When I woke up from years of a high-functioning depression, the biggest revelation was my ability to feel again. It was the most delicious thing in the world to experience my emotions.
Some people might argue that you should be careful to feel nothing but positive things because that’s what attracts good things into your life. It’s true that it does, but your experience won’t be ruined by what we think of as negative feelings. In fact, they’re both necessary.
Your mission today is to learn that feelings are your wonder weapon.
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Task 1: The good and the bad
People have been so influenced by the manifestation movement that they’re almost afraid to feel sadness or anger. They feel like failures for, well, feeling bad.
But that’s misplaced, because only the full caleidoscope of all your feelings will bring you into your full power. That’s probably why it resonated with me when I read: “Don’t try to feel better, just try to feel” in Glennon Doyle’s book Untamed.
When I cut myself off in my depression, I avoided the lows, but I also lost the heights of joy that my passions can bring me (I didn’t pursue most of my passions either back then). They’re like two sides of the same coin. Together, all these feelings are your wonder weapon.
Task 2: Feelings without fear
Forget policing your thoughts. It’s possible to very much focus on the positive, but to do that, you need to also fully experience its opposite.
The paradox is that you more you resist anger, sadness etc., the more potent it gets. That’s why it feels so scary to allow them. Once the dam breaks, the flood can indeed be scary, but after that first wave, it becomes a lot more manageable.
When you allow your negative emotions, they lose their power. They sweep through you and then they go away, leaving you to focus on your passions and joy.