If Not Now, When? 3 Steps Towards Your Best Life


 

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Happy second half of 2019!
 

If you’re like me (and around 2% of the population), you’ve got written goals you review every quarter. And if you’re not like me, today is a great time to start writing down goals.
 

But this isn’t just about dreaming and writing down. This is about taking action. A goal you don’t work to achieve, remains a dream.
 

Your mission is to set/review your goals and take the first steps towards your best life.
 
 

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Task 1: Lose the excuse

 

When it comes to setting goals and taking action, some people will always have a reason not to do it. The truth is, you’ll always find a reason (read: an excuse) if you want to – and similarly, you’ll always find a way if you’re really determined.
 

None of us is immortal. The only time you have is now, this day. If you don’t pursue your passion and create your best life today, your contribution to this world – your joy and love – might be lost forever.
 

You may not be able to perfectly prioritise your passion to the exclusion of everything else, but perfection is not the goal. Just getting started is.
 

3 steps towards your best life

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Task 2: Your goals and next steps to your best life

 

Step 1: Review your goals. If you don’t have any written goals yet, set goals and write them down for every area of your life.

Step 2: Determine what you’ll achieve in the next 90 days (three months). Break every goal down into a partial goal you can achieve within these three months.

Step 3: Write down one step you’ll do today, or within 72 hours. For each goal, write down this first step, and once this video is over, start putting that step into practice.
 

The 72 hours are important: if you don’t take action within that period, the chances you ever will are practically zero. As Nike put it, just do it!

Are We Addicted To “Instant Everything”?


 

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When I first moved abroad, I wrote letters to my friends. I often had to wait for a reply for two weeks, and by then, I had moved on from what my initial letter had been about. It’s so much nicer to send an email or FB message and have my answer within hours, sometimes minutes.
 

If I want to read a book, I can order and download it to my Kindle immediately. It’s great, but this culture of “instant everything” also has its downsides.
 

Your mission today is to find the right balance between instant and long-term in your life.
 
 

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Task 1: Read your “instantometer”

 

Okay, I made that word up! But it’s important to know where you stand before you can make changes.
 

Questions to ask yourself:
 

  • When was the last time you took on a project that took longer than a few weeks or months to complete?
  • On average, how much time do you spend per week on Quadrant II activities according to Stephen Covey (things that are important, but not urgent, such as health or relationships)?

 

This will help you identify how much your life has been taken over by “instant everything”. It’ll also show you where you can start making changes.
 

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Task 2: Make room for long-term

 

Stephen Covey says about Quadrant II that it’s the easiest to skip, because it’s not urgent. But if you neglect it for long enough, it’ll come back to bite you (your health, once ruined, will take a lot of time and money to fix; broken relationships can cause a lot of suffering, etc).
 

I suggest you take two steps:
 

  1. Schedule in time for self care, relationships, exercise etc.
  2. Start at least one thing that’ll take you a long time to learn or complete. A lot of passions lend themselves to this (such as learning a language, or playing an instrument, or a sport).

Give Yourself Permission To Want


 

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When I was little, my mum used to say: “Mr Want has died.” It wasn’t considered polite to express one’s will. Wanting was discouraged.
 

It was well meant, but this kind of thinking is hugely damaging. People think that anyone who’s clear and vocal about what they want, must be selfish and ruthless.
 

Your mission today is to allow yourself to truly want and desire, and to discover why this is the best thing you could do for your loved ones.
 
 

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Task 1: What’s your story?

 

Chances are you have acquired a few internal, subconscious “stories” about wanting over the course of your life. Your first task is to uncover them.
 

Get comfortable, relax, and then finish the sentence, “I want…”, repeatedly. Make a note of what you spontaneously come up with, anything, even if it seems silly.
 

Most of all, however, make a note of how you feel when you express what you want. This is a huge signpost towards your attitude to desire.
 
 

Task 2: Become a receiver

 

Connected to the negativity around desire, is the idea that giving is better than receiving. In reality, a balance is best, because receiving is just as important as giving.
 

Make a conscious effort to become a good receiver. When someone pays you a compliment, say “thank you” (and nothing else). Whenever you receive money, express your gratitude. Give thanks for the food you nourish your body with, and so forth.
 

Permission To Want

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Task 3: Permission to want

 

These tasks need to be repeated in order to truly effect change. Once you feel a lifting of the heaviness around the word “want”, it’s time to use it for yourself.
 

Allow yourself to want, stop being ashamed of it. You weren’t born to play small. Set your loved ones an example of reaching for the stars. Nothing could be more inspiring, and it’ll set them up for more happiness, too.

How To Use Results To Get Motivated


 

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It seems obvious: getting what we want motivates us to work on it more. People often say this about money (“Give me a million, and I’m going to manage it”). Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and you have to start managing what little money you have in order to create more.
 

But how do you get motivated from the very start? In fact, there are several ways of doing this, and I’m going to introduce to you two of them.
 

Your mission is to use results to get motivated to do [fill in the blank].
 
 

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Task 1: Use results to get clarity

 

Don’t worry, you needn’t “visualise” for this. For some reason, people seem to be afraid of visualisation, but what it really means is to fantasise or daydream! Anyone can do that.
 

Imagine what you truly want to achieve. Picture your goal, or the passion you wish to prioritise in your life. Imagine a perfect “day in the life”, when you have actually prioritised your passion and achieved your goal. Picture every detail and use your senses as well as your emotions.
 

This gives you a good idea of what it is you truly want. It helps you set and adjust your goals, to make sure you’re working on results that really matter to you.
 

Use Results To Get Motivated

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Task 2: Create results, fast

 

Find a way to get a “quick win”. By that I don’t mean a shortcut that makes the whole thing meaningless. I mean a first, tangible results.
 

When I got back into shape, I wanted to dance again. After a week of daily yoga / stretching for 5-10 minutes each day, I danced through a whole song without going out of breath. And I was hooked again.
 

Results make you addicted, so create and aim for as many part-way results – milestones – as you can. You’ll never lack motivation to go forward.

What Are You Actually Committed To?

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Years ago, my Coach asked me what I was committed to. My answer was: Living my best life, being joyful… But it wasn’t true. This was the time when I was still paying back my debts, and I was working all hours and had no time, money or energy for fun or much social interaction.
 

My Coach pointed out that my only commitment was paying back my debts. This wasn’t good or bad, but it forced me to change my perception. Knowing what you’re committed to is the first step to being able to make changes.
 
 

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Task 1: Study your results

 

Your current life is the best indicator of what your commitments are. A little caveat: To an extent, what’s manifest in the present is always a result of past commitments, rather than present ones. However, the “past” could be as recent as last week.
 

Look at how you spend your time, but also where your energy lies. What do you think about and focus on? This can give you a good idea of where your commitment actually is.
 
 

Task 2: Correct your commitments

 

Ask yourself if your current situation is where you want to be. If so, congratulations, keep doing what you’re doing.
 

If not, then now’s the time to make adjustments. Write down what you’d like more of or less of. Don’t worry how you’re going to get there, just note what you wish was different.
 

Next, figure out a way to implement these adjustments. Consider Coaching or another form of support, because it’s very hard to stick these things out on your own.
 

What are you committed to?
 

Task 3: Paint your ideal picture

 

Where would you like your focus to be? This can be one or several things, but make it realistic (don’t overcommit yourself).
 

Now you only need to put it into practice and work on adjusting your commitments. Once you’ve done this, your results will change automatically.