7 Layers Of Truth: How To Be Joyful In 2020

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In recent months, our world seems to be in a permanent state of crisis. There’s a global pandemic, people have lost their jobs and incomes, there’s civil unrest in several countries. In the US and elsewhere, Black people and their allies stand up to demand they finally be treated equally and fairly. Don’t even get me started on the climate crisis and the acute emergency it creates in certain nations that are quite literally sinking into the ocean as we speak.
 

There were a few common themes in the conversations I’ve had in recent weeks. My paying clients, but also friends and Wild Spirits I simply chatted to all said that they feel preoccupied and overwhelmed. Many find it hard to concentrate on their work or even their passion and their joy. Others are simply exhausted from the struggles and the emotional burden of what they’ve been going through. Almost everyone feels like it’s not the time and place to prioritise their passion and focus on joy.
 

Let’s try and unpack this subject, because there are many different layers to it. I call them the 7 truths, and like Salome’s veils I’d like to peel them off one by one.
 
 

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1. Being joyful doesn’t mean you don’t care

 

Let’s get the big one out of the way first. Depending on where you live in the world, you may witness different injustices and raw suffering. It’s hard for a compassionate human to look the other way, and thankfully, that’s not what’s required.
 

It doesn’t help those who are suffering one bit if you suffer along with them. You can be an activist if you want to, or sign petitions, educate yourself and others, and still have joy in your life. It’s not all or nothing. In fact, your being joyful contributes to improving things, so it’s the opposite of being selfish (more about that later).
 
 

2. Examine your underlying beliefs about passions

 

There’s a subtle judgment in our thinking that times like these don’t leave space for passions. That’s the belief we all have soaked up from our society all our lives and which has taken root deep in our subconsious. It’s the belief that passions and joy are trivial things, luxuries, which you’re only allowed to pay attention to once the “important tasks” are done.
 

You may not consciously believe this, but trust me, you have internalised it on some level. Rather than denying it, it’s far more constructive to become conscious of this fact, and openly oppose the belief by deliberately doing what lights you up – even if you have to nudge yourself.
 
 

3. Certain things will take over your time temporarily

 

This is something the multi-passionates/scanners amongst us are experts at already. The rest of ye can learn from us: There are always times when certain things take over. If you have a new baby, you’ll spend most of your time and effort on that little human for at least a year or two. When there’s a global pandemic, it’s bound to soak up a lot of attention and emotional energy.
 

Muti-passionates usually have one or two dominant passions at a time, and we all need to learn not to feel guilty about the others during those times. It’s what it truly means to “go with the flow”. The trick is to allow the dominance of one theme, whilst still gently reminding yourself to do other important things as well. If you will, it’s learning to successfully multitask without driving yourself nuts.
 
 

4. You need to preserve your energy

 

If current events or a cause you believe in take up a lot of attention, it’s easy to lose yourself in it and completely overdo it, especially if you are a caring person and/or personally affected by what’s going on.
 

Wild Spirits tend to care deeply, so I’ve had a lot of conversations recently with folks who are exhausted, physically and emotionally. To avoid having this happen to you, or to start bouncing back if you’re already there, the first step is to remember your basic physical needs. Make sure you eat regularly (and reasonably well) and sleep regular and sufficient hours. It’s amazing at the difference these things can make after only a few days.
 
 

5. You need Self-Care and downtime

 

After the emergency rescue of No. 4, you need to go a step further and remember that you’re not a machine. You need time to recharge. After all, you’re no good to anyone if you’re burning out or having a breakdown, physically and/or emotionally.
 

Remember to take time away from everything, even those you love. You need times when nothing is required of you. This could be rest, a walk in nature, a bubble bath, an evening with a book. Also make sure to stay away from media – including social – during those times. It’s of vital importance to switch off regularly, in the literal as well as the figurative sense.
 
 

6. Connection is more important than ever

 

We’ve been told to isolate, but that doesn’t mean we need to be lonely. In some countries we’re allowed to meet friends again. Use these opportunities to connect, have a heart-to-heart, deep conversations in person, hugs. If you’re still in lockdown, reach out to people via phone or Skype/Zoom and if you live with family or a partner, make the most of that, too. Rather than just living next to each other, be sure to have meaningful conversations as well as fun times doing things you love together.
 

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7. Your Joy in 2020 can help heal the world

 

Lastly, understand that you contribute to the healing of the world, not only by actively participating and getting heard, but also by your energy. This is why it’s important – not just to you, but to everyone – that you consciously take time to focus on your passion.
 

When your soul is lit up, it’ll radiate the highest possible vibration, joy and love. Look around you: isn’t that what the world needs most right now? This does not mean to spiritually bypass and ignore the very real issues at hand. Like I said before, it’s not all or nothing. You can be responsible and active and do your part, and still find time to connect to the joy of your passion or passions.
 

In fact, it’s not just possible, it’s necessary. This is our task right now, and it’s not easy, but learning it is possibly the most important survival skill for 2020. Not only will it help us survive, but it’ll make us thrive, and that energy helps to heal the world.

2 Reasons Why You Repel Money


 

Abstract:
 

I’ve done a lot of work on my own money mindset and have worked with other people on theirs. One thing I notice is that some people have it a lot harder than others, and not because of circumstances like being born poor. No, some people just seem to repel money.
 

You mission today is to learn why you might be struggling financially and how to start turning the situation around.
 
 

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Reason No. 1: Stress

 

My friend Dr. Valerie Rein once wrote: “Stress is teflon to abundance.” That’s a great way of putting it.
 

The following may sound a little hippie and out there, but bear with me, please. The thing is that energetically, stress is the exact opposite of abundane. Think about abundance or receiving – imagine you’re playing charades and are supposed to mime “abundance”. Try it! I bet you made an expansive gesture, one of opening up.
 

