The Transformation Of Prioritising Passions


 

Abstract:
 

Most people think what I do is help people make time for their hobbies. It can be exasperating to explain that prioritising passion transforms your entire life and rattles the foundations of our modern, dysfunctional society.
 

Your mission today is to learn about the effects of prioritising your passion, as well as how to put it into practice for yourself.
 
 

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Task 1: Be subversive

 

Why passions? Why joy and purpose?
 

It’s no secret that our society today is based on several thousand years of patriarchy. Now, neither the male nore the female principle – quite apart from everything in between and beyond – is good or bad in itself. The problems start when only one principle is deemed valid and useful.
 

We are so brainwashed into valuing only practical, linear, logical things, we don’t even notice it. Pepople spend their entire lives pursuing money, a house, a career, without noticing they aren’t happy. The pursuit of joy, prioritising passions – above money and prestige – of what lights us up, is nothing short of revolutionary.
 

What you can do: Make a decision to focus on what matters.
 

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Task 2: Prioritising passions in practice

 

Make no mistake, this is going to hurt. Again, the principles of usefulness and practicality are so ingrained in us, we never question them. And of course, this isn’t to say that you should stop earning money or caring for your family, because obviously that would be detrimental.
 

The focus you decided on in Task 1, is meaningless unless you follow it up with actions. Where you put your time and money, is what matters to you most.
 

What you can do: Every morning, after waking up, determine which passion you’ll focus on. Make room for it, that same day. Do this every day. Also, invest in your passion, through a course, Coaching, or whatever is appropriate. Money is energy and carries a lot of focus.

Set Some DUMB Goals


 

Abstract:
 

Happy New Year and decade! I hope you’ve arrived well in the 20s. I have, and I suspect it’s going to be a rocking, sexy, amazing decade.
 

To make sure of that, I’ve set some goals. Now, you’ve all heard of “SMART” goals, but I’m going to suggest you go against the grain. Your mission today is to set some DUMB goals and then set yourself up for achieving them.
 
 

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Task 1: Learn about DUMB goals

 

“Smart” goals have been invented for a corporate environment. The method is reasonable and rather uninspiring. In recent years, there’s been a cheeky counter-movement in the Coaching community, called DUMB goals:
 

Daring – Forget being realistic. Reach for the stars.
Uplifting – If it doesn’t give you butterflies, what’s the point?
Magnificent – Bigger goals inspire more than small ones.
Brave – Life’s too short to play it safe.
 
 

Task 2: Set the right goals for you

 

This is meant to give you goals that excite you, rather than feel like a chore. For example, in the category “health”, you may have set the SMART goal to reduce your body fat by 5% in six months. A DUMB goal might be to eat and move in a way that makes you burst with energy and feel your best instead.
 

Go through each of the categories: Health, Finances, Job/Business, Relationships, Spirituality, Passions, and audit the goals you set. If needed, spruce them up with the DUMB principles.
 

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Task 3: Make it fun

 

You know I always tell you to do the first step within 72 hours. I’m still telling you this, but now your challenge is to find something to do that inspires you, rather than just some mechanical first step. Look at each goal and determine something you could do that’s fun, something you’ll look forward to.
 

Write down these first steps and schedule them today, tomorrow, or the day after. If it’s not in your calendar, it isn’t real! And then get going.

Get Ready For The 20s – Part II


 

Abstract:
 

If you’ve missed part I, please take some time to do this first; you’ll need your results from it! This week, your mission is to set yourself up for the best decade of your life so far.
 

Looking ahead doesn’t have to be mere wishful thinking. A significant part of the future is down to you, and that’s reassuring to know, but it’s also a big responsibility. Here’s how to stack the deck in your favour.
 
 

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Task 1: Housecleaning

 

No, don’t worry, I’m not going to send you for the duster! This is about you, your inner workings. To get started, please take a few minutes to review your results from part I.
 

