Is It Serious Or Casual (Your Passions, That Is)?


 

Abstract:
 

When we meet a potential romantic partner, we tend to avoid rushing in. Once we’ve established we like each other, that’s when the other person takes precedence over others in our lives. However, some relationships will always remain casual and might have to take a back seat when we’re busy at work or with other areas of our lives.
 

You see, your passions are very similar. Your mission today is to learn whether you’re ‘committed’ or ‘casual’.
 
 

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Task 1: Let me count the ways

 

Just like a romantic partner (and anything else in your life, really), you passions get a certain amount of your energy and attention. How much that is, depends much less on outer circumstances such as how much time you have than we tend to believe.
 

Generally, we’ll find both time and money for the things we deem worthwhile. So, is it serious?
 

It’s worth asking yourself these two questions:

  1. How often does it happen that you’re prevented from pursuing your passion?
  2. What are the things that get in the way (your job? Your children? Tiredness/lack of motivation? etc.)?

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Task 2: Is it serious?

 

Obviously, the less you are prevented from pursuing your passion and the fewer things are capable of preventing you, the higher the priority you place on your passion. What does this mean?
 

It means that if you say your passion and your joy are important to you, you need to treat them accordingly.
 

To do this, look at your answers to question 2 above and try to find solutions for them. Obviously, these solutions will be as varied as our lives are individual. You might get an assistant at work or change jobs to free up time or get help in the household or with your children. You could practice more self care and take rest seriously so you’ll have more time and energy.
 

Give yourself a chance to actually prioritise your passions. The joy will follow.

Feelings Are Your Wonder Weapon


 

Abstract:
 

When I woke up from years of a high-functioning depression, the biggest revelation was my ability to feel again. It was the most delicious thing in the world to experience my emotions.
 

Some people might argue that you should be careful to feel nothing but positive things because that’s what attracts good things into your life. It’s true that it does, but your experience won’t be ruined by what we think of as negative feelings. In fact, they’re both necessary.
 

Your mission today is to learn that feelings are your wonder weapon.
 
 

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Task 1: The good and the bad

 

People have been so influenced by the manifestation movement that they’re almost afraid to feel sadness or anger. They feel like failures for, well, feeling bad.
 

But that’s misplaced, because only the full caleidoscope of all your feelings will bring you into your full power. That’s probably why it resonated with me when I read: “Don’t try to feel better, just try to feel” in Glennon Doyle’s book Untamed.
 

When I cut myself off in my depression, I avoided the lows, but I also lost the heights of joy that my passions can bring me (I didn’t pursue most of my passions either back then). They’re like two sides of the same coin. Together, all these feelings are your wonder weapon.
 

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Task 2: Feelings without fear

 

Forget policing your thoughts. It’s possible to very much focus on the positive, but to do that, you need to also fully experience its opposite.
 

The paradox is that you more you resist anger, sadness etc., the more potent it gets. That’s why it feels so scary to allow them. Once the dam breaks, the flood can indeed be scary, but after that first wave, it becomes a lot more manageable.
 

When you allow your negative emotions, they lose their power. They sweep through you and then they go away, leaving you to focus on your passions and joy.

2 Ways To Find Money For Your Passion


 

Abstract:
 

When I ask people why they don’t prioritise their passion more, the most frequent reply is: “Because I have no time,” followed by: “I don’t have the money for it.” Passions may be costly in terms of supplies or tuition, travel, or simply because time is indeed money to an extent and you need to be able to spare the money you could earn in the time you’re spending on your passion.
 

Your mission today is to learn two ways to find money for your passion.
 
 

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Task 1: Your true priorities

 

There are several reasons why I always talk about priority when I mention passions. Merely making more time for a passion is not going to cause the same transformation as actually prioritising it.
 

One of the things that shift is your finances. When you look at your spendings in the past month, you’ll notice what your true priorities are:

  • A big chunk will be living costs (rent/mortgage, food etc)
  • There will likely be distractions (subscriptions, impulse purchases, consumer goods)
  • Hopefully there’ll be investments
  • And there should be money for passions.

