Is It Serious Or Casual (Your Passions, That Is)?


 

Abstract:
 

When we meet a potential romantic partner, we tend to avoid rushing in. Once we’ve established we like each other, that’s when the other person takes precedence over others in our lives. However, some relationships will always remain casual and might have to take a back seat when we’re busy at work or with other areas of our lives.
 

You see, your passions are very similar. Your mission today is to learn whether you’re ‘committed’ or ‘casual’.
 
 

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Task 1: Let me count the ways

 

Just like a romantic partner (and anything else in your life, really), you passions get a certain amount of your energy and attention. How much that is, depends much less on outer circumstances such as how much time you have than we tend to believe.
 

Generally, we’ll find both time and money for the things we deem worthwhile. So, is it serious?
 

It’s worth asking yourself these two questions:

  1. How often does it happen that you’re prevented from pursuing your passion?
  2. What are the things that get in the way (your job? Your children? Tiredness/lack of motivation? etc.)?

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Task 2: Is it serious?

 

Obviously, the less you are prevented from pursuing your passion and the fewer things are capable of preventing you, the higher the priority you place on your passion. What does this mean?
 

It means that if you say your passion and your joy are important to you, you need to treat them accordingly.
 

To do this, look at your answers to question 2 above and try to find solutions for them. Obviously, these solutions will be as varied as our lives are individual. You might get an assistant at work or change jobs to free up time or get help in the household or with your children. You could practice more self care and take rest seriously so you’ll have more time and energy.
 

Give yourself a chance to actually prioritise your passions. The joy will follow.

How To Prioritise A Passion That’s Not Your Income


 

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Everyone talks about making your passion your paycheck. And indeed, it can be very fulfilling; I know a lot of people who are very successful in doing this. My own income is one of my passions, too.
 

However, the real challenge begins when your passion is not your source of income. Clients often tell me they feel like their loyalties are divided between their job and their passion(s).
 

Your mission today is to learn how to prioritise a passion that isn’t your paycheck.
 
 

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Task 1: Should your passion be your income?

 

The first step is to gain clarity on what works best for you. A lot of people feel that in order to be serious about their passion, it ought to be their career or business. But that’s a very limiting view that’s gained ground in our materialistic modern world.
 

You are not your job. If you want to become a full-time researcher or academic, an actor or actress or musician on the stage, then that’s great. But if you would rather pursue your passion in peace and in private, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t prioritise it.
 

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Task 2: Prioritising a “hobby” passion

 

We need to lose the phrase “just a hobby”. There’s nothing “less than” about being passionate when something doesn’t make you money – in fact, I’d argue that it takes more passion to stick with it when you have no monetary incentive!
 

You need three things to do this successfully:

  1. A job with healthy boundaries, workload and hours,
  2. Plenty of self care and quality time for you and your loved ones,
  3. Time scheduled to radically spend on your passions.

Have you tried a passions date twice a week with yourself (similar to Julia Cameron’s Artist Date)? You’ll woo your passion like a lover, by turning up at your best and giving it your undivided attention. Play with this. Fall in love and then keep the flame alight – just like you would in a relationship with another human.

Don’t Use Passions As A Band-Aid


 

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Passions are the single most powerful shortcut to happiness. Whenever I feel a little off, doing what lights me up never fails to give me a buzz.
 

However, there’s a danger hidden in the very happiness passions give us. It can be tempting to use passions as a band-aid, as an excuse to not deal with things that aren’t going right in your life.
 

Your mission today is to learn to recognise this pitfall and how you can make sure to avoid it.
 
 

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Task 1: Are your passions a band-aid?

 

Pursuing your passion can give you almost unlimited energy and lift your spirits. Your passion makes you feel happy and balanced and can make a bad mood disappear in no time.
 

However, these qualities also make it dangerous. When your life is out of balance, you’re unhappy in your job or your relationship or something else is out of whack, you can use your passion like a band-aid or a painkiller. It’ll numb the pain sufficiently for you not to deal with it.
 

