3 Ways To Use The (Super)Power Of Softness


 

Abstract:
 

Superheroes, school of hard knocks, overcoming obstacles like a boss, those are the ideals that surround us. And it’s sure admirable how humans can succeed in the face of adversity.
 

However, not all of us are inclined to tough it out. Some have fears or anxiety for any number of reasons: health issues, traumatic experiences, personality. Are we doomed to mediocrity, then?
 

Far from it. Your mission today is to learn 3 ways of using the power of softness and joy.
 
 

Sign up for Wild Spirits News for free weekly Coaching magic, resources and exclusive offers! Simply fill in the form:
 






Wild Spirits News

You’ll receive a weekly newsletter. Unsubscribe at any time.
I’ll never share your details.


 

Task 1: Learn the power of softness

 

We’re so brainwashed by the tough-hero ideal, we feel inferior for our reluctance to headbutt with life’s challenges. Therefore, you need to counter-brainwash yourself first.
 

Have you ever seen ivy grow through a wall? Which one do you think is tougher?
 

Water can hollow out a rock by steadily dripping on it. That takes a long time, though – but water also has the capability of flowing around the rock.
 

Softness is more flexible and finds solutions where toughness keeps knocking its head against the wall.
 

power of softness

Photo by Kaboompics on pixabay.com


 

Task 2: Ways to use your superpower

 

Here are a few ways to make use of the astonishing power of softness.
 

  • Listen to yourself. If there’s somehing you absolutely don’t want to do, perhaps delegate it, pay someone to do it for you, get help. You could also consider doing it yourself, but in a different way.
  • Is there something want to do but never seem to get around to? It won’t happen unless you plan for it. When’s the last time you magically “had time” all of a sudden? You never did and never will, so determine a day and time and schedule that sh*t.
  • Discover the magic of 15 minutes. You can do anything for 15 minutes! Of course you won’t finish the task, but you can make a start. Try 15 minutes of exercise, or of pursuing your passion. Set your alarm and try it. You’ll be floored by the impact.

3 Ways Your Passions Can Cause Burnout


 

Abstract:
 

Wait, what? I promote prioritising your passion(s) and now I’m telling you your passions can cause burnout?
 

Why yes, they can. It’s a subject not often talked about, but it has massive implications for those who seek joy and fulfilment in life – those who want to live with purpose.
 

Your mission today is to learn 3 ways your passions can cause burnout.
 
 

Sign up for Wild Spirits News for free weekly Coaching magic, resources and exclusive offers! Simply fill in the form:
 






Wild Spirits News

You’ll receive a weekly newsletter. Unsubscribe at any time.
I’ll never share your details.


 

1. You treat your passion(s) like chores

 

I often suggest scheduling your passions the same way you schedule a doctor’s appointment in order to create space for them. What this doesn’t mean is that your passion should be treated like just another chore to check off your endless to-do list. That’s counterproductive and can burn you out in no time.
 

Remember passions are about joy. Give yourself time and don’t expect “productivity”. Most passions follow cycles, with phases where you reflect or aren’t very inspired, alternating with times when everything seems to flow by itself.
 
 

2. You have too much going on

 

A lot of us already have too much on their plates. They work, look after their families, go to yoga, attend social events… There never seem to be enough minutes in a day.
 

If you think about it, it seems insane to insert time for passions into an already busy schedule. Yet that’s what most people try to do, and it’s a shortcut to burnout.
 

Prioritising passions means to simplify and decelerate the pace of your life overall. Opt out of anything that isn’t essential. Create the space first, then fill it with passion.
 

passions can cause burnout

Photo by Neslihan Gunaydin on unsplash.com


 

3. You try to do it all by yourself

 

That’s probably the most common mistake. We have stopped thinking in terms of community. Yet nothing is more inspiring and keeps your passions fresh as well as people to share them with.
 

Look for groups, workshops, online communities, and get involved. It’s like blowing on a flame and will give you endless ideas for your passions.

The Unsexy Truth About Everything


 

Abstract:
 

The online space is full of offers that promise you instant riches and instant transformation. Do you know why this is all you seem to see?
 

Let me tell you what happened when I decided to speak truth and offered articles and videos about the concept of baby steps, about long-term goals and persistence: Crickets! Nobody viewed or read any of it. People want the “Fix everything” button, not the unsexy truth, the process of actually revolutionising your life.
 

Your mission is to realise how much you can accomplish, and to learn how.
 
 

Sign up for Wild Spirits News for free weekly Coaching magic, resources and exclusive offers! Simply fill in the form:
 






Wild Spirits News

You’ll receive a weekly newsletter. Unsubscribe at any time.
I’ll never share your details.


