• Vlog 9: Autumn Days In My House On The Mountain


     

    Autumn/Fall days in Croatia

    Here’s what I’ve been up to this past month! You’ll see a lot about my passions, what my daily life looks like here in my house on the mountain, with music and friends and lots of tea.
     

    You’ll also see the stunning beauty of the surroundings here, including footage of an autumn hike surrounded by absolutely magical light and colours. I hope you’ll like it!
     

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  • Don’t Speed Up, Slow Down


     

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    Classic motivation tends to sound like this: Do the thing! Take action! Crush it! We follow, get inspired for a day or two, and then fall off the wagon, feeling terrible about ourselves.
     

    Has it occurred to you that maybe the fault isn’t with you, but with the “get going and crush it” mentality? I say: don’t speed up, slow down instead.
     

    Your mission today is to learn how to actually get shit done, and be happier along the way.
     
     

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    Task 1: Understand the lure of motivational talk

     

    The thing with motivational talk is, it’s so wonderfully contagious. Got unresolved emotional pain or a health issue? Just jump up and get shit done anyway! You’ll feel like a hero.
     

    Unfortunately, this is highly toxic for the exact reasons it is also attractive: Because it ignores issues. Emotional pain or health issues don’t go away if they’re being ignored, they’ll find other outlets and can turn very destructive.
     
     

    Task 2: Your obstacle course

     

    Becoming immune to the “crush it” mentality is like an obstacle course. That’s not because you’re too superficial to face your problems, by the way. It’s because of how addictive constant “action” is.
     

    I’ve spoken about stress addiction before, so I’ll not belabour it here. This task is mostly a heads-up for you to expect it to be difficult. Otherwise, you’ll become yet another person who thinks “I could meditate/slow down/etc., I’m just XYZ (too busy or I don’t need it)”.
     

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    Task 3: Don’t speed up, slow down

     

    So what can you do to get there? I suggest a quick, do-able ritual:

    • Grab a cup of something
    • Light a candle
    • Take a deep breath
    • Ask yourself gently: How are you?
    • Listen

    It’ll take a while until you hear more than the stereotypical “fine”. The important part is deep listening. If you do this ritual every day, you will eventually get an answer. Then you can act accordingly – truly meaningful action towards a goal that’s important to you.
     

  • Never Fail At Time Management Again

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    Here’s the thing.
     

    I can’t possibly be the only person who’s spent entirely too many years trying and failing to organise my time and my life? It went something like this: In regular intervals, I’d resolve that the slacking was to end, and came up with some amazing schedule for my life. It was based on whatever time management guru’s book I had read last.
     

    Then I’d get to work, and boy did I get productive for a few days or weeks. Then inevitably I’d slide back into inertia. I just couldn’t stay motivated and felt guilty, especially because I seemed to be surrounded by superhumans who somehow got everything done, from demanding jobs to social activities, exercise, and family life. Only I seemed to fail at time management.
     

    It took me altogether too long to realise that most of those “superhumans” were just as lost as I was, and never got everything done they wanted to do. Then I became a coach and magiacally learned how to get my shit together! -Err, no. But I did learn a few things, and these days I’m fairly happy with how I handle the “time of my life”.
     
     

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    Letting go of guilt

     

    I’m mentioning this first, because it’s the hardest thing. You need to let go of the “I suck” feeling! Even clients I’ve coached for weeks or months, still fall into this trap. It shocks me every time, because after working in personal development for going on 20 years, 15 of which as a coach, I’m simply no longer used to the harsh negativity that we’re surrounded with.
     

    People see the world as bad. And since they’re part of the world, they judge themselves harshly, too.
     

    Short of dragging every last person who reads this into one of my coaching programs, I’m a little helpless. Should I beg: “Please stop beating yourself up. You’re not a failure”?
     

    Perhaps it’s more helpful to show you how this negative self-image is created. If you get angry about it, maybe that’ll give you energy to fight it.

    • The news and media you consume are heavily biased towards negativity. That’s what sells, because it feeds into our own genetic negativity bias.
    • Advertising is literally built on the message: Here’s what’s wrong with you, now buy my product/service and it’ll fix you. This goes for everything from clothes to cosmetics to, yes, Coaching. It hurts me to say this, but my own industry is very guilty of this. Ugh.
    • Through the internet, especially social media, we are connected to more people than ever. And since everyone shows themselves from their best side online, we’re bombarded by images of perfection that give us the impression that lots of people have perfect lives.

