathed?
 

How about decisions: Are you good at making them? Do you sometimes worry if you’re on the right path in life? Do you wish there was some guidance, a way to know for sure?
 

Today’s mission is for you to establish a surefire guiding system through your life, and towards finding “your thing”.
 
 

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Task 1: What matters to you?

 

The magical guiding system is called your values. Now, unlike your beliefs, which are acquired throughout your life and can be changed, values are at the core of your being. They are who you are at the deepest level.
 

Start by looking at a list of values such as this one, and write down those that spontaneously speak to you. You can add others that aren’t on the list.
 

Then narrow down the list until you’re left with ca. 5 top values.
 
 

Task 2: Practise alignment

 

Get comfortable and take stock of your life. Is it aligned with your values? You can look at things such as your job, your relationships, the way you live, where you live and with whom. Also include your passion(s).
 

Now determine which adjustments you need. Being out of alignment with your values can have serious consequences, so do whatever it takes to fix any issues.
 

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Task 3: Find “your thing”

 

This task is about making it a habit to check everything against your values. Not sure if you should accept the job offer? Check if the work is aligned with your values. Facing a difficult decision? Check which option is more aligned with your values.
 

Values are a reliable compass through life. This applies to your passions as well, and if you use it consistently, it’ll light the way to “your thing” – your purpose.

Ditch The To-Do List And Get Shit Done


 

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Am I harping on about this? Probably. But it’s such a universal phenomenon, and it’s the bane of our existence: The feeling that we should do more.
 

The Should (with capital “s”).
 

We’re more stressed, dysfunctional, mentally unhealthy ever, and at the same time, we feel like a failure for not being perfect in every last area of life: Health, exercise, money, career, love, friendships, and of course looking amazing.
 

Here’s how to stop the madness, feel good about yourself, and get shit done.
 
 

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Task 1: Ditch the to-do list

 

As the title says, this is about kicking to the curb the favourite tool of modern times’ perfection tyranny: The to-do list. Just chuck it.
 

A to-do list is like a physical reminder of the all the “should”s in your life. It shows, black on white, what you haven’t accomplished yet – it’s a recipe for feeling bad about yourself!
 

Get rid of it, and do the following instead.
 
 

Task 2: Get smart about reminders

 

You may protest that your to-do list reminds you of things you need to do. I’m all for writing down tasks, but a to-do list is not the place for them.
 

If you haven’t done it yet, learn to use the calendar on your smartphone or your computer – bonus points if it synchs between your devices – and put in appointments, invites, and anything else you don’t want to forget.
 

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Task 3: Focus

 

Every day in the morning, pull out your calendar and check if you have any appointments that day. Once you have an idea, pick out two things to focus on.
 

Don’t make it more than two things, or maybe three. You’re allowed to do more, but only put two or three on your focus that absolutely have to get done. Also make sure one of them is a passion.
 

You’ll be suprised how much you get done, and how good you feel about yourself. Try it!