 

Task 1: Ask for the “why”, not the “what”

 

Have you ever wondered why instant everything is such an enticing promise? After all, most people agree that the most valuable things in their lives are things that took some time to build.
 

I believe the appeal is twofold:

  1. Easy is better than difficult. If there’s a magic button, I want to know where it is!
  2. We don’t trust ourselves enough to believe we’ll stick with consistant effort.

Ask yourself why you want what you want. For example, do you actually want riches, or is it the freedom that comes with being financially independent and not having to work? Go deep and find out what truly makes you tick.
 

unsexy truth

Photo by vaun0815 on unsplash.com


 

Task 2: Learn the unsexy truth and find that it’s amazing

 

The unsexy truth is that most things worth achieving take time and effort. What’s great about it is that you can definitely do it – anyone can take baby steps, after all.
 

The only reason you’re not doing it is that you think it’ll bring slow and boring results. In fact, it’s what transformations are made of! This is where passions come in. They keep you in a “high vibration” and enchant the journey with magic.
 

To ensure you’ll really stick with it, get a Coach and keep focusing on your passion(s). It’s a combination which makes it almost impossible for you to fail.

Do You Live Your Life Or Is It Happening To You?


 

Abstract:
 

Humans are notoriously bad at creating happiness. Most think happiness comes from success or from security and material possessions. However, studies show that that’s not the case.
 

In fact, it seems that the happiest people are those who feel in control of their lives and the unhappiest feel they need to cope with what happens to them. Your mission is to find out to what extent you have control and how to increase the control you have.
 
 

Sign up for Wild Spirits News for free weekly Coaching magic, resources and exclusive offers! Simply fill in the form:
 






Wild Spirits News

You’ll receive a weekly newsletter. Unsubscribe at any time.
I’ll never share your details.


 

Task 1: To what extent do you live your life?

 

Gurus love talking about “creating” your life so much, the phrase has become meaningless. I suggest to think of it as living actively, rather than reacting passively. Here are some indicators of how actively you participate in your life experience.
 

  • When was the last time you made a decision that scared you?
  • When was the last time you said “No” to someone?
  • How often in the last five years have you set a goal that took longer than a year to accomplish, and then actually achieved it?
  • When was the last time you did something fun/beneficial/meaningful you had never done before?

 

live your life

Photo by Caique Silva on unsplash.com


 

Task 2: Shift to control

 

You often hear me quoting Stephen Covey, who pointed out that we should focus on what we have control over: our own lives, our own reactions, our decisions. He, too, said that people who do this tend to be happier than those who focus on things outside their control.
 

How can you take back more control? Here are a few things you can do today to live your life actively.
 

  • Set beautiful, wild, exciting, over-the-top goals. Start working on them today.
  • Get a Coach. Seriously.
  • Connect to your emotions; check in several times a day and take them seriously.
  • Choose three things or people currently in your life to say “no” to.
  • Do or plan doing something new today.

How To Use Your Body Signals As Guidance


 

Abstract:
 

Life can be hectic. By the end of some days, we’re so frazzled, we don’t know where our keys are, never mind our purpose. That’s a shame because we possess an unfailing compass. Harnessed correctly, it can help you course-correct and find your feet in seconds.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to use body signals as guidance.
 
 

Sign up for Wild Spirits News for free weekly Coaching magic, resources and exclusive offers! Simply fill in the form:
 






Wild Spirits News

You’ll receive a weekly newsletter. Unsubscribe at any time.
I’ll never share your details.


 

Task 1: Stop missing the broad hints

 

Imagine you have someone’s best interests in mind. You see them stumbling and taking wrong turns, and you shout: “Yoo-hoo! Over here! Let me just show you…,” but they keep ignoring you.
 

That’s how our bodies feel about us.
 

Think about a decision, either a recent one or one you’re facing now. Take a deep breath and consciously ask your body what you should do. Be patient; it might take a while, but eventually you will feel distinctly what the decision should be.
 
 

Task 2: Look into NLP

 

You don’t need to become a master practitioner, but NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) can really pay off. Look it up online, read a book or two or even do a course. Among many other things, it teaches you to utilise your body signals as guidance, to help with your everyday life.
 

Want a taster? If you can’t decide between several options – such as the price to ask for something you’re selling – write your options on different pieces of paper and lay them out across the floor. Stand on each piece of paper in turn. Your will know which option is right for you.
 

body signals as guidance

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on unsplash.com


 

Task 3: Body signals as guidance on the go

 

Stressed? Overwhelmed? Most stress comes from our minds jumping ahead into the future, or alternatively dwelling on past occurrences. In contrast, our bodies are always in the present moment. Use this fact.
 

Take a deep breath and do a quick mindfulness scan of your body. Ease any tension, drop your shoulders. Acknowledge tiredness or tingling. Act on any urgent body signals, and then go about your business again.