• Are We Addicted To “Instant Everything”?


     

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    When I first moved abroad, I wrote letters to my friends. I often had to wait for a reply for two weeks, and by then, I had moved on from what my initial letter had been about. It’s so much nicer to send an email or FB message and have my answer within hours, sometimes minutes.
     

    If I want to read a book, I can order and download it to my Kindle immediately. It’s great, but this culture of “instant everything” also has its downsides.
     

    Your mission today is to find the right balance between instant and long-term in your life.
     
     

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    Task 1: Read your “instantometer”

     

    Okay, I made that word up! But it’s important to know where you stand before you can make changes.
     

    Questions to ask yourself:
     

    • When was the last time you took on a project that took longer than a few weeks or months to complete?
    • On average, how much time do you spend per week on Quadrant II activities according to Stephen Covey (things that are important, but not urgent, such as health or relationships)?

     

    This will help you identify how much your life has been taken over by “instant everything”. It’ll also show you where you can start making changes.
     

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    Task 2: Make room for long-term

     

    Stephen Covey says about Quadrant II that it’s the easiest to skip, because it’s not urgent. But if you neglect it for long enough, it’ll come back to bite you (your health, once ruined, will take a lot of time and money to fix; broken relationships can cause a lot of suffering, etc).
     

    I suggest you take two steps:
     

    1. Schedule in time for self care, relationships, exercise etc.
    2. Start at least one thing that’ll take you a long time to learn or complete. A lot of passions lend themselves to this (such as learning a language, or playing an instrument, or a sport).
  • Do You Need To Hit Rock Bottom?


     

    Abstract:
     

    We all love inspirational stories. I used to sometimes think, if I had something so strong to motivate me, I’d do it too.
     

    But does it need something drastic to get us humans going? Do you have to be in the gutter to find the motivation to change? The answer is no, and your mission today is to find out how to get yourself motivated without needing a catastrophe first.
     
     

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    Task 1: Learn about the nature of motivation

     

    Motivation is intrinsic. That means it can never come from the outside. No coach can ever motivate you, or anybody else.
     

    What disciplines like psychology have found out is that motivation is helped by certain actions and ways of thinking. Here are some examples:
     

    1. Seeing the glass as half full. This is against our very nature as humans, because historically, from a survival point of view, we needed to pay attention to anything alarming first.
    2. Taking consistent action. Consistency is the key here, and surprisingly it has been found that for motivation to kick in, it makes no difference how big those steps are.
    3. Getting support. Humans are social beings. You’re meant to work with others.

     
     

    Task 2: Find your why

     

    Science has proven that we don’t do anything just because we know it’s the right thing. Healthy eating and exercise, anyone? Exactly.
     

    We do things because they make us feel something. If you find an emotional reason – not a rational one – for doing something, and truly tap into that emotion, you’ll feel motivated to do it. Try it out!
     

    Rock Bottom
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    Task 3: Create and implement your strategy

     

    Now it’s time to convert the insights from Task 1 into a plan. Here are some ways of doing this.
     

    1. Positive attitude: It doesn’t mean being naive. Train yourself to see the ray of light, the opportunity, the gift in anything. It’s just that, mental training.
    2. Consistent action: Here’s where a Coach comes in. Accountability and specially designed processes help you stick with a course of action.
    3. Support: Join a group or class, find likeminded people online or in real life, and connect.
  • Weather Any Storm With This Simple Technique


     

    Abstract:
     

    There was a time in my life when so many good things happened. Everything seemed to come my way, and I couldn’t believe my luck. I loved every minute of it. Then suddenly, I got very cranky and felt low. What had happened?
     

    I realised I’d been so busy enjoying my good fortune and celebrating, that I’d taken zero quiet time for myself. This was taking a toll. Self Care is important, whatever we go through in life.
     

    My oversight could have been easily prevented, had I practised something I’ve since perfected. I call it “checking in”, and your mission today is to learn how to check in with yourself to keep yourself balanced.
     
     

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    Task 1: Checking in

     

    Here’s how checking in works:
     

    Place your feet on the ground and imagine you are rooted in the earth (this is called grounding). Relax and take a few deep breaths.
     