Look at your life or take the Life Audit to see which areas you may have to look at. Don’t paper over the cracks, not even with a passion.
 

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Task 2: Make your passions an asset, not a drug

 

This is the reason why my Coaching programs encompass every aspect of your life, not just your passions. If you decide to prioritise your passion, it follows that something else needs to make space.
 

This requires you to assess all your priorities, not just add a new one. Take a bit of time and write down the things that matter in your life. Then compare the list with your calendar, your commitments and the things you spend your days with, and make adjustments accordingly.
 

Passions light you up, but this should be a bonus, not a survival strategy. Make sure the joy is the icing on the cake, rather than a band-aid.

3 Ways Your Passions Can Cause Burnout


 

Abstract:
 

Wait, what? I promote prioritising your passion(s) and now I’m telling you your passions can cause burnout?
 

Why yes, they can. It’s a subject not often talked about, but it has massive implications for those who seek joy and fulfilment in life – those who want to live with purpose.
 

Your mission today is to learn 3 ways your passions can cause burnout.
 
 

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1. You treat your passion(s) like chores

 

I often suggest scheduling your passions the same way you schedule a doctor’s appointment in order to create space for them. What this doesn’t mean is that your passion should be treated like just another chore to check off your endless to-do list. That’s counterproductive and can burn you out in no time.
 

Remember passions are about joy. Give yourself time and don’t expect “productivity”. Most passions follow cycles, with phases where you reflect or aren’t very inspired, alternating with times when everything seems to flow by itself.
 
 

2. You have too much going on

 

A lot of us already have too much on their plates. They work, look after their families, go to yoga, attend social events… There never seem to be enough minutes in a day.
 

If you think about it, it seems insane to insert time for passions into an already busy schedule. Yet that’s what most people try to do, and it’s a shortcut to burnout.
 

Prioritising passions means to simplify and decelerate the pace of your life overall. Opt out of anything that isn’t essential. Create the space first, then fill it with passion.
 

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3. You try to do it all by yourself

 

That’s probably the most common mistake. We have stopped thinking in terms of community. Yet nothing is more inspiring and keeps your passions fresh as well as people to share them with.
 

Look for groups, workshops, online communities, and get involved. It’s like blowing on a flame and will give you endless ideas for your passions.

Passions Can Turn Poisonous


 

Abstract:
 

I saw a meme on social media which infuriated me initially. It claimed that Self Care is used to cover up abuse and injustice instead of fighting them. I believe both fighting and Self Care are important, but it made me think.
 

Passion, too, can be used as a balm to smooth over imbalances in life. Maybe “poisonous” is too strong a word, but if passion isn’t prioritised, it can become a distraction from things that need to be addressed.
 

Your mission today is to make sure your passion is a priority, not a band-aid.
 
 

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Task 1: What lights you up?

 

The obvious first step in all this is to know what your passions are. I said it before and I’m repeating myself: Every hobby is valid, but not every hobby is a passion.
 

Passions make you feel blissful, like you’re coming home. They make you forget time. In fact, pursuing your passion is like being with someone you’re madly in love with in some ways!
 

So, what is your passion?
 

Passions Can Turn Poisonous

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Task 2: Don’t let it turn poisonous

 

I keep harping on about prioritising passion for a reason. When a passion, or multiple passions, are at the centre, the rest of life tends to fall into place around them. Things work themselves out almost magically.
 

When you treat your passion like a hobby or an afterthought, it can make you complacent. You get small doses of what lights you up regularly, so you put up with the rest of your life being less than ideal.
 

Ask yourself:

  • What would your life look like if your passion(s) were the No. 1 priority?
  • What are you currently not doing to make this happen?

 

Be brutally honest with yourself, and then take steps. Take a course, get a Coach, do whatever it takes. This is your life time, not a rehearsal. It’s up to you to make it count.