How To Instantly Get Out Of A Rut


 

Abstract:
 

Playing the piano is one of my main passions, and has been since I was 8. But there have been times – and it continues to happen – when I’m just uninspired.
 

Does that mean my passion is no longer my passion? Of course it doesn’t.
 

The truth is, just like love and friendships, jobs, projects, and everything else, passions go through phases and cycles and won’t feel equally exciting all the time.
 

Your mission is to learn how to get out of a rut, fast.
 
 

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Task 1: Find out if it’s just a phase

 

Most likely, there’s nothing wrong with your passion (or relationship, or project or whatever). You’ve just hit a bit of a plateau where things are ticking along but aren’t particularly exciting.
 

I’d like to invite you to take a closer look. Is this really all there is to it? There are situations when a passion doesn’t suit you anymore, when you’ve outgrown it. If that’s the case, then you should just drop it, instead of trying to rekindle your interest.
 

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Task 2: Inject the magic ingredient

 

I’ve teased it for long enough, haven’t I? The silver bullet I’m talking about, to get out of a rut and revive the spark in just about anything, is the power of the new.
 

If you’ve been working with the same group of people for a long time, the addition of someone new, even temporarily, might break it all wide open and give everyone a fresh, exciting perspective. If your passion feels stale, try doing something differently. Buy a new tool, try a new technique, or a new angle. Visit other people who share your passion. Take part in a workshop. The possibilities are endless.
 

At the piano, I’ll find a new piece to practise and fall in love with, or reach out to a friend to play something together. Instantly, everything feels new and the love and passion are back.
 

There’s magic in the new.

Make Changes In Easy Mode


 

Abstract:
 

My Coaching clients book me because they want to change something. However, even they sometimes resist taking the obvious next steps. And if people who have the will to make changes, who’ve paid someone to help them change, can resist it, how hard must it be for everyone else?
 

In fact, change can be inspiring and breathe new interest into almost every area of your life. Happily, it needn’t be scary either.
 

Your mission is to learn where exactly you need to change, and how to go about it.
 
 

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Task 1: Distinguish between being and doing

 

Relationships usually go downhill when one partner starts trying to change the other. Nobody likes to feel they aren’t good enough the way they are.
 

The good news is, you are good enough and you needn’t change at all! Isn’t that a relief?
 

What you do when you wish to make changes is focus on your behaviour. This goes for relationships as well as any other area in life: We’re afraid of change because it seems to threaten the way we are, when in fact, we only need to change some things we do – and that’s achievable.
 
 

Task 2: Find out what you want to change

 

To do this task, I really recommend pausing this video for ten minutes and doing the free Life Audit. It’ll give you an excellent idea of what area of your life you need to make changes in: Health, Finances, Job/Business, Relationships, Spirituality, Passions.
 

Once you’ve identified an area, drill down into exactly what you’d like to be different. Be as specific as possible and write down two or three bullet points.
 

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Task 3: Make changes – the right way

 

Now that you have your desired changes black on white in front of you, determine the actions you need to take to achieve them.
 

Be very specific. Again, this is something you may need to pause the video for. Write down one to three actions, but don’t overwhelm yourself. You can always determine further steps later.
 

Begin changing your actions today. Don’t put it off. Do one thing differently. Keep doing this; you’ll come up against your own inner resistance, so plan ahead and set yourself reminders on your phone.
 

Changing your actions will change your outcomes. It really is as simple, and as difficult, as that.

3 Steps To Beat Laziness


 

Abstract:
 

I’ve spoken about this before, but it remains relevant: People don’t exercise, don’t pursue their passion, don’t eat healthy, and invariably they think they’re lazy.
 

Trust me, laziness has nothing to do with it.
 

Your mission today is to learn a surefire way of getting shit done (and never beating yourself up again!).
 
 

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Task 1: Planning is good

 

Here’s a secret: Laziness doesn’t exist. What we call lazy is a lack of motivation for a very good reason. In our day and age, that reason is mostly overwhelm from feeling too many demands on your time.
 

