But I Can’t Afford The Life Of My Dreams!


 

Abstract:
 

90% of the people I talk to, react in a similar way: When I ask them what their dreams are, they will name something that isn’t all that far beyond their current life. If I press them to go completely overboard, they’ll respond with: “But I could never afford to live like that.”
 

What they don’t understand is that the point of goals is not to know how you’ll achieve them. In fact, Bob Proctor said: “If you know what to do to reach your goal, it’s not a big enough goal.”
 

Your mission is to do what Neo needed to do in the Matrix: “Free your mind”.
 
 

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Task 1: Reason is overrated

 

There is a place for reason. A goal isn’t worthless just because you know how to reach it, and yet, I agree that at least some of your goals or dreams should be far outside of what you think possible.
 

Examine what keeps you from dreaming big. Do you feel a little silly? But imagination is limitless, and so is creativity. Do you think it’s impossible? Fact is, lots of people have achieved things far beyond what they thought they could. The evidence is plenty.
 

Thinking creatively, going beyond, even into the realm of silliness, is a skill you can learn. Set yourself a reminder once a week for “dream time”.
 

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Task 2: Program your mind for your dreams

 

This is an ongoing task and will take some time. Basically, you need to brainwash yourself. Here are a few steps for you to take:
 

  1. Read something positive every day. Include books on finances (try Amanda Steinberg or Jen Sincero). Make time for it.
  2. Follow blogs, podcasts, YouTube channels by personal development experts. You could start with my newsletter and videos!
  3. Surround yourself by positive people. Know anyone who’s into this stuff? Seek them out and spend more time with them.

Do You Have The Discipline To Get What You Want?


 

Abstract:
 

“I’m just not disciplined at all,” said my client, explaining how she often starts something and then doesn’t see it through. It’s a familiar story to many; I’m the first person to own up to being flaky.
 

Are we then doomed to lives of mediocrity? Will our passions only ever be a hobby?
 

In fact, nobody is born with discipline – or without it. It’s an action, or rather a number of repeated actions, and can be trained just like a muscle.
 

Your mission today is to learn how discipline is easily achievable for you.
 
 

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Task 1: What’s your discipline habit?

 

Because discipline isn’t a character trait, but rather an action, the question whether you have it or not is a question of – you keep hearing me mention this – habits, which are based on your beliefs.
 

I identified three types in a previous episode on self-discipline. I then suggested self-indulgence as a way to break through resistance. Your task is to find which category you fall into and identify your personal habit.
 

Once you’ve done that, you’re ready to develop real, healthy discipline.
 

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Task 2: Your next step

 

This task depends on your result from Task 1:
 

Iron discipline: Well done but don’t ignore your own needs. Be good to yourself and regularly check if the goal you strive for with so much discipline is still aligned with what you want.
 

Given up: Set yourself baby steps. Start with tiny commitments, and then work your way up. You’ll soon see that you’re capable of much more discipline than you thought possible.
 

Try and fail: Your beliefs are really good at justifying rationally why you can’t stay disciplined today. To combat this, you need to cut through the cr*ap with a simple Nike-style “Just do it”. Make a decision that you won’t indulge in any inner debates and do it regardless. It sounds simple, but it works!
 

Remember: Discipline consists of action, not thoughts or words.

A History Of Time And How To Create More Of It


 

Abstract:
 

Most people will see the title and expect another list on how to get more done in a shorter time. If that’s what you’re looking for, I’ve got to disappoint you.
 

I’ve made a discovery about time that’s so huge, it could change your whole life. Your mission is to find out how to literally expand time for what lights you up.
 
 

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Task 1: Time is a new concept

 

The concept of time is relatively new. The first public clock on a church appeared in the 14th century, but it only struck the hour. Regular people lived by the sun and the day length.
 

Only in the 17th century did clocks become more accurate. It took a lot longer until they became anywhere near as omnipresent as they are today.
 

With the industrial revolution, timekeeping became important. Workers had to be punctual or wouldn’t get paid. These days, we live by the clock, but all in all we’re really bad at it.
 

Is it any wonder, considering how new an invention it is?
 
