What’s Your Type?


 

Abstract:
 

Don’t worry, I’m not starting to give romantic advice! I’m talking about your “productivty style”, the way you work.
 

The reason this is important is that our society tends to judge everyone by the same measure. This is great for people who fit into this idea, and not so good for others.
 

Your mission is to identify your very own productivity type, and to learn how to make the most of it.
 
 

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Task 1: Which one’s you?

 

Roughly speaking, there are three different types. I call them the sprinter, the stayer, and the seasonal worker.
 

To some extent, everyone’s everything, but with most people, one of the types is more dominant than the others. Their characteristics are as follows.
 

  • Sprinters start out with a lot of enthusiasm, get a lot done in a short time. Then they might be losing steam further down the line.
  • Stayers are the consistent types our society loves and rewards. They plod along reliably at work and get consistent high grades in school. They may not be geniuses in any one area, but you can depend on their consistency.
  • Seasonal workers work experience phases of high energy when they burst with enthusiasm and productivity. Then they drop off the face of the earth, only to resurface at a later point with another bout of insane productivity.

 

What's your type?

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Task 2: Your type doesn’t define you

 

There’s no good or bad in either of these, unless you take them to the extreme. Obviously, consistency seems desirable, but it can also lead to lifelong mediocrity if it isn’t punctuated by periods of high inspiration.
 

The key to making the most of this is twofold:
 

  1. Use your strengths, and
  2. Get support in your weak areas.

 

Research shows that it’s much more effective to enhance what you’re good at. Enlist the support of a coach – or a friend who complements your strengths to balance your weaknesses.
 

I promise, you won’t know yourself!

What To Do When You Hate Your Life


 

Abstract:
 

Apologies for the sensationalist title. But many of us have been in situations where we didn’t like where things were going at all. It may have been an unhealthy relationship in its last stages, a bad job you feel trapped in, or a financial low you seemed unabled to dig yourself out of.
 

Your mission today is to identify the low point in your life and find a way out.
 
 

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Task 1: Audit your life

 

I have a very detailed free Life Audit on my website, so if you have ten minutes to spare, I recommend you take that. Here’s a shortened version:
 

Get a piece of paper and notes down how you would rate your life from 1-10 in the following categories.
 

  • Health
  • Finances
  • Job/Business
  • Relationships
  • Spirituality
  • Passions

 

Make the ratings spontaneous, rather than overthinking them. Then identify the lowest area(s) and make a note of them.
 
 

Task 2: Take measures

 

You may not be able to up and leave your job instantly, but in my experience, there’s no such thing as a hopeless situation. Tackle your lowest-rated area of life first and identify the measures you could take to lift that rating significantly.
 

This may seem insurmountable. The temptation to just cut and run can be overwhelming at this point, but please resist. Instead, get support in the form appropriate to your situation. Don’t try to do it all by yourself. Create an action plan and take the first step straightaway.
 

What To Do When You Hate Your Life

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Task 3: Look after yourself

 

Don’t forget your own wellbeing! Self care is paramount in a situation like this. A negative situation in even just one area of your life can eat up huge amounts of energy and drag down everything else. You need to be in good shape mentally and emotionally to dig yourself out.
 

You can change your life, and you’ll have more patience and stamina to stick it out if your cup is full.

Give Yourself Permission To Want


 

Abstract:
 

When I was little, my mum used to say: “Mr Want has died.” It wasn’t considered polite to express one’s will. Wanting was discouraged.
 

It was well meant, but this kind of thinking is hugely damaging. People think that anyone who’s clear and vocal about what they want, must be selfish and ruthless.
 

Your mission today is to allow yourself to truly want and desire, and to discover why this is the best thing you could do for your loved ones.
 
 

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Task 1: What’s your story?

 

Chances are you have acquired a few internal, subconscious “stories” about wanting over the course of your life. Your first task is to uncover them.
 

Get comfortable, relax, and then finish the sentence, “I want…”, repeatedly. Make a note of what you spontaneously come up with, anything, even if it seems silly.
 

