Flow: How To Get Into “The Zone”


 

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Sometimes when you do what lights you up, something magical happens. Time seems to disappear, you no longer think, you just exist in bliss. If your passion includes a performance, such as playing an instrument, you find yourself playing to your highest ability and it feels effortless.
 

This state is sometimes referred to as “the zone” or “flow”, and it can be as elusive as its exact definition. In today’s mission, you’ll learn how to hit this state regularly and reliably.
 
 

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Task 1: What does “flow” mean?

 

As I mentioned above, “flow” is a state of effortless creativity and/or concentration. You may not even be aware of it, or if you are, you feel a little lightheaded with happiness, almost as though you’re a little tipsy.
 

Time has stopped existing. You feel like you could do what you’re doing all day. Runners say that they feel like they’ll never get tired.
 

Because Flow requires being fully immersed in what you’re doing, it’s hard to achieve with a conscious effort. In the next task, you’ll learn how to set yourself up for Flow.
 

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Task 2: How to reach “the zone”

 

The bad news is, Flow can’t be forced. It’s simply impossible to command yourself to be in the Flow, just as it would be impossible to be spontaneous on demand.
 

Why is this? It’s because Flow isn’t so much about what you are doing. It’s a state of being.
 

In order to create an environment conducive to Flow, think about an occasion when you have experienced it. Then try to recreate as many of the circumstances as possible. For many people, these include:

  • Being relaxed and stress-free
  • Feeling no pressure to “perform”
  • Being in a quiet environment with no distractions
  • Being rested and calm

By creating similar circumstances, you set yourself up for the possibility of Flow. It might not happen every single time, but it’s much more likely than it would be otherwise.

How To Find Your Purpose When You’re Aimless


 

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People often tell me they don’t think they have a purpose: “I’m far too aimless,” or: “I just take life as it comes.” Others are multi-passionates and can’t believe that everything in their lives would come down to just one thing.
 

These statements are based on a few misconceptions which I’d like to help clarify for you. Your mission is to learn the way to your unique life purpose.
 
 

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Task 1: Your purpose is not what you think

 

Teachers and coaches often equate purpose with a job or something you do in life. This is why so many people think that purpose is not for them. They have multiple interests and frequently change direction.
 

The thing is, purpose is not something you do. Instead, purpose is the underlying reason why you do what you do.
 

Others believe your passion must be your purpose, but that’s not true either. The reason why I suggest prioritising passions in order to find purpose is that the frequency of pure joy is what leads you to your purpose. It opens you up to the required type of deep insight.
 

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Task 2: From aimless to filled with purpose

 

There’s more to this, and that’s the fact we’re never taught to have goals in life. Most people live by default and react to what’s happening to them, rather than taking charge and creating their lives. This is one thing coaching has taught me, long before I studied to become a coach myself.
 

Signs coaching might be good for you include:

  • You feel aimless
  • There are things you’ve been meaning to do for a long time
  • You don’t know your passion
  • You don’t know your purpose

The way to go about finding your purpose is to dare make your joy a priority. The easiest way to do this is through your passions, because this doesn’t require another person, it’s 100% you who creates your joy. You need this pure “you” energy to uncover your purpose.
 

I wish you a magical journey!

Where Do You Spend Your Attention (As Opposed To, Your Time)?


 

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I often challenge people to tally up the hours they spend on work, sleep, family, social media, and of course their passions each week. It can be quite an eye-opener.
 

However, it’s really a little more complicated than that. Time spent doesn’t mean you’re engaged with what you’re doing, as every daydreaming child in school could tell you. In fact, where you spend your attention and therefore your energy, is what truly matters.
 

Your mission today is to make sure your energy is in the places that are best for you.
 
 

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Task 1: Where’s your attention?

 

I already mentioned the daydreaming student, but it’s really not just children. How many of us have sat in a meeting, miles away and doodling whilst pretending to listen?
 

