3 Steps To Dialling Up Your Happiness Meter


 

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Have you ever wondered why some people seem happier than others? You may think, d’oh, they’re probably rich and healthy. But that assumption doesn’t hold up to research.
 

If you’re like most people, you have experienced periods of intense happiness. However, that often doesn’t last, although circumstances might not have changed.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to increase your capacity for happiness.
 
 

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Task 1: The happiness thermostat

 

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln
 

I don’t think this is quite true, as happiness is not just a matter of the mind. However, it seems that we all have an internal happiness setting that we subconsciously strive to maintain. Gay Hendricks calls it the “Upper Limit”.
 

Your happiness tends to follow the setting of your own inner thermostat. It works both way: If something happens to make you very sad, after a while you’ll return to normal. Similarly, if something happens which lifts you above your usual happiness levels, you’ll eventually return to your personal setting.
 

Your Happiness

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Task 2: 3 Steps to change your happiness habits

 

It’s as simple and as difficult as changing the settings on your happiness barometer. Simple, because it’s not hard to understand. Hard, because it’s like pedalling a bike uphill. You could call it your happiness habit.
 

Here are 3 steps to get you started:

  1. Pursue your passion. You know that one was coming, didn’t you? But you see, it works. It’s also an excellent way of detecting if something’s wrong.
  2. The Gratitude habit. Write down three or five things you’re grateful for every evening before you go to bed. Don’t just write it, though, really feel the emotion of gratitude.
  3. Get Coaching. Sound lame, coming from a Coach? I’m recommending it because Coaching is the best method for changing habits and sticking things out over the required period of time to make the change permanent.

Why You Should Stay Within Your Comfort Zone


 

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Wait, what? Isn’t Coaching about helping you to do the thing you’re scared of?
 

In part, that’s true, but there’s a point where we become so conditioned to seeking discomfort, we no longer know how to enjoy and be happy. Let’s pick this apart and find the golden medium for you.
 
 

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Task 1: Which Comfort Zone is yours?

 

Here are a few examples of different types of comfort zones.
 

Introverts: Depend on their comfort zone to function, to recover from human interaction.
 

HSPs: Similar to introverts, they need to calm their overstimulated minds, and also their physical bodies, to avoid burnout.
 

Literal comfort: You have a decent home, a decent income, decent relationships, not much to strive for. That’s the dangerous one and could signal that you need a little push.
 

Now think of whether you spend enough time in your comfort zone, or whether you got a little too comfortable. Where do you stand right now?
 
 

Task 2: If you need more comfort in your life

 

Signs: Lack of sleep, feeling nervous, unable to sit still and do nothing (try it for 10 minutes!), short temper, inability to relax.
 

Remedy: Self care. This means actually caring for your Self, not piling up more to-dos! If you crave hot chocolate, then that’s your self care.
 

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Task 3: If you need to get out of your comfort zone

 

Signs: You haven’t done anything for the first time in a long time, you haven’t made new friends in the past year, you haven’t been pursuing your passion in more than a week.
 

Remedy: Enlist a coach. Change up your routine. Sign up for a course. Join a group or club and meet new people. Do one thing you’re scared of.
 

Balance the comfort you need and deserve with the joy and excitement of the new. The secret to a joyful life is constantly reviewing and adjusting this process.

Weather Any Storm With This Simple Technique


 

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There was a time in my life when so many good things happened. Everything seemed to come my way, and I couldn’t believe my luck. I loved every minute of it. Then suddenly, I got very cranky and felt low. What had happened?
 

I realised I’d been so busy enjoying my good fortune and celebrating, that I’d taken zero quiet time for myself. This was taking a toll. Self Care is important, whatever we go through in life.
 

My oversight could have been easily prevented, had I practised something I’ve since perfected. I call it “checking in”, and your mission today is to learn how to check in with yourself to keep yourself balanced.
 
 

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Task 1: Checking in

 

Here’s how checking in works:
 

Place your feet on the ground and imagine you are rooted in the earth (this is called grounding). Relax and take a few deep breaths.
 

