Give Yourself Permission To Want


 

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When I was little, my mum used to say: “Mr Want has died.” It wasn’t considered polite to express one’s will. Wanting was discouraged.
 

It was well meant, but this kind of thinking is hugely damaging. People think that anyone who’s clear and vocal about what they want, must be selfish and ruthless.
 

Your mission today is to allow yourself to truly want and desire, and to discover why this is the best thing you could do for your loved ones.
 
 

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Task 1: What’s your story?

 

Chances are you have acquired a few internal, subconscious “stories” about wanting over the course of your life. Your first task is to uncover them.
 

Get comfortable, relax, and then finish the sentence, “I want…”, repeatedly. Make a note of what you spontaneously come up with, anything, even if it seems silly.
 

Most of all, however, make a note of how you feel when you express what you want. This is a huge signpost towards your attitude to desire.
 
 

Task 2: Become a receiver

 

Connected to the negativity around desire, is the idea that giving is better than receiving. In reality, a balance is best, because receiving is just as important as giving.
 

Make a conscious effort to become a good receiver. When someone pays you a compliment, say “thank you” (and nothing else). Whenever you receive money, express your gratitude. Give thanks for the food you nourish your body with, and so forth.
 

Permission To Want

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Task 3: Permission to want

 

These tasks need to be repeated in order to truly effect change. Once you feel a lifting of the heaviness around the word “want”, it’s time to use it for yourself.
 

Allow yourself to want, stop being ashamed of it. You weren’t born to play small. Set your loved ones an example of reaching for the stars. Nothing could be more inspiring, and it’ll set them up for more happiness, too.

How To Use Results To Get Motivated


 

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It seems obvious: getting what we want motivates us to work on it more. People often say this about money (“Give me a million, and I’m going to manage it”). Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and you have to start managing what little money you have in order to create more.
 

But how do you get motivated from the very start? In fact, there are several ways of doing this, and I’m going to introduce to you two of them.
 

Your mission is to use results to get motivated to do [fill in the blank].
 
 

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Task 1: Use results to get clarity

 

Don’t worry, you needn’t “visualise” for this. For some reason, people seem to be afraid of visualisation, but what it really means is to fantasise or daydream! Anyone can do that.
 

Imagine what you truly want to achieve. Picture your goal, or the passion you wish to prioritise in your life. Imagine a perfect “day in the life”, when you have actually prioritised your passion and achieved your goal. Picture every detail and use your senses as well as your emotions.
 

This gives you a good idea of what it is you truly want. It helps you set and adjust your goals, to make sure you’re working on results that really matter to you.
 

Use Results To Get Motivated

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Task 2: Create results, fast

 

Find a way to get a “quick win”. By that I don’t mean a shortcut that makes the whole thing meaningless. I mean a first, tangible results.
 

When I got back into shape, I wanted to dance again. After a week of daily yoga / stretching for 5-10 minutes each day, I danced through a whole song without going out of breath. And I was hooked again.
 

Results make you addicted, so create and aim for as many part-way results – milestones – as you can. You’ll never lack motivation to go forward.

What Are You Actually Committed To?

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Years ago, my Coach asked me what I was committed to. My answer was: Living my best life, being joyful… But it wasn’t true. This was the time when I was still paying back my debts, and I was working all hours and had no time, money or energy for fun or much social interaction.
 

My Coach pointed out that my only commitment was paying back my debts. This wasn’t good or bad, but it forced me to change my perception. Knowing what you’re committed to is the first step to being able to make changes.
 
 

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Task 1: Study your results

 

Your current life is the best indicator of what your commitments are. A little caveat: To an extent, what’s manifest in the present is always a result of past commitments, rather than present ones. However, the “past” could be as recent as last week.
 

Look at how you spend your time, but also where your energy lies. What do you think about and focus on? This can give you a good idea of where your commitment actually is.
 
 

Task 2: Correct your commitments

 

Ask yourself if your current situation is where you want to be. If so, congratulations, keep doing what you’re doing.
 

If not, then now’s the time to make adjustments. Write down what you’d like more of or less of. Don’t worry how you’re going to get there, just note what you wish was different.
 

Next, figure out a way to implement these adjustments. Consider Coaching or another form of support, because it’s very hard to stick these things out on your own.
 

What are you committed to?
 

Task 3: Paint your ideal picture

 

Where would you like your focus to be? This can be one or several things, but make it realistic (don’t overcommit yourself).
 

Now you only need to put it into practice and work on adjusting your commitments. Once you’ve done this, your results will change automatically.

How To Get Shit Done


 

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Before I say anything else: From today’s title, you may have noticed that I do use adult language occasionally! Just a fair warning in case that’s not your thing.
 

A lot of my Coaching clients feel they should be doing more and that they fall short somehow. It seems to be an almost universal feeling. In some cases, trying too hard to get shit done even leads to complete inertia.
 
 

 
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Getting real

 

Most people have completely unrealistic expectations of themselves. They think if they don’t “function” perfectly and are productive every minute of every day, then they’re doing it wrong.
 

As a first step, realise that you’re not a machine, and neither are you supposed to be. It’s simply not how humans work! Stop measuring yourself against others and putting pressure on yourself.
 
 

Separating the wheat from the chaff

 

The second step is to take a good look at your life and clean it out the way you’d sort out your closet when you want to give some clothes to charity. Just like decluttering the closet, it can be hard to let go of some things. When you’ve done it, however, you feel a profound relief and clarity.
 

Focus on getting done what really matters to you: Yourself, your family and friends, your passions, and the necessities of life. Everything else gets cleared out.
 

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Accepting your human nature

 

Step three is to accept that you’re human and to play to your strengths. Some people are “seasonal workers” while others are particularly productive at a certain time of the day. Do what works for you, and don’t forget to work in breaks and self care as well.
 

Once you’ve accomplished these three steps, you’ll feel yourself settling into your own personal rhythm. Ironically, when you stop stressing about it, you’ll not only feel happier but you’ll also “get shit done”.

The 1% Shift


 

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I’ve always been one for big announcements and radical do-overs. I’ve made so many “from this day forward” type changes in my life, my friends and family hardly bat an eyelid any longer when I announce another one.
 

Unfortunately, it’s incredibly hard to stick with radical changes in the long term. I used to think: “Who’d even get out of bed for a tiny adjustment?”
 

In fact, a 1% shift could be all you need to experience true transformation. I’ll tell you why and how in the following.
 
 

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Why 1% is huge

 

Imagine you were going to write a 200-page book and you haven’t been able to get yourself started. If you wrote the first two pages, wouldn’t that be incredible? It means you’re off, you got going, you’re finding your stride! Whenever you’re trying to get un-stuck or started with something, a 1% shift is all you need to gain momentum.
 

Are you trying to improve yourself or increase your knowledge? 1% at a time can quickly add up. Losing 1% of your body fat is amazing and can make all the difference. If you’re in business and work 1% more effectively every week, your results are going to skyrocket within a paltry few months.
 

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Slow and steady…

 

You know the saying: “Slow and steady wins the race.” That’s what this principle is about, and it’s easy to put into practice.
 

  • Determine what you’d like to change.
  • Improve/add/complete 1%, no more.
  • Whenever it’s appropriate, aim for the next 1%.
  • Keep celebrating and rewarding yourself.
  • Regularly look back and appreciate how far you’ve come.

Lasting change is best achieved in increments. If you do it by 1% shifts, you’ll easily leave behind all those folks who never get started because they can’t do it all at once.