My Story: 3 Steps To Creating A Life Of Passion And Purpose


 

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People have been nudging me to share my story, and I was reluctant. However, it actually is a good example of the things I talk about all the time – passion & purpose – and so I thought it can’t hurt to try.
 

Your mission is to learn 3 steps to creating a life of passion and purpose.
 
 

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Task 1: Create your vision

 

In my case, I created my vision according to my passions, and since I’m a multi-passionate, this involved sorting through a lot of different things. Here’s what I did:

  • Wrote down my passions
  • Wrote down how I would pursue them
  • Estimated the time needed per week
  • Wrote down my vision as a perfect “day in the life”

 

Task 2: Align your life with your passion and purpose vision

 

We often fail to plan for the long term, and it’s easy to see why: Something (such as a pandemic…) can happen and ruin all your plans. But it’s still important to have that vision, because only then can you actively work on aligning yourself with it.
 

I filmed an entire episode on alignment and it includes a list of values, which I recommend you download. It’s important because too many people actively pursue dreams that are completely out of alignment with either their values or their chosen lifestyle.
 

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Task 3: Ask yourself what you can do without

 

This is probably the trickiest bit. We can “have it all” in terms of your dreams, but we can’t possibly fit all the possible worthy choices and paths in life into one lifetime. That’s why it’s so important to chose something that’s in alignment – and equally important to know what you can do without.
 

In my case, this was:

  • Pets.
  • Riches.
  • A conventional relationship and family.

Your task is to find out what these things are in your life, and make a conscious decision about them.

How To Make Your New Vision A Reality


 

Abstract:
 

We’ve had a lot of time to think and feel recently. Amidst all the bad new, I keep hearing uplifting insights from people. They now know what’d truly important. They’ll take more time for what lights them up, and less for work and consumerism. They’ll slow down.
 

It’s amazing, and yet – what comes of this remains to be seen. For some people it’ll be like a New Year’s resolution once life goes back to normal. They’ll try for a bit and then the vision slowly fades into everyday life.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to hold on to the insights and turn them into reality.
 
 

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Task 1: Write it down

 

Uff. I don’t know why, but for some reason this seems to be the hardest thing to convince people of. I can wave statistics in their faces all day long, they just won’t do it.
 

You know what? Pause right now and write down your vision, in detail. Describe it in terms of all your five senses, and then come back. Do it.
 
 

Task 2: Take the first step towards your new vision

 

If you’ve been here for a while, you know the drill. You need to take action right now, today, for it to come true.
 

Determine which step you’ll take today, but beware of “busy-ism”. Endlessly planning and writing lists keeps you trapped in wishful thinking.
 

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Task 3: Get support

 

That’s another one people tend to treat as optional. Involve others? Get help, even? Ewww.
 

Well, it’s not optional. You may as well make this your first step today – it’s that important. Depending on what your vision looks like, this could be either or several of the following:

  • Sign up for a class.
  • Find a teacher.
  • Get Coaching.
  • Join a group of practitioners.

It’s not enough to read books or do research, you need real people to work with on this. Your new vision is worth a little discomfort.

4 Things You Need To Stop Doing


 

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If you want… well, anything you haven’t achieved already, then you’ll need to shape up and do something differently. Your life time’s ticking away, after all.
 

It can be hard to spot the self-defeating behaviours we all engage in, because they’re so universal. Therefore, your mission today is to learn the 4 things you need to stop doing in order to prioritise your passion, find your purpose, and be outrageously happy.

 
 

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1. Stop trying to do it all

 

We’re more connected than ever before. This means no trend escapes our notice. Stop following every latest nutrition fad, exercise trend, and trying to catch every last movie and TV show, whilst being the perfect spouse/ parent.
 

As long as you eat with variety, move your body occasionally, and spend quality time with your loved ones, you’re good. Declutter your schedule and slow the heck down.
 
 

2. Stop comparing yourself

 

Another result of our connected times is that we see more of other people than we’ve ever done before, but we see them online, in pictures and videos that are selected to show only the best sides of everyone. You don’t have to be like anyone other than yourself.
 

