How To Find Your Purpose When You’re Aimless



People often tell me they don’t think they have a purpose: “I’m far too aimless,” or: “I just take life as it comes.” Others are multi-passionates and can’t believe that everything in their lives would come down to just one thing.

These statements are based on a few misconceptions which I’d like to help clarify for you. Your mission is to learn the way to your unique life purpose.

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Task 1: Your purpose is not what you think


Teachers and coaches often equate purpose with a job or something you do in life. This is why so many people think that purpose is not for them. They have multiple interests and frequently change direction.

The thing is, purpose is not something you do. Instead, purpose is the underlying reason why you do what you do.

Others believe your passion must be your purpose, but that’s not true either. The reason why I suggest prioritising passions in order to find purpose is that the frequency of pure joy is what leads you to your purpose. It opens you up to the required type of deep insight.

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Task 2: From aimless to filled with purpose


There’s more to this, and that’s the fact we’re never taught to have goals in life. Most people live by default and react to what’s happening to them, rather than taking charge and creating their lives. This is one thing coaching has taught me, long before I studied to become a coach myself.

Signs coaching might be good for you include:

  • You feel aimless
  • There are things you’ve been meaning to do for a long time
  • You don’t know your passion
  • You don’t know your purpose

The way to go about finding your purpose is to dare make your joy a priority. The easiest way to do this is through your passions, because this doesn’t require another person, it’s 100% you who creates your joy. You need this pure “you” energy to uncover your purpose.

I wish you a magical journey!

Why Would You Need A Purpose?



Ask around what people think “purpose” is, and most will come up with a definition that resembles a “calling”: something you’re supposed to do in life, like a particular work or career.

That’s a shame, because in my experience purpose is much less restrictive. It’s not a sentence or a prison, but more like the underlying reason for what you do.

Your mission today is to learn what purpose is, and how to find yours.

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Task 1: Realise purpose is about being


Purpose is not a career or work. You can be passionate about work, something you do and achieve in life. That’s why I focus my Coaching on both passion and purpose.

A passion is something you love doing, something which lights you up. It could be an art or craft, but also a field of study, an interest. It could even be a sport or activity. You could say a passion is something you do.

In contrast, purpose is about being. Take my purpose: I’m an agent of change, of connecting or re-connecting people to who they truly are. Of course I achieve this through doing, through my work as a coach. But the underlying purpose is who I am, no matter how I go about achieving it.

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Task 2: Why you need a purpose


Coaching is my passion and an instrument of my purpose, but it’s not the only one. My purpose is who I am, remember? Passion and purpose are related energetically, which is why prioritising passions leads you to discovering your purpose. But they’re not the same thing.

Purpose is the meaning underlying it all. It’s who you are at your deepest core. Knowing your purpose steers your steps and acts like a compass. You need a purpose because it gets you out of bed in the morning and keeps you going.

It’s utter bliss to live your purpose, and well worth the effort!

My Story: 3 Steps To Creating A Life Of Passion And Purpose



People have been nudging me to share my story, and I was reluctant. However, it actually is a good example of the things I talk about all the time – passion & purpose – and so I thought it can’t hurt to try.

Your mission is to learn 3 steps to creating a life of passion and purpose.

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Task 1: Create your vision


In my case, I created my vision according to my passions, and since I’m a multi-passionate, this involved sorting through a lot of different things. Here’s what I did:

  • Wrote down my passions
  • Wrote down how I would pursue them
  • Estimated the time needed per week
  • Wrote down my vision as a perfect “day in the life”


Task 2: Align your life with your passion and purpose vision


We often fail to plan for the long term, and it’s easy to see why: Something (such as a pandemic…) can happen and ruin all your plans. But it’s still important to have that vision, because only then can you actively work on aligning yourself with it.

I filmed an entire episode on alignment and it includes a list of values, which I recommend you download. It’s important because too many people actively pursue dreams that are completely out of alignment with either their values or their chosen lifestyle.

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Task 3: Ask yourself what you can do without


This is probably the trickiest bit. We can “have it all” in terms of your dreams, but we can’t possibly fit all the possible worthy choices and paths in life into one lifetime. That’s why it’s so important to chose something that’s in alignment – and equally important to know what you can do without.

In my case, this was:

  • Pets.
  • Riches.
  • A conventional relationship and family.

Your task is to find out what these things are in your life, and make a conscious decision about them.

Understand The Woo-Woo: What’s Your Purpose Really?