Then ask your body how it feels. Do you feel any tension, pressure, cold, heat?
 

Next, ask how your mind/soul feel. Are you tired? High in energy? What emotions are present? Excitement, happiness, sadness?
 

Weather Any Storm With This Simple Technique

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Task 2: Set yourself up for success

 

Why does checking in work? Because excitement or stress can transport us either into the past or the future. Our thoughts are elsewhere, but our bodies are always right here and in this moment. Checking in roots us in our bodies, and therefore in the here and now.
 

It’s easy to forget this just when you need it the most, so set up a routine to check in, at least once a day, or twice a day morning and evening. You can do this anywhere and it doesn’t take long.
 

This prevents you from overloading your system either with stress or positive overwhelm, and makes you more resilient and calm to face whatever life sends your way.

What’s Your Type?


 

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Don’t worry, I’m not starting to give romantic advice! I’m talking about your “productivty style”, the way you work.
 

The reason this is important is that our society tends to judge everyone by the same measure. This is great for people who fit into this idea, and not so good for others.
 

Your mission is to identify your very own productivity type, and to learn how to make the most of it.
 
 

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Task 1: Which one’s you?

 

Roughly speaking, there are three different types. I call them the sprinter, the stayer, and the seasonal worker.
 

To some extent, everyone’s everything, but with most people, one of the types is more dominant than the others. Their characteristics are as follows.
 

  • Sprinters start out with a lot of enthusiasm, get a lot done in a short time. Then they might be losing steam further down the line.
  • Stayers are the consistent types our society loves and rewards. They plod along reliably at work and get consistent high grades in school. They may not be geniuses in any one area, but you can depend on their consistency.
  • Seasonal workers work experience phases of high energy when they burst with enthusiasm and productivity. Then they drop off the face of the earth, only to resurface at a later point with another bout of insane productivity.

 

What's your type?

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Task 2: Your type doesn’t define you

 

There’s no good or bad in either of these, unless you take them to the extreme. Obviously, consistency seems desirable, but it can also lead to lifelong mediocrity if it isn’t punctuated by periods of high inspiration.
 

The key to making the most of this is twofold:
 

  1. Use your strengths, and
  2. Get support in your weak areas.

 

Research shows that it’s much more effective to enhance what you’re good at. Enlist the support of a coach – or a friend who complements your strengths to balance your weaknesses.
 

I promise, you won’t know yourself!

What To Do When You Hate Your Life


 

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Apologies for the sensationalist title. But many of us have been in situations where we didn’t like where things were going at all. It may have been an unhealthy relationship in its last stages, a bad job you feel trapped in, or a financial low you seemed unabled to dig yourself out of.
 

Your mission today is to identify the low point in your life and find a way out.
 
 

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Task 1: Audit your life

 

I have a very detailed free Life Audit on my website, so if you have ten minutes to spare, I recommend you take that. Here’s a shortened version:
 

Get a piece of paper and notes down how you would rate your life from 1-10 in the following categories.
 

  • Health
  • Finances
  • Job/Business
  • Relationships
  • Spirituality
  • Passions

 

Make the ratings spontaneous, rather than overthinking them. Then identify the lowest area(s) and make a note of them.
 
 

Task 2: Take measures

 

You may not be able to up and leave your job instantly, but in my experience, there’s no such thing as a hopeless situation. Tackle your lowest-rated area of life first and identify the measures you could take to lift that rating significantly.
 

This may seem insurmountable. The temptation to just cut and run can be overwhelming at this point, but please resist. Instead, get support in the form appropriate to your situation. Don’t try to do it all by yourself. Create an action plan and take the first step straightaway.
 

What To Do When You Hate Your Life

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Task 3: Look after yourself

 

Don’t forget your own wellbeing! Self care is paramount in a situation like this. A negative situation in even just one area of your life can eat up huge amounts of energy and drag down everything else. You need to be in good shape mentally and emotionally to dig yourself out.
 

You can change your life, and you’ll have more patience and stamina to stick it out if your cup is full.