Make Comparison Your Secret Weapon



Comparison can be a bad thing, especially when it comes to Social Media, where people display only the best of their lives. It can make you think that everyone has got their life together except for you.

Others say you should instead compare yourself with who you were in the past. That’s definitely a good idea, but it’s not the whole story. Comparison can be a turbo propelling your whole life forward.

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Task 1: Know your values


Unlike beliefs, which are learned and can be unlearned too, values are deeply ingrained in your character. They show who you are at the deepest core.

You can google to get a list of values. Take a look and spontaneously tick every value you relate to. Then, using the knockout principle, narrow it down to your five top values.

Task 2: Use comparison on your progress


Now it comes to using the secret weapon, comparison. You can do this in two ways:

  1. Compare yourself to your past self, as mentioned above. Where were you years, months ago, or even one week ago? See how far you’ve come.
  2. Compare yourself against your top values from Task 1. Look at the people around you, your work, and how you spend your time. How aligned is all of this with your values?

It’s rare to get 100% alignment, but if anything you do goes directly against any one of your values, you’re heading for trouble, possibly even physical illness. The price of working against yourself is way too high, so do look into making changes in that case.

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Task 3: Determine the necessary changes


If you’ve done Task 2, it should be fairly obvious where you need to make changes, or progress further. Write down the next step you need to take in each area you’ve identified.

Make it just the one step, and take that step (or at least, get started) within 24 hours from now. Aligned action is incredibly powerful.