Most of all, however, make a note of how you feel when you express what you want. This is a huge signpost towards your attitude to desire.
 
 

Task 2: Become a receiver

 

Connected to the negativity around desire, is the idea that giving is better than receiving. In reality, a balance is best, because receiving is just as important as giving.
 

Make a conscious effort to become a good receiver. When someone pays you a compliment, say “thank you” (and nothing else). Whenever you receive money, express your gratitude. Give thanks for the food you nourish your body with, and so forth.
 

Permission To Want

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Task 3: Permission to want

 

These tasks need to be repeated in order to truly effect change. Once you feel a lifting of the heaviness around the word “want”, it’s time to use it for yourself.
 

Allow yourself to want, stop being ashamed of it. You weren’t born to play small. Set your loved ones an example of reaching for the stars. Nothing could be more inspiring, and it’ll set them up for more happiness, too.

How To Use Results To Get Motivated


 

Abstract:
 

It seems obvious: getting what we want motivates us to work on it more. People often say this about money (“Give me a million, and I’m going to manage it”). Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and you have to start managing what little money you have in order to create more.
 

But how do you get motivated from the very start? In fact, there are several ways of doing this, and I’m going to introduce to you two of them.
 

Your mission is to use results to get motivated to do [fill in the blank].
 
 

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Task 1: Use results to get clarity

 

Don’t worry, you needn’t “visualise” for this. For some reason, people seem to be afraid of visualisation, but what it really means is to fantasise or daydream! Anyone can do that.
 

Imagine what you truly want to achieve. Picture your goal, or the passion you wish to prioritise in your life. Imagine a perfect “day in the life”, when you have actually prioritised your passion and achieved your goal. Picture every detail and use your senses as well as your emotions.
 

This gives you a good idea of what it is you truly want. It helps you set and adjust your goals, to make sure you’re working on results that really matter to you.
 

Use Results To Get Motivated

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Task 2: Create results, fast

 

Find a way to get a “quick win”. By that I don’t mean a shortcut that makes the whole thing meaningless. I mean a first, tangible results.
 

When I got back into shape, I wanted to dance again. After a week of daily yoga / stretching for 5-10 minutes each day, I danced through a whole song without going out of breath. And I was hooked again.
 

Results make you addicted, so create and aim for as many part-way results – milestones – as you can. You’ll never lack motivation to go forward.

When The People Around You Just Don’t Get It


 

Abstract:
 

Years ago, long before I ever discovered Coaching, a good friend of mine trained to be a Coach. I’d just been made permanent in a job and for the first time in my life, felt the comfort of a regular salary.
 

She was gushing about being self-employed, while I was in a completely different place. We navigated the differences, but it often felt weird. At worst, this type of situation can feel like your environment is holding you back.
 

Your mission is to learn how to handle people who are in a different phase.
 
 

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Task 1: Understand life’s natural cycles

 

To start off with, it helps to realise that life is cyclical. The seasons follow each other; no tree blossoms all year around. Similarly, we go through phases of passion and joy, energy and enthusiasm, followed by quieter periods of “maintenance”. There are even periods where we’re distracted, where life just happens and demands our attention elsewhere.
 

Realise that the other person might not be in the same phase. This also helps you have more compassion with yourself when you’re less motivated. Your passion might require consistency, but don’t expect yourself to be equally motivated all the time. Simply develop the dedication needed to stick with it through the hard times.
 

When The People Around you Just Don't Get It

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Task 2: Sanitise your environment

 

At the same time, if someone around you is openly negative or ridicules you, it can seriously impact your progress and your happiness. Call it out in a non-confrontational way; tell them how their attitude makes you feel.
 

If nothing changes, you need, for your own sanity, remove yourself from their influence. If you can’t kick them out of your life altogether, create pockets of alone time for yourself where you can pursue your passion. Talk about other things; don’t confide in them concerning the phase you’re in.
 

Protect your space, but be understanding, too. We all walk our own paths.