    Then ask your body how it feels. Do you feel any tension, pressure, cold, heat?
     

    Next, ask how your mind/soul feel. Are you tired? High in energy? What emotions are present? Excitement, happiness, sadness?
     

    Weather Any Storm With This Simple Technique
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    Task 2: Set yourself up for success

     

    Why does checking in work? Because excitement or stress can transport us either into the past or the future. Our thoughts are elsewhere, but our bodies are always right here and in this moment. Checking in roots us in our bodies, and therefore in the here and now.
     

    It’s easy to forget this just when you need it the most, so set up a routine to check in, at least once a day, or twice a day morning and evening. You can do this anywhere and it doesn’t take long.
     

    This prevents you from overloading your system either with stress or positive overwhelm, and makes you more resilient and calm to face whatever life sends your way.

  • What’s Your Type?


     

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    Don’t worry, I’m not starting to give romantic advice! I’m talking about your “productivty style”, the way you work.
     

    The reason this is important is that our society tends to judge everyone by the same measure. This is great for people who fit into this idea, and not so good for others.
     

    Your mission is to identify your very own productivity type, and to learn how to make the most of it.
     
     

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    Task 1: Which one’s you?

     

    Roughly speaking, there are three different types. I call them the sprinter, the stayer, and the seasonal worker.
     

    To some extent, everyone’s everything, but with most people, one of the types is more dominant than the others. Their characteristics are as follows.
     

    • Sprinters start out with a lot of enthusiasm, get a lot done in a short time. Then they might be losing steam further down the line.
    • Stayers are the consistent types our society loves and rewards. They plod along reliably at work and get consistent high grades in school. They may not be geniuses in any one area, but you can depend on their consistency.
    • Seasonal workers work experience phases of high energy when they burst with enthusiasm and productivity. Then they drop off the face of the earth, only to resurface at a later point with another bout of insane productivity.

     

    What's your type?
    Steam by Jack Anstey

     

    Task 2: Your type doesn’t define you

     

    There’s no good or bad in either of these, unless you take them to the extreme. Obviously, consistency seems desirable, but it can also lead to lifelong mediocrity if it isn’t punctuated by periods of high inspiration.
     

    The key to making the most of this is twofold:
     

    1. Use your strengths, and
    2. Get support in your weak areas.

     

    Research shows that it’s much more effective to enhance what you’re good at. Enlist the support of a coach – or a friend who complements your strengths to balance your weaknesses.
     

    I promise, you won’t know yourself!

  • What To Do When You Hate Your Life


     

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    Apologies for the sensationalist title. But many of us have been in situations where we didn’t like where things were going at all. It may have been an unhealthy relationship in its last stages, a bad job you feel trapped in, or a financial low you seemed unabled to dig yourself out of.
     

    Your mission today is to identify the low point in your life and find a way out.
     
     

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    Task 1: Audit your life

     

    I have a very detailed free Life Audit on my website, so if you have ten minutes to spare, I recommend you take that. Here’s a shortened version:
     

    Get a piece of paper and notes down how you would rate your life from 1-10 in the following categories.
     

    • Health
    • Finances
    • Job/Business
    • Relationships
    • Spirituality
    • Passions

     

    Make the ratings spontaneous, rather than overthinking them. Then identify the lowest area(s) and make a note of them.
     
     

    Task 2: Take measures

     

    You may not be able to up and leave your job instantly, but in my experience, there’s no such thing as a hopeless situation. Tackle your lowest-rated area of life first and identify the measures you could take to lift that rating significantly.
     

    This may seem insurmountable. The temptation to just cut and run can be overwhelming at this point, but please resist. Instead, get support in the form appropriate to your situation. Don’t try to do it all by yourself. Create an action plan and take the first step straightaway.
     

    What To Do When You Hate Your Life
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    Task 3: Look after yourself

     

    Don’t forget your own wellbeing! Self care is paramount in a situation like this. A negative situation in even just one area of your life can eat up huge amounts of energy and drag down everything else. You need to be in good shape mentally and emotionally to dig yourself out.
     

    You can change your life, and you’ll have more patience and stamina to stick it out if your cup is full.

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