• What To Do When You Hate Your Life


     

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    Apologies for the sensationalist title. But many of us have been in situations where we didn’t like where things were going at all. It may have been an unhealthy relationship in its last stages, a bad job you feel trapped in, or a financial low you seemed unabled to dig yourself out of.
     

    Your mission today is to identify the low point in your life and find a way out.
     
     

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    Task 1: Audit your life

     

    I have a very detailed free Life Audit on my website, so if you have ten minutes to spare, I recommend you take that. Here’s a shortened version:
     

    Get a piece of paper and notes down how you would rate your life from 1-10 in the following categories.
     

    • Health
    • Finances
    • Job/Business
    • Relationships
    • Spirituality
    • Passions

     

    Make the ratings spontaneous, rather than overthinking them. Then identify the lowest area(s) and make a note of them.
     
     

    Task 2: Take measures

     

    You may not be able to up and leave your job instantly, but in my experience, there’s no such thing as a hopeless situation. Tackle your lowest-rated area of life first and identify the measures you could take to lift that rating significantly.
     

    This may seem insurmountable. The temptation to just cut and run can be overwhelming at this point, but please resist. Instead, get support in the form appropriate to your situation. Don’t try to do it all by yourself. Create an action plan and take the first step straightaway.
     

    What To Do When You Hate Your Life
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    Task 3: Look after yourself

     

    Don’t forget your own wellbeing! Self care is paramount in a situation like this. A negative situation in even just one area of your life can eat up huge amounts of energy and drag down everything else. You need to be in good shape mentally and emotionally to dig yourself out.
     

    You can change your life, and you’ll have more patience and stamina to stick it out if your cup is full.

  • Give Yourself Permission To Want


     

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    When I was little, my mum used to say: “Mr Want has died.” It wasn’t considered polite to express one’s will. Wanting was discouraged.
     

    It was well meant, but this kind of thinking is hugely damaging. People think that anyone who’s clear and vocal about what they want, must be selfish and ruthless.
     

    Your mission today is to allow yourself to truly want and desire, and to discover why this is the best thing you could do for your loved ones.
     
     

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    Task 1: What’s your story?

     

    Chances are you have acquired a few internal, subconscious “stories” about wanting over the course of your life. Your first task is to uncover them.
     

    Get comfortable, relax, and then finish the sentence, “I want…”, repeatedly. Make a note of what you spontaneously come up with, anything, even if it seems silly.
     

    Most of all, however, make a note of how you feel when you express what you want. This is a huge signpost towards your attitude to desire.
     
     

    Task 2: Become a receiver

     

    Connected to the negativity around desire, is the idea that giving is better than receiving. In reality, a balance is best, because receiving is just as important as giving.
     

    Make a conscious effort to become a good receiver. When someone pays you a compliment, say “thank you” (and nothing else). Whenever you receive money, express your gratitude. Give thanks for the food you nourish your body with, and so forth.
     

    Permission To Want
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    Task 3: Permission to want

     

    These tasks need to be repeated in order to truly effect change. Once you feel a lifting of the heaviness around the word “want”, it’s time to use it for yourself.
     

    Allow yourself to want, stop being ashamed of it. You weren’t born to play small. Set your loved ones an example of reaching for the stars. Nothing could be more inspiring, and it’ll set them up for more happiness, too.

  • How To Use Results To Get Motivated


     

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    It seems obvious: getting what we want motivates us to work on it more. People often say this about money (“Give me a million, and I’m going to manage it”). Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and you have to start managing what little money you have in order to create more.
     

    But how do you get motivated from the very start? In fact, there are several ways of doing this, and I’m going to introduce to you two of them.
     

    Your mission is to use results to get motivated to do [fill in the blank].
     
     

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    Task 1: Use results to get clarity

     

    Don’t worry, you needn’t “visualise” for this. For some reason, people seem to be afraid of visualisation, but what it really means is to fantasise or daydream! Anyone can do that.
     

