How To Find Your Purpose When You’re Aimless



People often tell me they don’t think they have a purpose: “I’m far too aimless,” or: “I just take life as it comes.” Others are multi-passionates and can’t believe that everything in their lives would come down to just one thing.

These statements are based on a few misconceptions which I’d like to help clarify for you. Your mission is to learn the way to your unique life purpose.

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Task 1: Your purpose is not what you think


Teachers and coaches often equate purpose with a job or something you do in life. This is why so many people think that purpose is not for them. They have multiple interests and frequently change direction.

The thing is, purpose is not something you do. Instead, purpose is the underlying reason why you do what you do.

Others believe your passion must be your purpose, but that’s not true either. The reason why I suggest prioritising passions in order to find purpose is that the frequency of pure joy is what leads you to your purpose. It opens you up to the required type of deep insight.

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Task 2: From aimless to filled with purpose


There’s more to this, and that’s the fact we’re never taught to have goals in life. Most people live by default and react to what’s happening to them, rather than taking charge and creating their lives. This is one thing coaching has taught me, long before I studied to become a coach myself.

Signs coaching might be good for you include:

  • You feel aimless
  • There are things you’ve been meaning to do for a long time
  • You don’t know your passion
  • You don’t know your purpose

The way to go about finding your purpose is to dare make your joy a priority. The easiest way to do this is through your passions, because this doesn’t require another person, it’s 100% you who creates your joy. You need this pure “you” energy to uncover your purpose.

I wish you a magical journey!

Why Would You Need A Purpose?



Ask around what people think “purpose” is, and most will come up with a definition that resembles a “calling”: something you’re supposed to do in life, like a particular work or career.

That’s a shame, because in my experience purpose is much less restrictive. It’s not a sentence or a prison, but more like the underlying reason for what you do.

Your mission today is to learn what purpose is, and how to find yours.

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Task 1: Realise purpose is about being


Purpose is not a career or work. You can be passionate about work, something you do and achieve in life. That’s why I focus my Coaching on both passion and purpose.

A passion is something you love doing, something which lights you up. It could be an art or craft, but also a field of study, an interest. It could even be a sport or activity. You could say a passion is something you do.

In contrast, purpose is about being. Take my purpose: I’m an agent of change, of connecting or re-connecting people to who they truly are. Of course I achieve this through doing, through my work as a coach. But the underlying purpose is who I am, no matter how I go about achieving it.

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Task 2: Why you need a purpose


Coaching is my passion and an instrument of my purpose, but it’s not the only one. My purpose is who I am, remember? Passion and purpose are related energetically, which is why prioritising passions leads you to discovering your purpose. But they’re not the same thing.

Purpose is the meaning underlying it all. It’s who you are at your deepest core. Knowing your purpose steers your steps and acts like a compass. You need a purpose because it gets you out of bed in the morning and keeps you going.

It’s utter bliss to live your purpose, and well worth the effort!

My Story: 3 Steps To Creating A Life Of Passion And Purpose



People have been nudging me to share my story, and I was reluctant. However, it actually is a good example of the things I talk about all the time – passion & purpose – and so I thought it can’t hurt to try.

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Task 1: Create your vision


In my case, I created my vision according to my passions, and since I’m a multi-passionate, this involved sorting through a lot of different things. Here’s what I did:

  • Wrote down my passions
  • Wrote down how I would pursue them
  • Estimated the time needed per week
  • Wrote down my vision as a perfect “day in the life”


Task 2: Align your life with your passion and purpose vision


We often fail to plan for the long term, and it’s easy to see why: Something (such as a pandemic…) can happen and ruin all your plans. But it’s still important to have that vision, because only then can you actively work on aligning yourself with it.

I filmed an entire episode on alignment and it includes a list of values, which I recommend you download. It’s important because too many people actively pursue dreams that are completely out of alignment with either their values or their chosen lifestyle.

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Task 3: Ask yourself what you can do without


This is probably the trickiest bit. We can “have it all” in terms of your dreams, but we can’t possibly fit all the possible worthy choices and paths in life into one lifetime. That’s why it’s so important to chose something that’s in alignment – and equally important to know what you can do without.

In my case, this was:

  • Pets.
  • Riches.
  • A conventional relationship and family.

Your task is to find out what these things are in your life, and make a conscious decision about them.

Understand The Woo-Woo: What’s Your Purpose Really?



It’s always the next project: get the kid through primary school, or into the school of their choice, or on the team they want to be at, get the job I want, the relationship of my dreams…

Goals are great. I always recommend having goals in every part of your life. But when you hustle and hustle towards short-term goals all the time, there comes a point when you stop and ask yourself: What’s it all for? What’s the bigger picture?

