• NLP Hacks To Transform Your Life

    NLP: Wild Spirits Coaching

    I had tears streaming down my face, so painful was the memory of the argument. The gentle voice of my NLP Coach told me it was okay, that I was in a safe space… And then she told me to take myself out of the scene that I had recreated in so much detail, and to view it as a mere spectator instead. Gradually, as she guided me through further stages of the process, my tears dried. When the session ended, I felt a profound sense of relief and peace. I’ve been able to remember that argument without feeling any emotional upset ever since.

    Some people claim that “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” (NLP) is basically manipulation or mind control. In reality, NLP simply makes use of the way our brains work. These mechanics are happening anyway, and all NLP does is to make us more conscious of them, so we can get rid of negative patterns, communicate more successfully, and even re-shape our lives.

    Used correctly, NLP is a very powerful tool. In the following, I’ll give you a few easy to learn techniques.

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    NLP to silence your inner critic


    A lot of us are struggling with a nagging inner voice that pipes up at the most inconvenient times. “You’re such a clutz!” it chides when you stub a toe, or: “You’re useless. You’ll never get that job,” whilst you are writing an application.

    Next time your inner critic makes itself heard, try and tune in to their voice. Whose voice does it speak in? Is it your own voice, or the voice of a parent or teacher from your childhood? Could it be that critical “friend” you used to hang out with in college?

    Ask yourself where the voice is located. Is it in your ears, your chest, or somewhere else?

    Now start playing with you inner critic’s voice. If it’s usually in your head, try and move it to your right foot instead. Make it sound like Donald Duck or Mr Bean, make it ridiculous or very childish.

    This may sound silly, but it’s actually an excellent way of silencing an inner critic. Even if the voice doesn’t go away, if you do this exercise regularly, you’ll be much less inclined to take it very seriously or let it affect you.



    Anchoring is a technique that allows you to access a desired emotion at will. Try happiness: Start by imagining a time when you were very happy, and then replay the situation in your mind in great detail. Tune up the colours, the sounds, the scents – every detail – until the happiness you feel is a clear 10 on a scale of 1-10. At that moment, touch your left earlobe between your thumb and forefinger (or circle your wrist with your other hand’s fingers, or any kind of touch that you’d not normally perform).

    Repeat this exercise at least once daily for about a week, and you’ll notice you feel happy just by touching your earlobe with your thumb and forefinger, without having to go through the entire sequence of visualising the happy memory anymore. To maintain the anchor, simply perform the touch every time you feel particularly happy.



    To calm your nerves or anxiety, you can employ a technique called reframing. Say you have an important test or exam coming up and the mere thought of it makes you break out in cold sweat. Every time this happens, shift your focus from the scary exam to how you’ll feel once you’ve completed the exam successfully. See yourself holding the diploma. Look forward to the exam as your doorway to what you want.

    This one can be great fun! You can also use it for dating. If you’re nervous on a date, simply visualise actually being in the relationship you hope to get to (provided that’s truly what you want!). See yourself with your date, taking strolls together, having a romantic picnic – if you are cheeky enough, you can even imagine the two of you having steamy sex. Trust me, it’ll put a sparkle in your eyes and a glow on your cheeks, relax you and bring out your best self.

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    Obviously, you can also try anchoring a feeling of calm and relaxation. These techinques all have various uses, so be creative and play around with them! NLP is a lot like taming your brain to work in your favour instead of against you. In many cases, the processes work very fast, which makes it very rewarding to study NLP. Experiment a little, and have fun.