 

Task 2: Focus

 

Nowadays, we do more than any people in history ever did. Historically, people did one job, one role, had one responsibility. Now we’re trying to do it all. In addition, technology gives us access to the whole world, which is great but had added additional tasks that demand our attention.
 

Of course we’re exhausted and never have time!
 

Your task is to simplify. You don’t have to do it all. Pick one thing you want to do for each part of yourself: body, mind, soul, spirit. Focus on this one thing.
 

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Task 3: Passions expand time

 

Even though we measure time accurately these days, it’s still relative (just read the chapter on “Einstein Time” in Gay Hendricks’s The Big Leap). You can use this concept by consciously prioritising things you love.
 

Focus on your passion or passions. Don’t worry about anything else, just focus on them. Keep the four things from Task 2 in mind, but otherwise it’s passions first.
 

It sounds strange, but this literally expands time. You’ll find yourself relaxing and feeling less stressed. You’ll be able to concentrate better. And you’ll find that you do, in fact, have time for what matters.

The Beliefs That Limit Your Income And Happiness


 

Abstract:
 

Have you ever met someone who thought life is hard? They never have any time for their passion, they work hard and yet money’s always scarce.
 

I know the “life is hard” mindset, because it’s my own. It’s what I grew up with.
 

Your mission today is to identify limiting beliefs and learn how to change them.
 
 

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Task 1: Discover the connection

 

We tend to focus on one part of our lives and say things would be better if only we had more money, or if only we found the love of our lives. In reality, these things tend to be connected.
 

What’s less than ideal in your life? What could you use more of? Focus on that, and then look where else in your life the same energy shows up.
 
 

Task 2: Identify the belief

 

Now you need to dig deep. When you think about these areas in your life, what comes to mind? What thoughts pop into your head when you think, for example, that you never have time for your passion?
 

It could be: “Well I’ve got to earn money to live on, too.”
 

This shows your underlying belief that money has to be earned with hard work. If you think: “But that’s the way it is!”, you’re almost certainly on to a belief.
 

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Task 3: Change your programming

 

The reason why we don’t do what we know would be good for us, is that we follow our subconscious programming. The building blocks of this programming are our beliefs.
 

Here’s how to change a belief:
 

  • Find counterexamples of why your belief isn’t true.
  • Ask yourself if your belief has *always* been true for you.
  • Replace your belief with something positive.

 

This last step includes tasks I hate doing, such as affirmations or writing down my new belief 20 times every day, to make it stick. Coaching can be an invaluable support here! It’s a lot of effort, but it works and it’s worth it.

3 Steps To Dialling Up Your Happiness Meter


 

Abstract:
 

Have you ever wondered why some people seem happier than others? You may think, d’oh, they’re probably rich and healthy. But that assumption doesn’t hold up to research.
 

If you’re like most people, you have experienced periods of intense happiness. However, that often doesn’t last, although circumstances might not have changed.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to increase your capacity for happiness.
 
 

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Task 1: The happiness thermostat

 

“Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln
 

I don’t think this is quite true, as happiness is not just a matter of the mind. However, it seems that we all have an internal happiness setting that we subconsciously strive to maintain. Gay Hendricks calls it the “Upper Limit”.
 

Your happiness tends to follow the setting of your own inner thermostat. It works both way: If something happens to make you very sad, after a while you’ll return to normal. Similarly, if something happens which lifts you above your usual happiness levels, you’ll eventually return to your personal setting.
 

Your Happiness

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Task 2: 3 Steps to change your happiness habits

 

It’s as simple and as difficult as changing the settings on your happiness barometer. Simple, because it’s not hard to understand. Hard, because it’s like pedalling a bike uphill. You could call it your happiness habit.
 

Here are 3 steps to get you started:

  1. Pursue your passion. You know that one was coming, didn’t you? But you see, it works. It’s also an excellent way of detecting if something’s wrong.
  2. The Gratitude habit. Write down three or five things you’re grateful for every evening before you go to bed. Don’t just write it, though, really feel the emotion of gratitude.
  3. Get Coaching. Sound lame, coming from a Coach? I’m recommending it because Coaching is the best method for changing habits and sticking things out over the required period of time to make the change permanent.