Every now and then, a post goes around Social Media that pretty much everyone can agree on. It praises the “simple life”, reading by the window, going for walks after the rain… It gets shared widely and makes people sigh wistfully.
Ironically, those of us who share these types of posts, are often people who work all hours or juggle a family with countless social obligations. I include myself in this: As a multi-passionate, I used to be involved in way too many things. Individually, each activity was meaningful and fun, and I loved the people I met through them, but overall my schedule was exhausting.
You see the disconnect, don’t you? I’m the first person who’ll tell you to live your dreams – it’s what my Coaching is all about – but to do that, you need to eliminate everything from your life which doesn’t fit the vision.
[bctt tweet=”To live your dream, you need to eliminate everything from your life which doesn’t fit the vision.”]
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Time for dreams
This is the fun part. Put on your tinfoil hat and get comfortable, and then close your eyes (well – it might be a good idea to finish reading the next paragraph first!). Then imagine that magically, money or social obligations no longer play a role in your life. You are enjoying the incredible luxury of doing exactly what you choose every single day.
Picture “A day in the life” for yourself. Spend at least 10 minutes on this and imagine every last detail. What does your house look like? Who else lives there, if anyone? Where do you live? What do the surroundings look like? What’s the weather on this particular day? How do you wake up in the morning, and what do you do? How do you spend all the beautiful hours of your day?
A few questions to consider:
- Do you work? If so, what is your work? How much time do you spend on it and how does it make you feel?
- Do you make art? Craft? Create? Pursue your passion or multiple passions?
- Do you exercise? Play?
- Do you travel? If so, where to?
These are just a few prompts to get you going! Go ahead and dream up a perfect day in your perfect life. If possible, write down your vision; written dreams are particularly powerful.
Reality check: A “simple life”?
Once you’re done dreaming, it’s time to reconcile this vision with your reality. It may seem impossible at first, but don’t dismiss it too quickly. First, take the following steps:
- Think or read back over your dream day. What was the overall atmosphere in it? What did you feel (happiness, content, love, gratitude…)? Be specific and write down these feelings.
- Before, I invited you to go into detail. Now, I ask you to look at the big picture and find out what the general theme of your dream life was. Was it peace and quiet? Excitement and adventure? People and love? Of course, there might be elements of several or all of these things (and others besides them). Just try to find the one main theme, the one which matters to you the most.
- Now it’s time to compare the dominant emotions and the main theme of your dream to your current reality. Write down your observations, especially obvious discrepancies.
Now you have, right in front of you, the things you need to work on. If your life already matches your dream, great! Figure out ways in which to infuse even more of your favourite emotions and “theme” into every day. If you see discrepancies, make a plan to tackle them one by one. This is a perfect time to introduce Coaching into your life, by the way!
Don’t try to revolutionise everything at once. Often, only small adjustments are needed. Remember, you aren’t trying to live the life of a millionaire by tomorrow; you are trying to recreate feelings and themes, and those aren’t dependent on a budget or life situation.
If it’s the “simple life” from the quote at the beginning of this article that you’re craving, then maybe it’s time to drop all those obligations and activities. If you’re all for excitement, then maybe you should spend more money on travelling than on housing. if you want to pursue your passion, maybe you don’t need 25 pairs of shoes or the latest gadget.
The point of this exercise is to align your life with what you truly want.
[bctt tweet=”Life is too short to live somebody else’s vision. It’s time for you to create your own.”]