• What Would You Do For Free?


     

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    In a workshop I attended recently, I was confronted with an intriguing idea. Rather than “working on what brings you money”, the trainer told us to make money doing what we’d do for free.
     

    What a shift in thinking! I was brought up with the belief that you need to earn money doing a job that’s in demand. You know, a serious job in an office! I also grew up with the belief that people who work on what they love, end up broke.
     
     

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    Doing it for free?

     

    First of all: No, you don’t have to earn your living with your passion. You can put it front and centre in any number of other ways. But if you do want to make money with it, then it’s definitely possible.
     

    To do this, you need to get over the idea that you can’t charge for your work just because you love doing it. This belief goes back to the kind of childhood conditioning I mentioned in the beginning. What nonsense!
     

    You deserve to live in abundance. Above all, you deserve to be paid for your work, your training, your time, everything you’ve put into the product or service you’re selling. It’s definitely worth the money.
     

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    A different perspective

     

    Another point is that your work will be valued more if you charge appropriately. A colleague of mine doubled her Coaching rates. While she lost a few clients, the ones who still signed up with her, were so much more committed that their results skyrocketed.
     

    People will take you seriously if you take yourself seriously, as well as your work. One way of showing your self-worth is by the price tag you put on your work. Value is also expressed in money in this day and age, it’s a simple fact of life.

  • How To Actually Change Your Life


     

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    Statistics on people who set out to make a big change, are discouraging. Turns out you can set out to change your life with the best intentions, and still fail at making it last.
     

    I’m one of the few who managed to implement changes in the long term, more than once in my life. I’m not superhuman nor do I have above-average willpower (on the contrary), I simply know an approach that works.
     
     

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    Which type is you?

     

    When it comes to change, there are two types of people. The first type gets all enthusiastic, implements dramatic, sweeping changes all at once, and eventually can’t keep it up.
     

    The other type knows they need to change something, they want the change, but get so overwhelmed by this enormous task that they go into limbo and end up not changing anything.
     

    Then there’s a third, small group of people who successfully change their lives. What are they doing differently?
     

    Change your life
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    The change formula

     

    The successful way to change your life has two parts:
     

    1. One small change a day. Start by writing down your desired big change. Then break it down into baby steps and never plan more than a week ahead. If you’d like to eat better, do something small and repeat that small daily step until it’s a habit. Then tackle the next change, and so forth.
    2. Get support. It’s not true you have no willpower, it’s genuinely hard to be consistent and change your life in our hectic modern times. Find a group of people working on the same goal, like an online community. Get coaching. Buddy up with a friend. Whatever works for you, do it, and don’t think you can do it all on your own.

     

    Put a reminder into your calendar three months from now. At that point, take stock – you’ll be surprised to see how far these tiny daily changes have taken you!

  • “But I’m Not Unhappy!”


     

    Abstract:
     

    When I was stuck in limbo and withdrawal mode, I’d defensively claim that life was actually quite good. “I’m not unhappy,” I told myself.
     

    Deep down, though, part of me lay dormant. My clients tell me similar things: that they have a happy relationship, a great family, a good job – and yet it’s like they’re burying part of themselves, the part that makes them joyful.
     

    Joy through the people in our lives is wonderful and important. But it’s also crucial to find joy in ourselves, and the easiest way to access this is passion.
     
     

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    Passion detective

     

    If you’re in denial or avoidance mode, it can feel like you’re not really passionate about anything. To uncover your passion(s), ask yourself what you love, or used to love.
     

    You may not come up with anything exciting, but if it’s something you enjoy, that’s a start. Try and pinpoint exactly what it is you like about it.
    If you enjoy walks in the woods, it might be because they calm you. Or maybe you love plants and animals? Your answers can point you towards the thing or things you’re truly passionate about.
     

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    Don’t settle for “not unhappy”

     

    Simply getting by isn’t enough to show for when it comes to your life. This is your creation and what you’ll leave behind.
     

    It’s so tempting to slide into the familiar, the comfortable. After all, everyone else is doing it! Society tells us a family, friends and a job are enough, but in truth, life has many different facets. There’s also personal fulfilment, creativity, passion and purpose.
     

    Don’t give up and don’t give in. Be relentless in your pursuit of what lights you up. This is what’ll create the moments you’ll remember when you’re old – or the regrets you feel for not living your purpose.

  • Mindset: Changing Your Brain’s Software


     

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    When you listen to some self-improvement gurus, you’d think a “mindset” is a set of PowerPoint slides that you install in your brain. They ask you to “develop a can-do mindset” or to “create an abundance mindset” by practicing gratitude or saying affirmations.
     

    Don’t get me wrong – gratitude is indeed a powerful tool for enhancing your life. Affirmations can be very helpful when used correctly, but a “mindset” doesn’t change at the drop of a hat.
     

    I’d like to explore what the term really means, and how to go about adopting a mindset of your choosing.
     
     

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    What exactly is a mindset?

     

    You probably have an idea already when you hear the word “mindset”. According to the dictionary, it’s “the established set of attitudes held by someone.” The crucial point is that a mindset is established – it’s been grown and cultivated over some time.
     

    This means two things:

    1. You don’t fail for being unable to change your mindset immediately following a new insight.
    2. To establish a different mindset, requires a long-term approach.

    This also means that you need to think carefully about the mindset(s) you wish to adopt! It’s better to be certain about something which takes time and effort to establish.
     

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    Is a new mindset worth it?

     

    Then why go to all the trouble at all? The answer is, because it’s worth it when it comes to unhelpful ideas such as “only bad people have money” or “The real world doesn’t leave much room for passion.”
     

    To change your mindset, you need to relentlessly brainwash yourself:

    • Read literature which reinforces your desired new mindset.
    • Surround yourself with people who share this mindset.
    • Get support from a Coach to hold you accountable.
    • Try techniques like journalling or affirmations.
    • Most of all, stick with it for at least 90 days to see any lasting changes.
  • What’s Your Desire? Ask Your Body


     

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    When a trainer in a workshop asked: “What do you want?” it sounded familiar. As a Coach I use this question for goalsetting and creating action plans.
     

    But the trainer then went on to explain that she wasn’t interested in what we “think” we want (such as a home and security), but our deepest desires.
     

    We went on to explore the difference between wants and desires at some length, and it turns out to be a very relevant differentiation for pursuing one’s passion as well.
     
     

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    Want or desire?

     

    Wants are on the mental and emotional level, and they can change. You may want a certain type of house and then realise your family needs a different house, so you change your mind and your “want”.
     

    Desire happens on the physical level, just like sexual desire does. Our body gives us all kinds of feedback, but we’re not brought up to listen to or even recognise these signals.
     

    Desire
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    Learn your desire

     

    It’s possible to learn to tune into your desire, but you’ll need some patience. Here are 4 steps for you:
     

    1. Check in with your body
    Three times a day, check in with your body. Look for physical clues and signs for your body’s “mood”, such as tension or heaviness.
     

    2. Learn your body’s language
    Next, use physical feedback to make decisions. Think of your options and observe your body’s reaction. You’ll notice your body is always spot-on!
     

    3. Ask and listen
    Now ask your body what it needs and listen to the answer (a nap? A hug?). Do the same with your mind, soul and spirit.
     

    3. Discover your desires
    Once you’ve mastered these steps, you’ll be able to tune into your body to dicover your deepest desires. These are the things to pay attention to, the ones that are worth any effort.

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