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3. Stop spending your life online

 

If you’re not into social media, you’re not off the hook. TV is just as bad. Whether it’s the internet, the latest talk show or Instagram, you waste away in front of them. This is an addiction and very hard to break, but start by banishing your phone from your bedroom. Take back your time and your life and do what lights you up instead.
 
 

4. Stop barking up the wrong tree

 

You’re working hard, you’re doing evening classes, you’re a member of a book club. That’s great, but when was the last time you checked whether these things are important to you? Our interests change.
 

Make sure you don’t waste time on something that doesn’t light you up.

Success, Love, Happiness: The Missing Piece You Overlook


 

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Many people I meet would like to do something bold: go travelling, start their own business, dedicate themselves to the loves of their lives.
 

And end up never having enough time, or meeting people who offer lukewarm love rather than undying passion. Instead of doing what lights them up, they work to make ends meet.
 

The truth is, we have it backwards when it comes to creating our lives. Your mission is to learn the missing piece that’ll help you attain whatever you want.
 
 

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Task 1: What’s the missing piece?

 

Success gurus often talk about mindset and people react with cynicism. “Feel rich? I’ll do that when I’ve made my first million,” they’ll say, and that seems reasonable, but really it’s backwards. We need to trust life first and leap in order for the net to appear.
 

Success stories often start with something like: “I had no idea where the money was going to come from,” or: “I had no degree, no experience, I just decided that this was what I was going to do.”
 
 

Task 2: Prepare to heal

 

Sounds great, doesn’t it? In reality, it’s not always that easy. Many of us are hurt or traumatised; we’ve lost our trust.
 

Therefore, take some time to heal. Find friends who understand, join groups, get therapy if old hurts keeps showing up. You don’t need to be perfectly “whole” for this to work; just making the decision to heal can restore you enough for your intuition to work.
 

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Task 3: Know when you’re on the right track

 

Now it’s time to dare, trust, take risks – but in a way which feels aligned with your soul and your deepest wishes. Here’s a quick self-test:

  • Do you avoid looking at your bank balance or even thinking about what could happen?
  • Or are you a little nervous and scared, but also deeply happy about what you’re doing?

Learning the difference is a great gift to yourself.

Break The Vicious Cycle Of Perfectionism And Fear Of Failure


 

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One thing almost every one of my clients has in common is a belief that they somehow fail at life. I usually spend a lot of time assuring them that they’re doing well.
 

There are many aspects to why we feel bad about ourselves, but a lot of it has to do with the modern world of interconnectedness and the way we see so much apparent “perfection” on social media. Our competitive upbringing is to blame as well.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to break the cycle of perfectionism, fear of failure, and security thinking.
 
 

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Task 1: Where does our perfectionism come from?

 

I believe a number of factors work together here: We’re brought up in the spirit of competition (who’s best in class, who’s the fastest in sports…). We’re also taught to fear mistakes (that’s how school exams are graded by, after all).
 

By the time we’re grown, we’re conditioned to fear mistakes and compare ourselves with everyone else. Our parents and grandparents had their neighbours or colleagues to compare themselves to – thanks to social media, we have hundreds of people plus celebrities! No wonder we feel like we don’t measure up.
 
 

Task 2: Learn to recognise the consequences

 

All this has consequences we’re not even aware of a lot of the time:

  • We look to feel secure, and that means playing it small.
  • No risks or new ventures we might be “bad” at.
  • Perfectionism and the fear of visibility.
  • Overachieving and burning out.

Perfectionism

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Task 3: Break the cycle

 

You may have guessed by now that breaking this cycle of perfectionism and fear of failure isn’t a quick or easy task. It’ll require long-term commitment. Here are some easy first steps to get you started:

  • Try not to judge anyone for 24 hours (people you know, politicians, …).
  • Meditate on the concept that everything is worthy just by being.
  • Look for ways of celebrating other people’s successes. Notice your feelings.
  • Take regular breaks from social media.