Set Some DUMB Goals


 

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Happy New Year and decade! I hope you’ve arrived well in the 20s. I have, and I suspect it’s going to be a rocking, sexy, amazing decade.
 

To make sure of that, I’ve set some goals. Now, you’ve all heard of “SMART” goals, but I’m going to suggest you go against the grain. Your mission today is to set some DUMB goals and then set yourself up for achieving them.
 
 

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Task 1: Learn about DUMB goals

 

“Smart” goals have been invented for a corporate environment. The method is reasonable and rather uninspiring. In recent years, there’s been a cheeky counter-movement in the Coaching community, called DUMB goals:
 

Daring – Forget being realistic. Reach for the stars.
Uplifting – If it doesn’t give you butterflies, what’s the point?
Magnificent – Bigger goals inspire more than small ones.
Brave – Life’s too short to play it safe.
 
 

Task 2: Set the right goals for you

 

This is meant to give you goals that excite you, rather than feel like a chore. For example, in the category “health”, you may have set the SMART goal to reduce your body fat by 5% in six months. A DUMB goal might be to eat and move in a way that makes you burst with energy and feel your best instead.
 

Go through each of the categories: Health, Finances, Job/Business, Relationships, Spirituality, Passions, and audit the goals you set. If needed, spruce them up with the DUMB principles.
 

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Task 3: Make it fun

 

You know I always tell you to do the first step within 72 hours. I’m still telling you this, but now your challenge is to find something to do that inspires you, rather than just some mechanical first step. Look at each goal and determine something you could do that’s fun, something you’ll look forward to.
 

Write down these first steps and schedule them today, tomorrow, or the day after. If it’s not in your calendar, it isn’t real! And then get going.

Get Ready For The 20s – Part I


 

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Every year around this time, posts on social media proclaim it’s been the worst year ever, and the next is going to be great. Some do this year after year, without realising that change is up to themselves in many cases.
 

Your mission is to review the ending decade, and to get ready for the 20s.
 
 

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Task 1: The good and the bad

 

For this task, write down all your personal highlights of the last 10 years: A dream job, wedding, a great holiday etc. Make it at least five for the decade, but not much more than one per year. Also note which year these things happened, or started, in.
 

Next, you do the same for the low points of the decade. Again, find between five for the whole decade, and one per year. Write them down by year.
 
 

Task 2: The timeline

 

Now you create a graph. On the horizontal axis, write the years 2010-2019. On the vertical one, the numbers 1-10. Anything above 5 is a positive event, anything below is negative.
 

Enter the highlights you noted down in Task 1, according to their year and how amazing they were (between 6 and 10). Then connect the dots – quite literally – to create a graph of all the best times this past decade.
 

Next you do the same with the low points. Connect these into a graph line as well.
 

the 20s

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Task 3: Gratitude and lessons for the 20s

 

Looking at your graphs, write down what you’re grateful for. The things you enjoyed, the highlights, maybe even some good outcomes from an initially low point in your life.
 

Next, write down the lessons you’ve learned. Think about how you were ten years ago, and how you are now. In what ways have you changed as a result of what happened? What have you learned?
 

Take your time with this. Also, save your paper, because you’ll need it in the second part, which will set you up for the 20s.

How To Stop Sabotaging Yourself


 

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Most of us have been there: We’d really love do something, and then never “get around to it”. It took me years to finally give up my soulless job and move to the West of Ireland. Some people say they’ll go travelling, or move to the countryside. Or they swear they’ll make their passion a priority.
 

The real reason why we’re not doing these things doesn’t come from the outside, it’s in the way we think. Your mission today is to recognise your unhelpful patterns of thinking and turn them around so you stop sabotaging yourself.
 
 

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Task 1: Break the habit

 

You’ve heard of “you are what you think”, and that’s true, but what you are comes largely from what you do, how you act. And that’s what’s directly influenced by your thinking.
 

