How To Use Results To Get Motivated


 

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It seems obvious: getting what we want motivates us to work on it more. People often say this about money (“Give me a million, and I’m going to manage it”). Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and you have to start managing what little money you have in order to create more.
 

But how do you get motivated from the very start? In fact, there are several ways of doing this, and I’m going to introduce to you two of them.
 

Your mission is to use results to get motivated to do [fill in the blank].
 
 

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Task 1: Use results to get clarity

 

Don’t worry, you needn’t “visualise” for this. For some reason, people seem to be afraid of visualisation, but what it really means is to fantasise or daydream! Anyone can do that.
 

Imagine what you truly want to achieve. Picture your goal, or the passion you wish to prioritise in your life. Imagine a perfect “day in the life”, when you have actually prioritised your passion and achieved your goal. Picture every detail and use your senses as well as your emotions.
 

This gives you a good idea of what it is you truly want. It helps you set and adjust your goals, to make sure you’re working on results that really matter to you.
 

Use Results To Get Motivated

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Task 2: Create results, fast

 

Find a way to get a “quick win”. By that I don’t mean a shortcut that makes the whole thing meaningless. I mean a first, tangible results.
 

When I got back into shape, I wanted to dance again. After a week of daily yoga / stretching for 5-10 minutes each day, I danced through a whole song without going out of breath. And I was hooked again.
 

Results make you addicted, so create and aim for as many part-way results – milestones – as you can. You’ll never lack motivation to go forward.

When The People Around You Just Don’t Get It


 

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Years ago, long before I ever discovered Coaching, a good friend of mine trained to be a Coach. I’d just been made permanent in a job and for the first time in my life, felt the comfort of a regular salary.
 

She was gushing about being self-employed, while I was in a completely different place. We navigated the differences, but it often felt weird. At worst, this type of situation can feel like your environment is holding you back.
 

Your mission is to learn how to handle people who are in a different phase.
 
 

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Task 1: Understand life’s natural cycles

 

To start off with, it helps to realise that life is cyclical. The seasons follow each other; no tree blossoms all year around. Similarly, we go through phases of passion and joy, energy and enthusiasm, followed by quieter periods of “maintenance”. There are even periods where we’re distracted, where life just happens and demands our attention elsewhere.
 

Realise that the other person might not be in the same phase. This also helps you have more compassion with yourself when you’re less motivated. Your passion might require consistency, but don’t expect yourself to be equally motivated all the time. Simply develop the dedication needed to stick with it through the hard times.
 

When The People Around you Just Don't Get It

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Task 2: Sanitise your environment

 

At the same time, if someone around you is openly negative or ridicules you, it can seriously impact your progress and your happiness. Call it out in a non-confrontational way; tell them how their attitude makes you feel.
 

If nothing changes, you need, for your own sanity, remove yourself from their influence. If you can’t kick them out of your life altogether, create pockets of alone time for yourself where you can pursue your passion. Talk about other things; don’t confide in them concerning the phase you’re in.
 

Protect your space, but be understanding, too. We all walk our own paths.

It’s Not Perfect, But It’s Perfect For Now


 

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When I had to move out of my rental house, I was torn between wanting to live in my favourite county and moving closer to where most of my friends live. A friend wisely pointed out that whatever my decision, it wouldn’t be set in stone.
 

“It could be perfect for now,” she said. She was right, and in the years since, I’ve found myself applying this wisdom to other areas, too.
 
 

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Deferred dreams

 

People love stories like mine: How I left a soulless job, started working from home and prioritising my passions. What they don’t want to hear about is the years when I still needed that soulless job to pay back dues.
 

Your dreams don’t have a sell-by date. There might be legitimate reasons for deferring them – just don’t make the mistake to postpone joy, too. Life might be perfect for now.
 

Perfect for now

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Find your “perfect for now”

 

Don’t stay unhappy and isolated until you can make the big break. No matter what your situation, there’s always something you can do. Here are a few suggestions to inspire you:
 

  • Pursue your passion in whatever way you can. Reach out to others or join an internet platform if you can’t manage to actually do what you love just yet.
  • Get Coaching, even and especially if you think you don’t have the time, headspace or money at the moment (that’s when it’s most crucial!).
  • Appreciate what’s “perfect for now” about your current situation. Not much time for your passion may mean more time for your kids while they’re young.
  • Set detailed goals for achieving your dream and prioritising your passion. Include steps you can do in your current situation. Keep reviewing and updating your goals.

 

You can always work towards building your life around your passions and purpose. Finding joy today will empower you to stick it out.

The Secret To Getting More Time


 

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Jim Rohn said: “Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you can’t get more time.” Time’s also the subject cited most often – more than money – as a reason why people say they can’t prioritise their passions, or get coaching, or get healthy, you name it.
 

There are many time management systems, and I’ve studied a lot of them. A few parts of each have stuck, but there’s only one insight which has made all the difference. Let me explain.
 
 

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Why time management fails

 

The issue with most time management systems is that life isn’t predictable or linear. You can plan your day minutely, but then life just happens and throws everything over. The nature of life runs contrary to strict planning.
 

Some systems take this into account, though. Instead of planning a day by a schedule, they suggest setting priorities first and fitting in less important tasks around them. This leads to the insight that once the important things are taken care of, there’s always more time for the rest.
 

Time is relative: how “long” an hour is, depends on your perception of it.
 

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Passions first

 

To help people put this insight into practice, is my life’s work and purpose. It literally changes the world by shifting people’s focus from necessities and fear to desires and pleasure. However, people tend to fear that pursuing their passion won’t leave time for anything else.
 

In reality, the opposite is the case: Once your passions are the first priority in your life, and you make room for them and put them above everything else, you’ll find that time seems to expand. This is where the subjective, relative perception of time comes in. There’s more than enough room for everything when you’re in your “zone” and joyful.

Pursuing Your Passion – Or Just A Hobby?


 

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Passion is an overused word these days. Everything that’s even remotely an interest, is called “passion”. There’s nothing wrong with hobbies or interests, but you need to differentiate between having a hobby and pursuing your passion.
 
 

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What’s the difference?

 

A hobby or interest is anything that captures your attention, anything you enjoy. An example would be my singing: I love it, but it’s not an essential part of my life (music in general is, but not specifically as singing).
 

Dancing is my passion; I can’t be fully myself without it. Passions fulfill a need in you and make you outrageously happy, almost ecstatic. Pursuing a passion makes time fly without you noticing. You feel like you could do this all day. Hobby and passion can feel similar – a hobby can get close to this feeling, especially at first, but it usually doesn’t last.
 

If it’s a passion, you keep rediscovering it and falling in love with it all over again. It captures your imagination for years.
 

hobby and passion

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Why is this important?

 

It’s important because not pursuing your passion means limiting yourself. You don’t fully live up to your potential, and doing that – keeping part of yourself unevolved, under wraps – is one of the most common regrets old people have when their lives are about to end.
 

I spent some time in a reduced version of my life, and the fact I wasn’t dancing almost daily was testament to that. One of the first things I started doing when I “returned to life” was putting on some tunes and dance.
 

Passions also lead to your purpose. It’s not always as straightforward as your passion being your purpose, but once you set your soul alight through radically prioritising your passion, you will stumble on your purpose in some way, shape, or form.