Can – And Should – You Feel Motivated Every Day?


 

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Some years ago, I discovered the power of centering my life around my passions. I felt more inspired and motivated than ever, and I was outrageously happy.
 

These days, whenever I’m not quite feeling it and elect to have a cosy day at home, some people smirk a little. “What happened to your joy and passion?” they ask, implying that because I’ve figured out the secret to happiness, I should be happy pretty much permanently.
 

Your mission is to learn why you can’t – and shouldn’t! – be motivated every day, and how to maximise your happiness.
 
 

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Task 1: Motivated every day?

 

It’s a myth that some people are feeling great all the time. Unfortunately, this myth is widely believed. Along with it goes a feeling of failure whenever we’re not super motivated and inspired.
 

You’re human. Experiencing every human emotion, even feeling tired and unmotivated, isn’t a failure, it’s part of the package. Even understanding this, it can be hard not to feel bad about, well, feeling bad sometimes. Consciously practice letting yourself off the hook.
 

Nobody is motivated every day. That’s a good thing, in a way, because we all need breaks and rest, too. Listen to your needs and fulfil them as much as you can.
 

motivated every day
 

Task 2: Maximise your joy and happiness

 

You can’t always be on your top game, but you can certainly maximise the time you feel great. Here are three ways to do that:
 

Plan for regular downtime. Don’t wait until you run out of motivation. You can burn out on your passions, too! Therefore, plan regular time for self-care and time for rest.
 

Make your passions accessible. Don’t keep your crafting materials on the upper shelf or your workout things in the attic – have them handy and prioritise your passions-time.
 

Keep your passions fresh. Regularly try new things or do courses, and connect with others. Even the greatest passion can get stale if you never vary your approach.
 

How To Use Results To Get Motivated


 

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It seems obvious: getting what we want motivates us to work on it more. People often say this about money (“Give me a million, and I’m going to manage it”). Of course, it doesn’t work that way, and you have to start managing what little money you have in order to create more.
 

But how do you get motivated from the very start? In fact, there are several ways of doing this, and I’m going to introduce to you two of them.
 

Your mission is to use results to get motivated to do [fill in the blank].
 
 

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Task 1: Use results to get clarity

 

Don’t worry, you needn’t “visualise” for this. For some reason, people seem to be afraid of visualisation, but what it really means is to fantasise or daydream! Anyone can do that.
 

Imagine what you truly want to achieve. Picture your goal, or the passion you wish to prioritise in your life. Imagine a perfect “day in the life”, when you have actually prioritised your passion and achieved your goal. Picture every detail and use your senses as well as your emotions.
 

This gives you a good idea of what it is you truly want. It helps you set and adjust your goals, to make sure you’re working on results that really matter to you.
 

Use Results To Get Motivated

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Task 2: Create results, fast

 

Find a way to get a “quick win”. By that I don’t mean a shortcut that makes the whole thing meaningless. I mean a first, tangible results.
 

When I got back into shape, I wanted to dance again. After a week of daily yoga / stretching for 5-10 minutes each day, I danced through a whole song without going out of breath. And I was hooked again.
 

Results make you addicted, so create and aim for as many part-way results – milestones – as you can. You’ll never lack motivation to go forward.

Couch Vs Joy – Why Motivation Doesn’t Work

Couch vs Joy, Motivation doesn't work
 

There was a time in my life when I drove to the office in the morning, worked all day, then drove home. In the evening, I sat on my couch in front of the computer or with a book in my hand. Every day was the same, with occasional exceptions at the weekends.
 

I didn’t even notice anything missing from my life. I thought I was happy. Sure, there were things I wanted to do: learn historical swordfighting, take up archery again. But I “didn’t have the time” or the money, and anyway, I told myself that life was good.
 

Just think how many people live like this! Thoreau said that most people “lead lives of quiet desperation”. It might not be quite that bad, but a lot of us have experienced what it’s like to live without the exhileration of doing what lights us up, at least at some point in our lives.
 

Why do we do this to ourselves? I talked about the “excuses list” in last week’s article, but the truth is, it really can be a challenge to get up off our backsides. When we’re overworked and underwhelmed and constantly tired, it’s not so easy to resist the call of the couch, as my own Coach puts it.
 

What to do when even your passion feels like a chore?
 
 

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Why “motivation” doesn’t work

 

“Motivation” is this weird idea that somehow, if you only think the correct thoughts, you’ll do what you previously didn’t want to do. If you stop and think about it, it makes no sense at all! And it gets worse: The more you fail to motivate yourself, the worse you feel and the less likely you are to change.
 

How about you stop beating yourself up and look for the real reasons for your hesitation instead? For example, during my “couch years”, I was permanently exhausted because I never got enough sleep due to a rather night-active neighbour who kept me awake. I also ate foods that make me sluggish.
 

In the following years, I moved to a detached house where I could get the rest I needed. Through trial and error, I found out which types of food send me to sleep. I changed my eating habits, got regular sleep, and within months I was a completely changed person. Suddenly, I couldn’t wait to jump up and get dancing and swordfighting!
 

The reasons might be different for you, but trust me, they’re there. You may be overwhelmed with too many chores and responsibilities, or you’ve neglected self care for too long. Check for what’s missing and make the necessary changes (Coaching is great for these kinds of makeovers, by the way!), and soon your passion will beckon you.
 
 

Is your passion still your passion?

 

This is a tricky one. Passions do change sometimes. If you are a multi-passionate, you’ll be used to this: We simply process the world a little differently and so we often change priorities or lose interest in something. If you no longer find the motivation to do what used to light you up, take a closer look.
 

The tricky bit is that even the strongest passion can become less appealing for a period of time if you’re stuck or plateauing in your skill. For example, a novelist might experience writer’s block to the point when they hate the sight of their workspace. In my archery, I’ve been through times when I adjusted my technique and for some weeks, didn’t seem to hit anything. I had a lot of resistance to even picking up my bow to practice.
 

As long as you’re tuned into your own emotions, you should be able to tell whether you’re losing interest in something or simply going through a challenging phase. If it’s the former, then let yourself off the hook, re-assess, and find a different passion which lights you up. In the latter case, you’re going to need a mixture of self-forgiveness and discipline to push through the dry spell (this is once again an area where a Coach can be invaluable).
 
 

Go for the emotion

 

Lastly, in order to find your drive, focus on the way you want to feel rather than the activity itself. To build the strength I need for swordfighting, I do some basic strength exercise which isn’t always pleasant. However, I love the feeling of accomplishment after completing the routine, and I definitely love getting better at swordfighting. Remembering the exhileration motivates me to do my training.
 

Find the emotions your passion gives you, and make that your goal. You’ll be up and about in no time at all!