Here are a few examples of thought habits:

  • Thought: Rich/successful people are just lucky. Truth: Some are, but a lot of people create their own success.
  • Thought: The circumstances aren’t right (yet). Truth: They’ll never be right, so stop waiting. People have achieved great things in the most unfavourable circumstances.
  • Thought: I’m not educated/qualified/skilled enough to do this. Truth: By thinking like this, you’re sabotaging yourself. You learn by doing, and can study along the way. Start before you’re ready.

 

sabotaging yourself
 

Task 2: Get unstuck

 

It’s important first to recognise that your thinking is what’s keeping you stuck. This is important because you’re essentially giving your power away. Now that you’ve realised this, it’s time to take it back.

  • Decide that you’ll do that thing you’ve been meaning to, right now, today. No more postponing.
  • Take the first step. You guessed it, you don’t get to postpone that either. Do it today.
  • Enlist help and support (such as a course or Coaching), but don’t postpone the first two points until after you’ve done this. Make the decision, take the first step, and then learn as you go.

Get Set For The Last 3 Months Of 2019


 

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¾ of 2019 are over! Maybe you’re flying and your goals for the year are well underway. Maybe you lost track of them and feel too ashamed to even look. Or perhaps you never set goals in the first place?
 

It doesn’t matter where you stand, if you just bear with me, I’ll show you how you can make the most of the last three months of 2019.
 
 

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Task 1: The whys and wherefores of goals

 

Why would you set goals? Because the 2% of people who have written goals they review regularly, are by far the most successful, happy, and content humans on the planet.
 

Let’s break this down.
 

  • Have goals: “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” -Jim Rohn
  • Written: It’s not enough to decide to do something. There’s magic in putting it in writing.
  • Regular reviews: Goals are achieved, or need an extension, or become irrelevant. Set regular reminders (a few weeks ago, I talked about using your calendar!) to review and update your goals.

 

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Task 2: Celebrate your goals review

 

This task is twofold: First, take some time and get comfortable. Light some candles if you like, put on soft music, and if you’re part of a couple, absolutely involve your partner in this. Then do the following.
 

  1. If you don’t have written goals yet: Do the Life Audit and afterwards, set yourself 1 or 2 goals per life area, that will improve your score in that area.
  2. If you have written goals: Put them in front of yourself.
  • Note any progress.
  • Eliminate goals that no longer have meaning.
  • Celebrate goals you’ve achieved.
  • Set the next step for each goal.
  • Lastly, schedule in your calendar when you’ll take these next steps, and when your next goals review is going to be (I suggest 1 month from now).

The “Working Hard” Myth


 

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People disagree on almost everything, but one thing 90% agree on is that hard work is a good thing. Indeed, when I tell someone that I work with people on prioritising their passion, the reaction I get most frequently is: “But you’ve got to work hard, too.”
 

Where does this come from? Why does hardly anyone question it?
 

Your mission today is to find what you really want in your life, and what the best way is to get it.
 
 

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Task 1: Why we worship working hard

 

People have always worked, that’s true. But I wonder whether historically, work was really that backbreaking. There were certainly exceptions, but mostly people had one focus, a one-track mind.
 

We used to have to work to feed ourselves. Then we became employees and work became abstract. To keep us motivated, the philosophy became that working hard is the only right way of living. We were also told that it’s the way to make money, which most rich people will tell you is nonsense.
 

The concept of focusing on passion, joy, and pleasure runs so contrary to this, it’s no wonder people have trouble even believing that it’s possible!
 

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Task 2: What do you really want?

 

This echoes back to last week’s episode – catch it here if you missed it. Why is it so important to find out what you truly want?
 

Because in order to break away from working hard as the answer to all questions, we’re going to have to cut back. Not on carbs, but on demands on ourselves and our time.
 

Once you know what’s truly important to you, you can pick which things you need to prioritise. Make sure it’s something that lights you up! Of course, a bit of balance is great, but trying to do it all is the root of all evil in our day and age.