To free up money for the latter, you need to cut down on the distractions. It won’t feel like deprivation, because the more you focus on what lights you up, the less you need distractions.
 

In other words: Your task is to stop buying stuff!
 

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Task 2: Allocate money for your passion

 

If you don’t work with budgets yet, it’s time to get going. If you need any help with this, reach out. For a more thorough rework of your finances including your money mindset, check out Wild Money.
 

Basically, now that you know your spendings, you allocate percentages to it. Necessities, savings, gifts, etc. And 5-10 percent – depending on how much you earn – should be your passions budget.
 

Something happens when you consciously allocate money to something: it becomes important. It feels real and shows that you’re taking your passion seriously.

Do You Really Long For A Simple Life?


 

Abstract:
 

When I was stuck in a meaningless city job, commuting, working all hours and never seeing the sun during the week in winter, I remember longing for a simple life. A cottage in nature, books, peace and quiet. Wholesome food.
 

Many people seem to relate to this ideal, and it does sound beautiful. But is it truly for you? What exactly is its appeal?
 

Your mission today is to find out how and to what extent you should simplify your life.
 
 

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Task 1: A minimalist fairytale?

 

Like most fairytales, it isn’t quite as ideal as it sounds. Some people who have taken the leap, speak of loneliness, having no internet, getting older with nobody to look after them.
 

Exactly how simple should your life be, then? I believe it helps to write down what exactly appeals to you about the simple countryside life. Here are some examples that may or may not apply:

  • more quiet
  • more nature
  • fewer people and more meaningful connections
  • fewer expectations
  • less stress and pressure

Also write down – and be very honest here – what you don’t want to miss from your current life. For me, that would be:

  • decent internet
  • culture (exhibitions, concerts…)
  • medical care

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Task 2: Create your own simple life

 

Now you have a few clues as to what you want. A lot of them are achievable without moving to the middle of nowhere. I still think I’ll do it some day, but in the meantime, I’ve implemented steps that have simplified my life right here and now.
 

You could:

  • declutter and become a minimalist
  • significantly reduce your online time and engagement
  • make a point of connecting with people you love
  • regularly spend time in nature.

Think of concrete steps to implement these things, and plan them for this week, and then take it from there.

Having Trouble With Meditation? Try Passions


 

Abstract:
 

Almost everyone agrees that meditation is beneficial; at least, everyone has heard that it is. And still it’s a challenge for many people. I often hear someone doesn’t have time to meditate, or that they have trouble with meditation; they “just can’t do it”.
 

Your mission today is to use your passions to get into the present moment.
 
 

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Task 1: Meditation and Mindfulness

 

Meditation is not hard, but a lot of people are almost afraid of it. And indeed, the type of meditation where you “stop thinking”, takes some practice to achieve. If you’d like a somewhat less daunting start, I recommend mindfulness.
 

Put simply, mindfulness is becoming aware of your present moment and your present activity. Of course there’s more to it, which you can read up about, but in its most basic form, you can start right now by paying attention to your body and what you’re doing right now.
 

In the next task, I’ll teach you my favourite way of arriving in the present moment.
 

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Task 2: Mindfulness through passions

 

I always emphasise that passions give you joy, and they do of course. But what they also do is provide a shortcut to “living in the moment”. It’s like meditation in action, applied mindfulness, and if you’re having trouble with meditation, I definitely recommend it.
 

When we do something that lights us up, we forget time. Have you ever looked up after five minutes and realised it’s actually been two hours? That’s because you got absorbed in your passion. You no longer paid attention to the outside world, you were fully in the moment.
 

Strictly speaking, you actually transcend mindfulness this way, you go beyond being aware of what you’re doing to no longer being aware of anything except bliss. This state is called “flow”, and there will be another video about it soon.
 

In any case, it’ll eliminate distractions and ground you in the here and now. This state is as rare as it is important in our modern world.