    Do you see? The deck is stacked against us. We try to keep up, but we’ve been set up for failure.
     

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    Why you fail at time management

     

    To recap: You’ve been force-fed the worst of humanity through media. At the same time, you have been shown all the best achievements of your fellow humans, creating the impression that you could – and should – do it all and be happy about it.
     

    Now you set out on this doomed quest, over-schedule yourself and read about a new time management system that’ll allow you to cram even more into your schedule.
     

    Is it any wonder you fail and fall off the wagon? There’s something in you – call it your Higher Self, God, the Universe – that’ll protect you by making you fail at time management. You, with your above-mentioned negativity conditioning, respond by feeling terrible.
     

    Please understand this, it’s important! You fail because you cannot succeed. Yes, there are a few people who seem to get everything done. Unfortunately, they also often have major health problems, don’t sleep, are on medication, or are deeply unhappy. That’s because humans are simply not meant to live this way.
     

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    How to set yourself up for success

     

    To stop oscillating between super-organised and a near-vegetative state, you need to drop your unrealistic expectations. This also involves giving society the middle finger, so to speak.
     

    Here’s how you can achieve this:
     

    For at least a week, monitor the way you think and speak about yourself. Interrupt any negativity or self-criticism by apologising to yourself and then immediately thinking of something positive about yourself.
     

    Get a calendar, but forget about scheduling every minute of every day.
     

    Instead, get into the habit of opening your calendar ever morning to look at your day and decide on 1 or 2 priorities for this day. You can probably think of 10 more things you “must” do, but remember what happened when you tried to schedule it all? Exactly. So schedule 2 to focus on. Everything else is icing.
     

    Schedule downtime. You heard me. I know it’s weird to schedule something that isn’t an activity, but it’s important. Make room for not doing anything productive.
     

    Schedule your passions. Remember what I said about scheduling every minute of every day? Don’t squeeze in your passions between other things. Leave plenty of space around them.
     

    I will almost guarantee that you’ll feel a lot more motivated within a week or two. If you’re still struggling, cut down on your activities even more. Let go of things, say “no”. As you normalise your new, much more realistic expectations, you’ll feel content, even happy – and it’ll get ever easier to do the things you really want to do.
     

  • What Passion Has To Do With Money


     

    Abstract:
     

    People who know that I support wild spirits to prioritise their passion and find their unique life purpose, are often surprised when they find out that I also have a program called Wild Money. They wonder how these things go together.
     

    Those who do think they know what the connection is between passion and money, usually get it wrong: They think I must be working on getting people to make money with their passion. And whilst this is sometimes part of my programs, it’s not their main aim at all.
     

    Your mission is to learn how passion and money really go together.
     
     

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    Task 1: Against the grain

     

    You’ll often hear me say that it’s fine if you want to make money with your passion, but you don’t have to. Your passion should play a central role in your life simply because it gives you joy. Even if you’re an amateur, a beginner, or bad at it, it deserves to be a priority – because it lights you up.
     

    It’s not immediately obvious to what extent this goes against the grain in our society. We’re told to value money, worldly success, hard work and material gains. And here I am propagating joy.
     

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    Task 2: What passion has to do with money

     

    The actual connection between passion and money lies in the truly revolutionary approach to life that I mentioned above. The focus shifts off material, outward success, and towards immaterial, inward things such as joy, passion, fulfilment and purpose.
     

    What happens when you make that shift? As a rational person brought up with our society’s way of thinking, you’d expect that you’d be happy, but broke. Astonishingly, that’s not the case.
     

    If you truly prioritise your joy, something strange happens in your life. There’s an expansion of space. Your heart opens, and so does your environment. Suddenly, there’s time. There’s also space for more love, luck, and success to flow in, and this includes monetary success.
     

  • Vlog 8: Mystical Autumnal Plitvice Lakes


     

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    Plitvice Lakes and the end of summer

     

    A month of slowing down, settling in, friends, meet-ups – and a trip to one of the most breathtaking natural sites in all of Croatia: the Plitvice Lakes! Let me enchant you with their mystical beauty.
     

    We’ve defintely arrived in autumn, even here in Croatia. The early September footage shows the last of the warm summer days, but by now the days are much shorter and the air has a bite to it, especially early in the morning here on my mountain. Go take a look!
     
     

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