3 Steps To Dialling Up Your Happiness Meter


 

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Have you ever wondered why some people seem happier than others? You may think, d’oh, they’re probably rich and healthy. But that assumption doesn’t hold up to research.
 

If you’re like most people, you have experienced periods of intense happiness. However, that often doesn’t last, although circumstances might not have changed.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to increase your capacity for happiness.
 
 

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Task 1: The happiness thermostat

 

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln
 

I don’t think this is quite true, as happiness is not just a matter of the mind. However, it seems that we all have an internal happiness setting that we subconsciously strive to maintain. Gay Hendricks calls it the “Upper Limit”.
 

Your happiness tends to follow the setting of your own inner thermostat. It works both way: If something happens to make you very sad, after a while you’ll return to normal. Similarly, if something happens which lifts you above your usual happiness levels, you’ll eventually return to your personal setting.
 

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Task 2: 3 Steps to change your happiness habits

 

It’s as simple and as difficult as changing the settings on your happiness barometer. Simple, because it’s not hard to understand. Hard, because it’s like pedalling a bike uphill. You could call it your happiness habit.
 

Here are 3 steps to get you started:

  1. Pursue your passion. You know that one was coming, didn’t you? But you see, it works. It’s also an excellent way of detecting if something’s wrong.
  2. The Gratitude habit. Write down three or five things you’re grateful for every evening before you go to bed. Don’t just write it, though, really feel the emotion of gratitude.
  3. Get Coaching. Sound lame, coming from a Coach? I’m recommending it because Coaching is the best method for changing habits and sticking things out over the required period of time to make the change permanent.

Why You Should Stay Within Your Comfort Zone


 

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Wait, what? Isn’t Coaching about helping you to do the thing you’re scared of?
 

In part, that’s true, but there’s a point where we become so conditioned to seeking discomfort, we no longer know how to enjoy and be happy. Let’s pick this apart and find the golden medium for you.
 
 

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Task 1: Which Comfort Zone is yours?

 

Here are a few examples of different types of comfort zones.
 

Introverts: Depend on their comfort zone to function, to recover from human interaction.
 

HSPs: Similar to introverts, they need to calm their overstimulated minds, and also their physical bodies, to avoid burnout.
 

Literal comfort: You have a decent home, a decent income, decent relationships, not much to strive for. That’s the dangerous one and could signal that you need a little push.
 

Now think of whether you spend enough time in your comfort zone, or whether you got a little too comfortable. Where do you stand right now?
 
 

Task 2: If you need more comfort in your life

 

Signs: Lack of sleep, feeling nervous, unable to sit still and do nothing (try it for 10 minutes!), short temper, inability to relax.
 

Remedy: Self care. This means actually caring for your Self, not piling up more to-dos! If you crave hot chocolate, then that’s your self care.
 

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Task 3: If you need to get out of your comfort zone

 

Signs: You haven’t done anything for the first time in a long time, you haven’t made new friends in the past year, you haven’t been pursuing your passion in more than a week.
 

Remedy: Enlist a coach. Change up your routine. Sign up for a course. Join a group or club and meet new people. Do one thing you’re scared of.
 

Balance the comfort you need and deserve with the joy and excitement of the new. The secret to a joyful life is constantly reviewing and adjusting this process.

If Not Now, When? 3 Steps Towards Your Best Life


 

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Happy second half of 2019!
 

If you’re like me (and around 2% of the population), you’ve got written goals you review every quarter. And if you’re not like me, today is a great time to start writing down goals.
 

But this isn’t just about dreaming and writing down. This is about taking action. A goal you don’t work to achieve, remains a dream.
 

Your mission is to set/review your goals and take the first steps towards your best life.
 
 

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Task 1: Lose the excuse

 

When it comes to setting goals and taking action, some people will always have a reason not to do it. The truth is, you’ll always find a reason (read: an excuse) if you want to – and similarly, you’ll always find a way if you’re really determined.
 