It’s always the next project: get the kid through primary school, or into the school of their choice, or on the team they want to be at, get the job I want, the relationship of my dreams…

Goals are great. I always recommend having goals in every part of your life. But when you hustle and hustle towards short-term goals all the time, there comes a point when you stop and ask yourself: What’s it all for? What’s the bigger picture?

This is where purpose comes in.

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Task 1: Spot the purpose


When we hear purpose, we think of people with a mission. People who drop everything to build schools in a poor country. People who change the world.

They definitely all have a purpose, but it’s not the only way to have one. Everyone has a purpose, but many don’t know they do because they think if it doesn’t at least solve world hunger, it can’t be a purpose.

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Task 2: Find your purpose


There are three steps to this process, or three levels of insight:

  1. Check philosophy and religions: at the root, they’re about love. Living in love, spreading love in the world and the behaviour that follows (such as helping each other, ethics etc).
  2. Passion and purpose are connected – this is my work – but that doesn’t mean your passion is necessarily your purpose. Passion leads to purpose, in that it lights you up. When you’re on fire with joy, you’re in a high vibration energetically, and this matches the vibration of purpose and will make you attract it.
  3. Remember you already know your purpose (love). Your task is to spend as much time in a high vibration as possible, by pursuing your passion and feeling joy and love, and your purpose will become clear – it might even change over time, but it’ll be there.

Is It A Passion Or Your Purpose?

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A fellow entrepreneur and I were discussing our respective businesses. “I help people put their passion front and centre,” I explained, “to prioritise what lights them up, instead of just relegating it to the time left when everything else is done.” -“Oh ok,” she said, “so you help them make time for their hobbies?”

I winced a little. You could probably boil down my work to that, and creating time and space for a passion is certainly part of what I do with my clients. But that’s only the starting point, perhaps the first 10% of what’s happening in my programs.

This is so incredibly important for people to understand. Not because of me – I’m just one Coach and don’t carry much weight in the grand scheme of things – but because it’s at the heart of most people’s issues with life. There is a huge political and social dimension to this as well. Discussing it in full would go beyond just one article, so I’ll only touch on this part.

The importance lies in the relationship between your passion – or multiple passions – and your personal life purpose. In the following, I’ll explain how they are related and how you can make this work for yourself.

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What’s the purpose of life?


If you ask people what they think the meaning of life is, you’ll get beautiful, often spiritual replies. “We’re here in order to love”. “The meaning of life is to leave the world a better place”. “We are meant to learn and evolve”. The rub is, once you look at people’s lives, their priorities are completely different.

Most of us get caught up at least occasionally in making ends meet, getting our work done and organising our daily lives. Spreading love and light, learning and evolving sounds great, but who has the time?

There’s a good reason for this, and as I mentioned above it is deeply rooted in social and political structures. Simply put, our lives aren’t set up to bring us joy, they’re set up to feed our economy. We input our labour and bring up new humans who’ll also be able to input their labour once they’re grown. Meanwhile, we all consume what the economy produces.

Is that just the way it is? I say: No, it isn’t. Read again what most people believe is the purpose of life. There’s a big disconnect between what we believe and what we actually do. It causes all sorts of problems, on a large global scale and for each of us individually.

From passion to purpose


Everyone agrees that things we love doing should have a higher priority in life. There is, however, a difference between just pursuing a hobby and finding your passion.

A hobby is anything you enjoy doing, from walking in nature to playing tennis. I’ll always support you in making more time and space for these things! However, a passion is something that truly lights you up. If playing tennis is something you feel you couldn’t live without, if you completely forget time and don’t ever want to go home when you’re out in nature, then you’ve found a passion.

The best guideline for distinguishing the two is how you feel. This feeling, the state of being on fire and radiating joy, is what “broadcasts” your purpose out to the universe. I know, I know – it’s sounds a little woo-woo, but experience shows that human beings achieve most when they’re in this state of joy and, dare I say it, purpose.

Why prioritise?


Prioritising these activities – the ones that truly light you up – sounds like common sense. Obviously, we all want to experience joy. But it goes a lot deeper than this.

In order to arrive at your purpose and discover what you were truly put on this planet to do, you need to show commitment. The universe is a funny thing: It requires you to trust first, and only then will you be showered with all the abundance of joy (and other things) you can handle.

How do you show commitment to your joy? Certainly not by spending half an hour on a Sunday evening! It takes a lot of courage to prioritise a passion over whatever it is that earns your living, but in the end, it pays off hugely.

This is exactly what I do with my Coaching clients, and the results are almost uniform: A living suddenly comes easily, and so does time for family and other loved ones. It’s like magic.

Dare to do what you were meant to do. If you find the courage, you’re practically guaranteed to succeed.