Do You Really Long For A Simple Life?


 

Abstract:
 

When I was stuck in a meaningless city job, commuting, working all hours and never seeing the sun during the week in winter, I remember longing for a simple life. A cottage in nature, books, peace and quiet. Wholesome food.
 

Many people seem to relate to this ideal, and it does sound beautiful. But is it truly for you? What exactly is its appeal?
 

Your mission today is to find out how and to what extent you should simplify your life.
 
 

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Task 1: A minimalist fairytale?

 

Like most fairytales, it isn’t quite as ideal as it sounds. Some people who have taken the leap, speak of loneliness, having no internet, getting older with nobody to look after them.
 

Exactly how simple should your life be, then? I believe it helps to write down what exactly appeals to you about the simple countryside life. Here are some examples that may or may not apply:

  • more quiet
  • more nature
  • fewer people and more meaningful connections
  • fewer expectations
  • less stress and pressure

Also write down – and be very honest here – what you don’t want to miss from your current life. For me, that would be:

  • decent internet
  • culture (exhibitions, concerts…)
  • medical care

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Task 2: Create your own simple life

 

Now you have a few clues as to what you want. A lot of them are achievable without moving to the middle of nowhere. I still think I’ll do it some day, but in the meantime, I’ve implemented steps that have simplified my life right here and now.
 

You could:

  • declutter and become a minimalist
  • significantly reduce your online time and engagement
  • make a point of connecting with people you love
  • regularly spend time in nature.

Think of concrete steps to implement these things, and plan them for this week, and then take it from there.

Learn The Fine Art Of Being Happy


 

Abstract:
 

A lot of people glaze over when I tell them that my business is basically about creating joy and happiness (by means of prioritising passions and fulfilling one’s purpose). You know how to be happy, right? It’s not that hard!
 

In fact, it turns out that it is. Hard, I mean. Ask yourself how you feel right now. Then think over today, and yesterday, and the day before. How much of the time did you feel genuinely happy?
 

Your mission today is to learn how to be happy.
 
 

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Task 1: Habit versus happiness

 

It’s not a sign of failure when we realise we aren’t as happy as we think we should be. In fact, this is as it should be. It’s evolutionary.
 

Historically, it was paramount for our survival that we detected threat and danger fast. We’re wired to focus on bad things, it’s not just our attitude. This means that in order to be happier, we need to consciously re-train ourselves and change our habits. It requires effort and persistence.
 

In other words, being happy is hard because we need to learn it. It’s against our very nature!
 

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Task 2: Being happy bootcamp

 

Here are some ways for you to train yourself to more happiness.

  • Gratitude. Once a day, write down or think of three things you’re grateful for. Really feel your gratitude.
  • Do something that lights you up every single day. Your passions deserve the effort!
  • Connect to another human every single day. If you’re home alone, have a conversation by phone or send them a heartfelt message.
  • Check in with yourself once a day. If you’re feeling less than happy, remind yourself of what went well in the past 24 hours.
  • Get in the habit of saying: “Thank you, life” (or God, or whatever you prefer) whenever something good happens to you.

Break Your Stress Addiction In 5 Steps


 

Abstract:
 

When I gave up my daytime job and moved to the sunny mediterranean to work full-time on my two businesses, I was looking forward to a simpler, slower life. Several months in, I realised that I was still as stressed and busy as before.
 

I’ve spoken about our constant need to be busy before. Turns out it’s not just a habit, but an actual addiction. I’m not all zen just yet but have found ways to slowly break free and wean myself off, and I’ll share them with you in the following.
 

Your mission today is to lean how to break your addiction to stress.
 
 

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Task 1: Recognise whether you’re addicted

 

Stress is not just a concept, it manifests in physical reactions of the body that serve to ensure our survival. Adrenalin pumps through us, our pulse rate increases. We sweat more, sleep less, and are on the alert.
 