None of us is immortal. The only time you have is now, this day. If you don’t pursue your passion and create your best life today, your contribution to this world – your joy and love – might be lost forever.
 

You may not be able to perfectly prioritise your passion to the exclusion of everything else, but perfection is not the goal. Just getting started is.
 

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Task 2: Your goals and next steps to your best life

 

Step 1: Review your goals. If you don’t have any written goals yet, set goals and write them down for every area of your life.

Step 2: Determine what you’ll achieve in the next 90 days (three months). Break every goal down into a partial goal you can achieve within these three months.

Step 3: Write down one step you’ll do today, or within 72 hours. For each goal, write down this first step, and once this video is over, start putting that step into practice.
 

The 72 hours are important: if you don’t take action within that period, the chances you ever will are practically zero. As Nike put it, just do it!

Does Money Kill Your Joy?


 

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In my yearly survey, Wild Spirits regularly tell me that money is their biggest obstacle to success. Yet my money-related features are always the least viewed of all. One member of the Wild Spirits community told me: “You’re all about joy and passion, Sibylle, and to me, finances are the opposite of these things.”
 

I relate. In fact, I used to think the exact same thing, before I found a better way. Your mission today is to make finances a passion, or at least, to bring joy to your money management.
 
 

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Task 1: How does money kill your joy?

 

No, I won’t let you get away with “money just sucks”. Money buys life-saving medical equipment, trips to exciting new places, and tickets to your favourite musician’s concert.
 

Money is brilliant.
 

D’you know when money sucks? When there isn’t enough of it. It’s time you get to the reason for it – not your low-paying job or the cost of childcare, the real reason.
 

  • How was money talked about when you were a child?
  • What do you think about rich people?
  • What difference would an extra 100,000 make to the passion(s) in your life?

 

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Task 2: Rewrite and reframe

 

It’s time to rewrite your money story. Look at your beliefs and start poking holes into them.
 

Then, it’s time to associate finances with joy. There are many ways of doing this; here are a few suggestions:
 

  • Get online banking and check your savings regularly, watching them grow with the interest.
  • Make a celebration of your monthly budgeting session with tea, candles, a treat, some quality time with your partner, dreams of the future etc.
  • Get a beautiful new wallet in gorgeous colours to give your cash a pretty home.
  • Try the envelope system of budgeting (google it) and get pretty colourful envelopes for it.
  • Have a monthly “Play” budget to blow on something fun.

The Biological Reason Why We Don’t Have Time


 

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Let me start by saying that yes, we DO have time. There are a few of us who really are busy every minute of every day, but they’re in the minority.
 

When we count the hours we spend on sleep, household and other chores, and work, we’re usually left with an astonishingly – and frankly, embarrassingly – large number of hours of “free time”. How come we never have any left?
 

There’s a biological reason for this, in fact! Your mission today is to learn about this reason, and learn how to outsmart your own brain.
 
 

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Task 1: Why you don’t have time

 

The largest part of our brains could be called the rational brain. It’s for reasoning, making decisions, logic. However, the most powerful, because oldest part (from the standpoint of evolution) is the limbic brain, which could be called the emotional brain.
 

The rational brain tells you that you need to get the housework done so you can pursue your passion. The limbic brain has no concept of time and seduces you to scroll through Facebook instead or spend the evening on the couch watching Netflix.
 

Get it? The limbic brain doesn’t understand time, it only understands emotion. It’s like a little child that wants everything now. To try and overrule it with your rational brain is like fighting a war against yourself.
 

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Task 2: Work with your brain, not against it

 

To counteract this, you need to get on your limbic brain’s good side. Feed it plenty of emotional rewards. This is why you need to prioritise your passion!
 

When you feel compelled to watch a movie instead of painting, dig for the emotion behind this impulse. What’s your limbic brain trying to feel? Maybe it’s cosiness and comfort. Give that to yourself through Self Care. Then surprise the limbic brain with the joy of pursuing your passion.