    Imagine what you truly want to achieve. Picture your goal, or the passion you wish to prioritise in your life. Imagine a perfect “day in the life”, when you have actually prioritised your passion and achieved your goal. Picture every detail and use your senses as well as your emotions.
     

    This gives you a good idea of what it is you truly want. It helps you set and adjust your goals, to make sure you’re working on results that really matter to you.
     

    Use Results To Get Motivated
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    Task 2: Create results, fast

     

    Find a way to get a “quick win”. By that I don’t mean a shortcut that makes the whole thing meaningless. I mean a first, tangible results.
     

    When I got back into shape, I wanted to dance again. After a week of daily yoga / stretching for 5-10 minutes each day, I danced through a whole song without going out of breath. And I was hooked again.
     

    Results make you addicted, so create and aim for as many part-way results – milestones – as you can. You’ll never lack motivation to go forward.

  • “Don’t Be Silly!”


     

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    The title is a lie. I actually want you to be silly! Not just for some higher ideal of joy and fun, but also because it’s a proven way to access creativity, productivity and performance.
     

    I used to teach German as a foreign language to a group of business people who were rather serious and focused. When I asked them to write a silly story with “a witch and a crook” in it, the atmosphere completely changed within minutes. There was laughter, animated discussion, fun – and they retained the vocabulary from that particular lesson better than any other.
     

    That’s the power of silliness.
     
     

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    Task 1: Infuse silliness into your work

     

    Obviously, how much you can do depends on the type of work you do. However, it’s possible to bring in a little silliness almost everywhere. Try it when you’re stuck in a tedious tasks which requires a lot of focus.
     

    Start drawing silly pictures with numbers, reading the text of your report out loud (or in your head) in a funny voice, or run up and down the stairs sideways. This is proven to access different neural pathways and get the job done faster than without the silliness.
     

    As a bonus, you’ll be less tired and stressed at the end of the day!
     

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    Task 2: Silliness and passions

     

    Creativity is big with passions! If you have writer’s block, write something silly and laugh at yourself. Do whatever it takes to get your creative juices flowing again.
     

    Even if you practice for an exam or a sports performance, find a way to enjoy fun into it again. After all, that’s why you first started, isn’t it?
     

    You can’t solve a problem if you keep thinking the same way. Silliness snaps you out of it and into new, untapped potential, fast. Try it! It works every time.

  • What Are You Actually Committed To?

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    Years ago, my Coach asked me what I was committed to. My answer was: Living my best life, being joyful… But it wasn’t true. This was the time when I was still paying back my debts, and I was working all hours and had no time, money or energy for fun or much social interaction.
     

    My Coach pointed out that my only commitment was paying back my debts. This wasn’t good or bad, but it forced me to change my perception. Knowing what you’re committed to is the first step to being able to make changes.
     
     

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    Task 1: Study your results

     

    Your current life is the best indicator of what your commitments are. A little caveat: To an extent, what’s manifest in the present is always a result of past commitments, rather than present ones. However, the “past” could be as recent as last week.
     

    Look at how you spend your time, but also where your energy lies. What do you think about and focus on? This can give you a good idea of where your commitment actually is.
     
     

    Task 2: Correct your commitments

     

    Ask yourself if your current situation is where you want to be. If so, congratulations, keep doing what you’re doing.
     

    If not, then now’s the time to make adjustments. Write down what you’d like more of or less of. Don’t worry how you’re going to get there, just note what you wish was different.
     

    Next, figure out a way to implement these adjustments. Consider Coaching or another form of support, because it’s very hard to stick these things out on your own.
     

    What are you committed to?
     

    Task 3: Paint your ideal picture

     

    Where would you like your focus to be? This can be one or several things, but make it realistic (don’t overcommit yourself).
     

    Now you only need to put it into practice and work on adjusting your commitments. Once you’ve done this, your results will change automatically.

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