All very useful when you’re facing an imminent danger. As a permanent state, it’s absolutely catastrophic. We can even get addicted to the adrenalin, and as a society, we are. Some of the signs include:

  • Finding it hard to “switch off”
  • Thinking of work when you’re supposed to be resting
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Compensating by overeating, over-exercising or similar methods
  • Endlessly watching mindless TV or scrolling through social media
  • Constantly thinking that you’ll “soon” slow down

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Task 2: Break your stress addiction

 

First of all: This will take time. I’m finding that just like with any other addiction, I must wean myself off my “drug”. Here are some steps I’ve found useful.

  1. A cut-off time for all media in the evening (TV, radio, internet, phone)
  2. Generous blocks of time for my passions
  3. Plenty of sleep
  4. Meeting another human face-to-face at least once a week
  5. Time spent in nature at least once a week

The “Do Nothing For 10 Minutes” Challenge


 

Abstract:
 

I feel the need to raise the alarm: We as a society are losing the ability to be idle.
 

I’ve spoken about the ideal of being busy before, but what I mean here is not actual work, but rather being occupied (or preoccupied). It’s about listening to news or staring at our phones whenever we have a minute. Our minds, constantly bombarded with stimuli, can’t cope, and it makes us stressed, tense, and ultimately, sick.
 

Your challenge today is to spend 10 minutes doing nothing.
 
 

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Task 1: Identify your distraction points

 

For me, it’s being at home. I sit in front of the computer most of the day, and I find myself still at the computer when I’ve nothing to do, scrolling through social media. It’s terrible!
 

Others have to have the TV on or the radio blaring in the background. Waiting rooms, bus stops, cafes, public transport – they listen to music and/or stare a their phones or tablets.
 

Find out when you’re most in danger to use “fillers” such as your phone or the TV, or even a good old-fashioned magazine. Make a note of them.
 

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Task 2: Do nothing for 10 minutes

 

This isn’t a once-off – the challenge is to do nothing for 10 minutes every day for at least one week. Are you up for it?
 

Here’s what defines “doing nothing”:

  • no music/TV/videos/podcasts on
  • not doing anything with your hands (such as knitting)
  • no meditating or napping
  • no reading

Sit in a quiet place. Imagine the old farmer on the bench outside his house or a romantic image of a girl in a window seat. Set a timer for 10 minutes and do absolutely nothing. Notice how you feel.
 

As a bonus, try and extend this newly learned ability to public spaces. Resist your phone at the aforementioned bus stop or if you’re in a cafe on your own. Look around, do some people watching instead. Your mind and your mood will benefit.

3 Reasons Why You Need A To-Don’t List


 

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Hands up who’s sick of to-do lists? If you haven’t tried them – don’t. I have actually suggested them in the past, but only ever in specific circumstances. In general I think to do lists are keeping us in a hamster wheel forever, reminding us that the work is never done, that we’re always on the go, and adding to our stress.
 

Your mission is to learn how to use a To-Don’t List for the benefit of your passions and your peace of mind.
 
 

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Task 1: Avoid the pitfalls

 

A list of things that you shouldn’t do? Sounds great. There is, however, the danger that you’ll inadvertently set yourself up for failure if you’re not careful.
 

General wisdom is not to focus on what you don’t want. The way energy and the law of attraction works is that you’ll attract what you give most energy to. So the danger is to put a lot of energy into this list, which will lead to you getting things you’re trying to avoid.
 

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Task 2: Why you need a To-Don’t List

 

So why create a To-Don’t List at all? There are a few good reasons.

  1. It helps you to set boundaries. You may know that you don’t want to spend time with a certain annoying colleague (or even relative). One day you’re overwhelmed, lots going on, and they spring an invite on you. Before you know it, you’ve said yes.
  2. It nudges you when you’re about to go wrong. How many times do we end up focusing on what doesn’t light us up? If you have in writing what you definitely don’t want to waste energy on, you’ll remember much more easily when it’s about to happen, and can course-correct.
  3. It helps you make decisions. If you write down things you don’t want to spend time on, every time you’re faced with a “do I go to that event/meeting/workshop” kind of question, check it against your To-Don’t List. If it resembles any item there, use your time for something that lights you up instead.