Now ask yourself what you would like to leave behind in the 2010s. Write these things on a piece of paper, then tear it up and burn it. Or take a walk, pick up a stone and speak the things you’d like to leave behind into the stone, then hurl it into a brook or river.
 
 

Task 2: Call in the 20s

 

It’s time for the 20s! Get comfortable, take a deep breath, and take notes on the following questions, one by one:
 

  1. How would you like to feel in the coming decade?
  2. What passions would you like to prioritise?
  3. What do you want to focus most of your time and energy on?
  4. Who would you like to spend more time with?
  5. What would you like to say about your decade on the eve of 2030?

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Task 3: Get specific

 

Now it’s time to set goals. Ask yourself what you’ll have to do and achieve in the coming year, in order to create this decade the way you just decided in Task 2.
 

Set up to three goals for the year each in the areas of Health, Finances, Job/Business, Relationships, Spirituality, Passions. Then determine the first step for each of these goals and schedule to take it within the next 72 hours.

Get Ready For The 20s – Part I


 

Abstract:
 

Every year around this time, posts on social media proclaim it’s been the worst year ever, and the next is going to be great. Some do this year after year, without realising that change is up to themselves in many cases.
 

Your mission is to review the ending decade, and to get ready for the 20s.
 
 

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Task 1: The good and the bad

 

For this task, write down all your personal highlights of the last 10 years: A dream job, wedding, a great holiday etc. Make it at least five for the decade, but not much more than one per year. Also note which year these things happened, or started, in.
 

Next, you do the same for the low points of the decade. Again, find between five for the whole decade, and one per year. Write them down by year.
 
 

Task 2: The timeline

 

Now you create a graph. On the horizontal axis, write the years 2010-2019. On the vertical one, the numbers 1-10. Anything above 5 is a positive event, anything below is negative.
 

Enter the highlights you noted down in Task 1, according to their year and how amazing they were (between 6 and 10). Then connect the dots – quite literally – to create a graph of all the best times this past decade.
 

Next you do the same with the low points. Connect these into a graph line as well.
 

the 20s

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Task 3: Gratitude and lessons for the 20s

 

Looking at your graphs, write down what you’re grateful for. The things you enjoyed, the highlights, maybe even some good outcomes from an initially low point in your life.
 

Next, write down the lessons you’ve learned. Think about how you were ten years ago, and how you are now. In what ways have you changed as a result of what happened? What have you learned?
 

Take your time with this. Also, save your paper, because you’ll need it in the second part, which will set you up for the 20s.

You Do Have Time (And Money) For Your Passions


 

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One thing I keep hearing from my Coaching clients is: “I don’t have time to pursue my passion” and “I don’t have the money”. It’s either that, or a combination of both.
 

I’m going to be a little in-your-face today and say that you do have time and money. I’ll also argue that you feel like you don’t have them because of internalised patterns.
 

Your mission today is to break through the patterns which keep you from doing what lights you up.
 
 

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Task 1: You do have time

 

Do you need to volunteer for every bake sale? Do you need to outdo everyone else at the fancy-dress day at work? Unless these things are among your passions, consider cutting back in favour of something that lights you up.
 

Are people taking advantage of you? It’s not them, you know – it’s up to you to stop allowing it. Set boundaries; get support in learning this if you need to.
 

Examine what you think you “have” to do. Is it really necessary for your house to be spotless all the time? Consider getting help. And if you think you can’t afford this, then the next task is for you.
 

Time and Money

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Task 2: You do have money

 

I once went broke, was forced to educate myself about finances, and lived extremely frugally to pay back debts for over 10 years. I know a thing or two about money.
 

Just like time, money is subject to a lot of beliefs. You may think you don’t have the money to pay for a cleaner, or for your laundry to be done by someone else. But you’re already spending money you don’t need. Examples:
 

  • You don’t need new clothes for at least another year. Really, you don’t.
  • You don’t need to spend a lot of money when you go out. One drink can last all evening.
  • You don’t need a TV license. Pursue your passion, and you won’t even have time to watch TV.