Stress does the opposite: it makes you tense, literally makes your muscles contract. That’s why it’s not conducive to receiving anything.
 

To become more abundant, take steps to eliminate stress from your life as much as possible.
 

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Reason No. 2: Ignorance and mindset

 

To open the door to abundance, you must know about basics such as budgeting and low-level investing. Money likes to go where it’s valued, so get educated.
 

Nobody teaches us about budgeting or investing in school, so we have some catching up to do. Besides, most of us are brought up with very negative money beliefs we need to disable, which is another reason why you repel money. At the very least, read some good books about personal finance. Get Coaching or do a course.
 

You need to re-train your brain and mindset, and you also need to learn about budgeting. The best thing about it is that along the way you’ll realise that money is actually fun.

Why You Should Go Against Your Intuition


 

Abstract:
 

Usually, I’ll tell you to go by your instincts: “Do what feels right,” “do what makes sense to you,” “your intuition won’t lead you wrong.”
 

That’s true, and yet there are times when we need to leap before we can see the net that’ll catch us. It’s a basic principle of life – you could call it the backwards principle.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to stop waiting to priorise your passion, invest money, and do anything you want to.
 
 

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Task 1: The “backwards principle” – against your intuition

 

Full disclosure, this isn’t actually a term. I just invented it, because I think it’s fitting. I’m going to illustrate it with an example that’s going to make it very clear.
 

If you were trying to get fit, you wouldn’t say: “Once I’m fit, then I’ll go and exercise,” would you? No. You know that in order to create strength, you need to train your muscles and practice your technique.
 

Of course it’ll get easier once you’ve got a basic level of fitness, but to get there, you need to start before you feel like it. You start because you trust it’ll happen. And you do it against your intuition.
 

The same goes for everything else.
 

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Task 2: Trust first

Here are a few examples of where it pays off to trust first.

  • Investment. Money gurus teach that you need to start with a habit of saving and investing when you’re still broke. Tiny amounts will do. It flexes your wealth-building muscles (also, compound interest is a thing!).
  • Time for passions. You’ll never have enough time. Stop believing your own stories. When you have lots on your plate, that’s exactly when you need to start radically making time and prioritising your passion. This will shift your life to create more space.
  • Any endeavor. Starting a business, learning a language – you’ll never be ready and the circumstances will never be right. Start at the worst time. Once you make that decision and take action, the universe will move.

Be Shamelessly Not Busy


 

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Okay, we all want to slow down, enjoy the good things in life, eliminate stress. Right?
 

Or do we? Whenever two people meet, the exchange seems to be: How are you? Keeping busy? Good, good. Oh yeah, rushed off my feet. Gotta run!
 

Your mission is to learn how to not be busy and feel good about yourself.
 
 

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Task 1: Recognise the habit

 

We’re all familiar with the exchange I outlined above, aren’t we? It’s hard not to chime in when someone else starts the familiar “who’s the busiest in all the land” dance.
 

Your first task is to notice when you’re doing this, and to notice how you feel. Proud? Like you belong? Like you’re an accomplished human? To me, a big thing is that I’m almost ashamed when someone is working three jobs and run off their feet, and I feel like I’m just lazy in comparison.
 

Notice. Don’t judge, just become aware of your feelings.
 
 

Task 2: Not busy, please don’t disturb

 

The other thing is that being busy can be a great excuse if you don’t want to spend time on something, or with someone. It’s a universally accepted excuse: “Sorry, I can’t, I’m busy!”
 

The trick here is to come up with alternatives. How about:

  • “I don’t have the headspace right now.”
  • “I’m so sorry, I have other plans.”
  • “I’ll be working on my (insert passion here) tomorrow, can I get back to you?”

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Task 3: Actually force yourself to slow down

 

You’re used to scheduling tasks, but have you ever scheduled downtime? It might make you feel ridiculous at first.
 

Do it anyway. Put in blocks of time in between tasks. Schedule your self care and your passion(s), and also schedule time for not doing much of anything. Give it a few weeks and then you’ll feel the effects as your body relaxes and your soul begins to expand.

My Story: 3 Steps To Creating A Life Of Passion And Purpose


 

Abstract:
 

People have been nudging me to share my story, and I was reluctant. However, it actually is a good example of the things I talk about all the time – passion & purpose – and so I thought it can’t hurt to try.
 

Your mission is to learn 3 steps to creating a life of passion and purpose.
 
 

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Task 1: Create your vision

 

In my case, I created my vision according to my passions, and since I’m a multi-passionate, this involved sorting through a lot of different things. Here’s what I did:

  • Wrote down my passions
  • Wrote down how I would pursue them
  • Estimated the time needed per week
  • Wrote down my vision as a perfect “day in the life”

 

Task 2: Align your life with your passion and purpose vision

 

We often fail to plan for the long term, and it’s easy to see why: Something (such as a pandemic…) can happen and ruin all your plans. But it’s still important to have that vision, because only then can you actively work on aligning yourself with it.
 

I filmed an entire episode on alignment and it includes a list of values, which I recommend you download. It’s important because too many people actively pursue dreams that are completely out of alignment with either their values or their chosen lifestyle.
 

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Task 3: Ask yourself what you can do without

 

This is probably the trickiest bit. We can “have it all” in terms of your dreams, but we can’t possibly fit all the possible worthy choices and paths in life into one lifetime. That’s why it’s so important to chose something that’s in alignment – and equally important to know what you can do without.
 

In my case, this was:

  • Pets.
  • Riches.
  • A conventional relationship and family.

Your task is to find out what these things are in your life, and make a conscious decision about them.