• Who Owns You Really?


     

    Abstract:
     

    This might sound crazy. After all, if you’re watching this video, you’re almost certainly not a slave physically owned by anyone else!
     

    I’m not talking about actual slavery, but entirely different, subtle forms of ownership. In our day and age, this usually happens through money.
     

    Your mission today is to become aware of who owns you, and then minimise the outside influence.
     
     

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    Task 1: Become clear on who owns you

     

    Of course we are no longer physically owned by someone who can literally buy and sell us, harm and even kill us. And yet there are people and organisations that have a claim on parts of your life.
     

    If you’re employed, large parts of your time belong to your employer. If you pay off a mortgage or buy anything in installments, you have effectively given away power.
     

    This isn’t always a bad thing, but it’s something you need to be aware of. Create a list of everything you’re paying off or owe.
     

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    Task 2: Take back ownership

     

    A bank can take fairly drastic measures against you if you default on loan payments or a mortgage. Here are some steps you can take to gain back control.
     

    Check the list from Task 1 so you’re fully aware of who owns you – or part of you and your time.
     

    • Separate the wheat from the chaff: For example, if you have a small child, they have a claim on you but that’s not ownership, it’s a natural and temporary duty of care.
    • Follow the money: Some forms of lending are good (mortgages can make a lot of sense, depending on the circumstances). But if you live in your overdraft or have loans for items, you need to re-assess.
    • Get smart about your money: read books, take coaching, go to a financial advisor. Create a plan on how to take back control bit by bit. It won’t happen overnight, so you need long-term support.
  • 4 Ways To Get Into Action Mode


     

    Abstract:
     

    It’s no secret that I adore Steven Pressfield. If you haven’t read The War of Art, Do the Work or his latest, Turning Pro yet, go and get them! They’re huge eye-openers and very actionable loving kicks-in-the-butt to get you going on what lights you up.
     

    There’s one sentence in particular from Turning Pro that I’ve underlined five times in my copy: “The sure sign of an amateur is he has a million plans and they all start tomorrow.” Hands up who knows this phenomenon?
     

    Your mission today is to break out of inertia and get into action mode.
     
     

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    Task 1: Understand it’s not about how good you are

     

    Here’s what “pro” doesn’t mean: It doesn’t mean that you have to make your passion your profession or business. You needn’t earn your living with it. Whilst this is definitely possible – and if it’s your dream, I’m cheering you on all the way – it’s not what “turning pro” refers to.
     

    What does it refer to? Your attitude. It’s what I mean when I tell you to prioritise your passion. We have usefulness drummed into us from childhood, so if something isn’t any “use” in terms of making money, it automatically becomes an afterthought.
     

    This idea is destroying our happiness.
     

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    Task 2: Get into action mode

     

    Your passion is what lights you up and also lights the way to your purpose. It deserves a “pro” attitude. Here are four ways to get there:
     

    1. Calculate how much time you spend on unnecessary things every day (social media, pleasing others, things you’d rather not do or could outsource). Eliminate these things.
    2. Get coaching. Seriously. Nothing gets you into action mode faster.
    3. Do one thing for your passion today. Just one. But it has to be today. As a bonus, schedule this step in your calendar.
    4. Find others who share your passion.

     

    Make a decision, right now, that you’re a pro at your passion(s). And then start.

  • Get Set For The Last 3 Months Of 2019


     

    Abstract:
     

    ¾ of 2019 are over! Maybe you’re flying and your goals for the year are well underway. Maybe you lost track of them and feel too ashamed to even look. Or perhaps you never set goals in the first place?
     

    It doesn’t matter where you stand, if you just bear with me, I’ll show you how you can make the most of the last three months of 2019.
     
     

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    Task 1: The whys and wherefores of goals

     

    Why would you set goals? Because the 2% of people who have written goals they review regularly, are by far the most successful, happy, and content humans on the planet.
     

    Let’s break this down.
     

    • Have goals: “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” -Jim Rohn
    • Written: It’s not enough to decide to do something. There’s magic in putting it in writing.
    • Regular reviews: Goals are achieved, or need an extension, or become irrelevant. Set regular reminders (a few weeks ago, I talked about using your calendar!) to review and update your goals.

