First Perfection, Then Total Inertia – Is This Your Pattern?


 

Abstract:
 

Whether it’s healthy eating, exercise, or even prioritising a passion, many of us have an unhealthy cycle going on: We have perfect days, weeks, even months where we’re “good”, followed by complete inertia. That’s when we fall off the wagon, binge Netflix and undo all the good work we’ve achieved before.
 

In today’s mission you’ll learn why you keep falling into this pattern and how to prevent it from happening again.
 
 

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Task 1: Why perfection isn’t perfect

 

“I was so happy! I had loads of energy and couldn’t wait for my run every morning,” said my client. She couldn’t comprehend why she would sabotage herself by stopping.
 

The reasons for this are manifold, but none of them have anything to do with your willpower or intelligence. So Task 1 a) is to let yourself off the hook!
 

In fact, there are psychological reasons for your behaviour. We all have deeply rooted beliefs that stem from our childhood. Perhaps we’ve internalised a parent’s or teacher’s voice, and this make us very conflicted:

  • We want to be “good”
  • At the same time, we want to rebel

If this seems silly, consider that capable, intelligent people have been known to start drinking or abusing drugs again long after becoming clean. It’s a very real obstacle.
 

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Task 2: Break the pattern of perfection, then inertia

 

It’s time to turn it around. This means letting go of both states: The overly perfection and the total inertia. So what to do instead?
 

There are several components to this. I’m listing a few for you to get started:

  • Let go of the seductive simplicity of “everything changes, now!” Too much at a time invites failure. Implement one tiny step at a time.
  • Simplify the rest of your life. Reduce your online time, cancel social obligations.
  • Take plenty of time for yourself, to do whatever you please (even binge Netflix)
  • Practice Self Care regularly.
  • Schedule time for what lights you up.

The “Working Hard” Myth


 

Abstract:
 

People disagree on almost everything, but one thing 90% agree on is that hard work is a good thing. Indeed, when I tell someone that I work with people on prioritising their passion, the reaction I get most frequently is: “But you’ve got to work hard, too.”
 

Where does this come from? Why does hardly anyone question it?
 

Your mission today is to find what you really want in your life, and what the best way is to get it.
 
 

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Task 1: Why we worship working hard

 

People have always worked, that’s true. But I wonder whether historically, work was really that backbreaking. There were certainly exceptions, but mostly people had one focus, a one-track mind.
 

We used to have to work to feed ourselves. Then we became employees and work became abstract. To keep us motivated, the philosophy became that working hard is the only right way of living. We were also told that it’s the way to make money, which most rich people will tell you is nonsense.
 

The concept of focusing on passion, joy, and pleasure runs so contrary to this, it’s no wonder people have trouble even believing that it’s possible!
 

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Task 2: What do you really want?

 

This echoes back to last week’s episode – catch it here if you missed it. Why is it so important to find out what you truly want?
 

Because in order to break away from working hard as the answer to all questions, we’re going to have to cut back. Not on carbs, but on demands on ourselves and our time.
 

Once you know what’s truly important to you, you can pick which things you need to prioritise. Make sure it’s something that lights you up! Of course, a bit of balance is great, but trying to do it all is the root of all evil in our day and age.