Especially creative types resist planning anything. But planning means setting yourself up for success, and if your ability to be creative at all depends on it, isn’t it worth a try?
 

Learn to use your smartphone calendar. Part of your morning routine should be to overview the day ahead. Remember any appointments and put alerts in place so you won’t forget.
 

Planning is half the battle, as the next task will show.
 

Task 2: Prioritise

 

Every morning as you review your day, pick one or two priorities. This is stuff you absolutely must get done. You may protest that there are a dozen more things you can’t skip, and you may be right, for example if you need to drive your kids to school.
 

In that case, distinguish between chores and tasks. Your tasks are the things that need to get done but aren’t everyday chores like housework and being there for your family.
 

Pick a maximum of two. Trust me on this.
 

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Task 3: Realise that it’s not laziness

 

Even if you’re extremely unmotivated that day, you can always get the one thing done that you chose to set as your priority. Even two things should be okay.
 

Once this has been accomplished, you’re done. Don’t cheat yourself by expecting more. Of course you’re allowed to do more, but getting the one or two priorities out of the way is all that’s required.
 

See? You’re not lazy after all!

The “Working Hard” Myth


 

Abstract:
 

People disagree on almost everything, but one thing 90% agree on is that hard work is a good thing. Indeed, when I tell someone that I work with people on prioritising their passion, the reaction I get most frequently is: “But you’ve got to work hard, too.”
 

Where does this come from? Why does hardly anyone question it?
 

Your mission today is to find what you really want in your life, and what the best way is to get it.
 
 

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Task 1: Why we worship working hard

 

People have always worked, that’s true. But I wonder whether historically, work was really that backbreaking. There were certainly exceptions, but mostly people had one focus, a one-track mind.
 

We used to have to work to feed ourselves. Then we became employees and work became abstract. To keep us motivated, the philosophy became that working hard is the only right way of living. We were also told that it’s the way to make money, which most rich people will tell you is nonsense.
 

The concept of focusing on passion, joy, and pleasure runs so contrary to this, it’s no wonder people have trouble even believing that it’s possible!
 

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Task 2: What do you really want?

 

This echoes back to last week’s episode – catch it here if you missed it. Why is it so important to find out what you truly want?
 

Because in order to break away from working hard as the answer to all questions, we’re going to have to cut back. Not on carbs, but on demands on ourselves and our time.
 

Once you know what’s truly important to you, you can pick which things you need to prioritise. Make sure it’s something that lights you up! Of course, a bit of balance is great, but trying to do it all is the root of all evil in our day and age.

But I Can’t Afford The Life Of My Dreams!


 

Abstract:
 

90% of the people I talk to, react in a similar way: When I ask them what their dreams are, they will name something that isn’t all that far beyond their current life. If I press them to go completely overboard, they’ll respond with: “But I could never afford to live like that.”
 

What they don’t understand is that the point of goals is not to know how you’ll achieve them. In fact, Bob Proctor said: “If you know what to do to reach your goal, it’s not a big enough goal.”
 

Your mission is to do what Neo needed to do in the Matrix: “Free your mind”.
 
 

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Task 1: Reason is overrated

 

There is a place for reason. A goal isn’t worthless just because you know how to reach it, and yet, I agree that at least some of your goals or dreams should be far outside of what you think possible.
 

Examine what keeps you from dreaming big. Do you feel a little silly? But imagination is limitless, and so is creativity. Do you think it’s impossible? Fact is, lots of people have achieved things far beyond what they thought they could. The evidence is plenty.
 

Thinking creatively, going beyond, even into the realm of silliness, is a skill you can learn. Set yourself a reminder once a week for “dream time”.
 

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Task 2: Program your mind for your dreams

 

This is an ongoing task and will take some time. Basically, you need to brainwash yourself. Here are a few steps for you to take:
 

  1. Read something positive every day. Include books on finances (try Amanda Steinberg or Jen Sincero). Make time for it.
  2. Follow blogs, podcasts, YouTube channels by personal development experts. You could start with my newsletter and videos!
  3. Surround yourself by positive people. Know anyone who’s into this stuff? Seek them out and spend more time with them.