     

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    Task 2: Celebrate your goals review

     

    This task is twofold: First, take some time and get comfortable. Light some candles if you like, put on soft music, and if you’re part of a couple, absolutely involve your partner in this. Then do the following.
     

    1. If you don’t have written goals yet: Do the Life Audit and afterwards, set yourself 1 or 2 goals per life area, that will improve your score in that area.
    2. If you have written goals: Put them in front of yourself.
    • Note any progress.
    • Eliminate goals that no longer have meaning.
    • Celebrate goals you’ve achieved.
    • Set the next step for each goal.
    • Lastly, schedule in your calendar when you’ll take these next steps, and when your next goals review is going to be (I suggest 1 month from now).
  • The Real Reason Why You’re Exhausted


     

    Abstract:
     

    My clients are as diverse as the passions that light them up. And yet, the majority of them fights exhaustion – they’re just tired all the time.
     

    I remember feeling like this myself, and there were a few rather solid, physical reasons for it. But the underlying bigger reason is more important, and I’d like to share my insights about this with you.
     

    Your mission: Kick exhaustion to the curb and feel full of energy.
     
     

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    Task 1: Exclude the other root causes

     

    Before I get to “the big one”, I’d like to make sure there’s not something more mundane and obvious going on here. Lack of energy may be caused by:
     

    • Lack of sleep. Here’s a TED talk about how much more serious this is than we tend to think.
    • Lack of nutrition. When I lived mostly off junk foods, I was eating rather too much, but mostly empty calories. And I was tired all the time.
    • Some other medical reason. Don’t skip your medical check-ups to make sure you’re not overlooking something.

     

    All of these can usually be fixed rather easily. This is the most basic form of self care and you deserve it.
     

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    Task 2: Exhausted no more

     

    If your basic physical needs are met and you’re still tired all the time, you may be suffering from modern times. Yes, I just made that up, but bear with me, I have a point.
     

    I’ve said before that we’re busier than we’ve ever been in history. There are more different things fighting for our attention than ever before. Distractions abound. At the same time, we have the sole responsibility not just for ourselves, but often also for our families.
     

    And you wonder why you’re tired?
     

    The remedy is to simplify:
     

    • Look at your life and cut out everything that isn’t essential. Leave in the passions and the people you love, and as much of your income source as you need.
    • Find ways to get help in stressful areas of your life (hire an assistant, or a cleaner. I promise you, it’s life changing).
    • Take up self-care routines, like the morning routines I talked about a few weeks ago, and/or a daily meditation practice of 10 or 15 minutes.
  • How To Instantly Get Out Of A Rut


     

    Abstract:
     

    Playing the piano is one of my main passions, and has been since I was 8. But there have been times – and it continues to happen – when I’m just uninspired.
     

    Does that mean my passion is no longer my passion? Of course it doesn’t.
     

    The truth is, just like love and friendships, jobs, projects, and everything else, passions go through phases and cycles and won’t feel equally exciting all the time.
     

    Your mission is to learn how to get out of a rut, fast.
     
     

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    Task 1: Find out if it’s just a phase

     

    Most likely, there’s nothing wrong with your passion (or relationship, or project or whatever). You’ve just hit a bit of a plateau where things are ticking along but aren’t particularly exciting.
     

    I’d like to invite you to take a closer look. Is this really all there is to it? There are situations when a passion doesn’t suit you anymore, when you’ve outgrown it. If that’s the case, then you should just drop it, instead of trying to rekindle your interest.
     

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    Task 2: Inject the magic ingredient

     

    I’ve teased it for long enough, haven’t I? The silver bullet I’m talking about, to get out of a rut and revive the spark in just about anything, is the power of the new.
     

    If you’ve been working with the same group of people for a long time, the addition of someone new, even temporarily, might break it all wide open and give everyone a fresh, exciting perspective. If your passion feels stale, try doing something differently. Buy a new tool, try a new technique, or a new angle. Visit other people who share your passion. Take part in a workshop. The possibilities are endless.
     

    At the piano, I’ll find a new piece to practise and fall in love with, or reach out to a friend to play something together. Instantly, everything feels new and the love and passion are back.
     

    There’s magic in the new.