This is where purpose comes in.

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Task 1: Spot the purpose


When we hear purpose, we think of people with a mission. People who drop everything to build schools in a poor country. People who change the world.

They definitely all have a purpose, but it’s not the only way to have one. Everyone has a purpose, but many don’t know they do because they think if it doesn’t at least solve world hunger, it can’t be a purpose.

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Task 2: Find your purpose


There are three steps to this process, or three levels of insight:

  1. Check philosophy and religions: at the root, they’re about love. Living in love, spreading love in the world and the behaviour that follows (such as helping each other, ethics etc).
  2. Passion and purpose are connected – this is my work – but that doesn’t mean your passion is necessarily your purpose. Passion leads to purpose, in that it lights you up. When you’re on fire with joy, you’re in a high vibration energetically, and this matches the vibration of purpose and will make you attract it.
  3. Remember you already know your purpose (love). Your task is to spend as much time in a high vibration as possible, by pursuing your passion and feeling joy and love, and your purpose will become clear – it might even change over time, but it’ll be there.

What Your Life Could Look Like

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I’ve always had big dreams. When I was a teenager in Germany, I dreamed of visiting Ireland. As a university student, I spent two years in Ireland and later moved here altogether. From childhood on, I knew I wanted to see other countries, and during my 20s and 30s, I lived and worked in four different countries.

When I discovered Coaching and experienced the fastest and most profound personal growth in my life with the help of my first-ever Coach, I knew I’d found my calling. Years later, I became a Coach myself, eventually studying for and gaining a recognised qualification in Personal and Executive Coaching. Then I dreamed of having more time and space for Coaching and my other passions and made that happen in 2015.

Now my dreams include growing my business and living a more sustainable life surrounded by people I love. I’m working on it, and I’d say that judging by my track record, I’ll achieve this one, too. It’s a wonderful feeling dreaming up one’s perfect life and then going for it. Nothing quite compares to it!

What does this mean for you? I’m going to attempt to paint you a picture and help you give shape to your own dreams, so you’ll be able to look at your life a few years from now and say: “That was when I first dreamt about xyz, and now I’ve achieved it.”

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There’s nothing wrong with you


Before I continue, I’d like to make one thing absolutely clear: I believe in dreams and always having a goal, but I don’t think people are broken or that their lives aren’t perfect the way they are. Too many self-styled “Coaches” try and tell you that your life’s all wrong and needs fixing (usually, followed by an offer to fix it for you – for a substantial amount of cash, of course).

I don’t believe in making people feel bad about themselves. Moreover, it’s my belief that everything happens in perfect timing and that we’re always exactly where we need to be in order to learn what we need to learn.

What’s even more important is the insight that this is simply the way life works. Everything that lives, grows (a tree that’s stopped growing, simply dies). Sometimes, we’ll find ourselves in situations, jobs, or relationships we don’t like. At other times, we’re on top of the world.

Wherever we stand at the time, it’s always a good thing have a dream in order to continue growing. It doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t like where we are. On the contrary, a dream is more powerful if it isn’t created out of desparation but out of a feeling of happiness and gratitude for the present.

A passion-centered life


Whatever your dreams for the future are, they probably include a very happy you. In my experience, human beings are happiest when they live aligned with their purpose, and that purpose is ususally connected to their passion (or multiple passions). In order to create a dream of a happy future, I therefore suggest you paint a picture of you focusing your life on what lights you up.

What would your days look like if they revolved around your passion? What would you do? Imagine money wasn’t an object, because believe me, it never is once someone truly puts their passion front and centre. Somehow, a solution always presents itself, even if you can’t see it just now. That’s why I suggest to not concern yourself with this particular detail.

Instead, pretend you didn’t have to worry about money or a place to stay at all. See a perfect day in your life, fulfilling your purpose and doing what lights you up. How would you feel first thing in the morning, when you wake up and realise you have only fun things to look forward to? What would you say to your loved ones during the day? What would you think about falling asleep at night?

Paint this picture in as much detail as possible. When I say “paint”, I don’t just mean you should imagine it like an actual picture, but to use all your senses. Hear the sounds, smell the scents, feel what you’re touching or holding. Bring the scene to life as much as you can.

Finally, it’s time to distill the main cornerstones of your dream and put them down in writing. Out of these, you can craft your next goals and go for them. Keep doing this, because life is too short to spend it without striving for something beautiful which excites you. You’re just like that tree: for as long as you live, you’ll grow and evolve, and you might as well do this consciously, after your own planning, rather than leaving it to chance.