Further examples of this may be:

  • You’re at work, but on social media or planning the shopping for your dinner.
  • Perhaps you’re pursuing your passion but your thoughts are with a relationship problem.
  • You’re in love and whatever it is you do, you only think of the one you’re in love with.

None of these examples are meant to be “negative”, by the way, they’re complely normal. Simply notice how often your attention is not with what you’re doing.
 

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Task 2: From time and attention to priority

 

The first task served to show that you’re already spending your attention not necessarily on what you do, but what’s important at this time, but you’re doing this subconsciously. Task 2 is to use this mechanism on purpose.
 

On average, there’s room for 3 or 4 priorities in a life. Say, yourself, your relationship, your children and your passion. I challenge you to spend your attention there.
 

I’m not suggesting to daydream your days away at the office. What I’m saying is that you shouldn’t live and breathe and get emotionally entangled in things that aren’t a priority. Also, make both time and spend attention/energy on the things that matter to you – without feeling guilty.

Is It Serious Or Casual (Your Passions, That Is)?


 

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When we meet a potential romantic partner, we tend to avoid rushing in. Once we’ve established we like each other, that’s when the other person takes precedence over others in our lives. However, some relationships will always remain casual and might have to take a back seat when we’re busy at work or with other areas of our lives.
 

You see, your passions are very similar. Your mission today is to learn whether you’re ‘committed’ or ‘casual’.
 
 

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Task 1: Let me count the ways

 

Just like a romantic partner (and anything else in your life, really), you passions get a certain amount of your energy and attention. How much that is, depends much less on outer circumstances such as how much time you have than we tend to believe.
 

Generally, we’ll find both time and money for the things we deem worthwhile. So, is it serious?
 

It’s worth asking yourself these two questions:

  1. How often does it happen that you’re prevented from pursuing your passion?
  2. What are the things that get in the way (your job? Your children? Tiredness/lack of motivation? etc.)?

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Task 2: Is it serious?

 

Obviously, the less you are prevented from pursuing your passion and the fewer things are capable of preventing you, the higher the priority you place on your passion. What does this mean?
 

It means that if you say your passion and your joy are important to you, you need to treat them accordingly.
 

To do this, look at your answers to question 2 above and try to find solutions for them. Obviously, these solutions will be as varied as our lives are individual. You might get an assistant at work or change jobs to free up time or get help in the household or with your children. You could practice more self care and take rest seriously so you’ll have more time and energy.
 

Give yourself a chance to actually prioritise your passions. The joy will follow.

Feelings Are Your Wonder Weapon


 

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When I woke up from years of a high-functioning depression, the biggest revelation was my ability to feel again. It was the most delicious thing in the world to experience my emotions.
 

Some people might argue that you should be careful to feel nothing but positive things because that’s what attracts good things into your life. It’s true that it does, but your experience won’t be ruined by what we think of as negative feelings. In fact, they’re both necessary.
 

Your mission today is to learn that feelings are your wonder weapon.
 
 

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Task 1: The good and the bad

 

People have been so influenced by the manifestation movement that they’re almost afraid to feel sadness or anger. They feel like failures for, well, feeling bad.
 

But that’s misplaced, because only the full caleidoscope of all your feelings will bring you into your full power. That’s probably why it resonated with me when I read: “Don’t try to feel better, just try to feel” in Glennon Doyle’s book Untamed.
 

When I cut myself off in my depression, I avoided the lows, but I also lost the heights of joy that my passions can bring me (I didn’t pursue most of my passions either back then). They’re like two sides of the same coin. Together, all these feelings are your wonder weapon.
 

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Task 2: Feelings without fear

 

Forget policing your thoughts. It’s possible to very much focus on the positive, but to do that, you need to also fully experience its opposite.
 

The paradox is that you more you resist anger, sadness etc., the more potent it gets. That’s why it feels so scary to allow them. Once the dam breaks, the flood can indeed be scary, but after that first wave, it becomes a lot more manageable.
 

When you allow your negative emotions, they lose their power. They sweep through you and then they go away, leaving you to focus on your passions and joy.