No Time For Your Passion(s)?


(I updated the video because the old one was blurry. Enjoy!)
 

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“I just don’t have the time!” Hands up who’s said that? It’s the No. 1 reason I hear from people when we talk about why they don’t pursue their passion(s) more. Heck, I’ve said it myself more often than I care to admit.
 

There are countless gurus advising on how to maximise your time and productivity. But most of us are exhausted already and unwilling to stuff even more into our days.
 

Your mission today is to learn how to slow down and magically have time for everything.
 
 

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Task 1: Learn about the nature of time

 

Time can be measured and divided into hours, minutes, seconds. It seems straightforward and logical, yet we’ve all experienced periods where time seemed to speed up or slow down and drag. In truth, time is very, very relative.
 

Does time really fly when you’re having fun? I’d say, when you’re truly joyful and do what lights you up, the hours might fly but altogether, time expands and disappears. We’ve all been busy and then fallen in love, and suddenly we found all these pockets of time for our beloved – true or true?
 
 

Task 2: Get rid of Quadrant IV

 

I’ve mentioned Stephen Covey and his Quadrants before: I is important and urgent, II is important but not urgent, III is urgent but unimportant, IV is neither urgent and important. In other words, we can do without IV – it’s quite literally a waste of time.
 

What’s in Quadrant IV? Mostly time spent online. Emails, social media, gossip pages… If you don’t believe how much time you spend there, download an app that measures your usage time. I have never met a person who didn’t underestimate how much time they spend there. Imagine having these hours – hours! – as time for your passion.
 

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Task 3: Time for your passion(s)

 

The dominance of everything online is so heavy, I’m planning a course for a social media detox. Watch this space. In the meantime, you can take the following first-aid measures:

  • Close your browser when you work. Yes, really.
  • Turn off all notifications on your phone. Social media, messages etc.
  • Check your emails, social media and messages 2-3 times a day.
  • In your bedroom, your phone/tablet etc. is on airplane mode. No exceptions.

It’ll be awful at first, but after a week or so, you’ll feel that you’ve got your life back! Try it and let me know how it goes.

3 Ways To Use The (Super)Power Of Softness


 

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Superheroes, school of hard knocks, overcoming obstacles like a boss, those are the ideals that surround us. And it’s sure admirable how humans can succeed in the face of adversity.
 

However, not all of us are inclined to tough it out. Some have fears or anxiety for any number of reasons: health issues, traumatic experiences, personality. Are we doomed to mediocrity, then?
 

Far from it. Your mission today is to learn 3 ways of using the power of softness and joy.
 
 

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Task 1: Learn the power of softness

 

We’re so brainwashed by the tough-hero ideal, we feel inferior for our reluctance to headbutt with life’s challenges. Therefore, you need to counter-brainwash yourself first.
 

Have you ever seen ivy grow through a wall? Which one do you think is tougher?
 

Water can hollow out a rock by steadily dripping on it. That takes a long time, though – but water also has the capability of flowing around the rock.
 

Softness is more flexible and finds solutions where toughness keeps knocking its head against the wall.
 

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Task 2: Ways to use your superpower

 

Here are a few ways to make use of the astonishing power of softness.
 

  • Listen to yourself. If there’s somehing you absolutely don’t want to do, perhaps delegate it, pay someone to do it for you, get help. You could also consider doing it yourself, but in a different way.
  • Is there something want to do but never seem to get around to? It won’t happen unless you plan for it. When’s the last time you magically “had time” all of a sudden? You never did and never will, so determine a day and time and schedule that sh*t.
  • Discover the magic of 15 minutes. You can do anything for 15 minutes! Of course you won’t finish the task, but you can make a start. Try 15 minutes of exercise, or of pursuing your passion. Set your alarm and try it. You’ll be floored by the impact.

The One-In, One-Out Method Of Having Enough Time


 

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I’ll talk about prioritising passions until the cows come home, but the last thing I want is to add more stress to your life. Passions aren’t supposed to be yet another item to fit into your schedule.
 

Fortunately, there’s an elegant way of making space for your passions whilst at the same time easing the overall pressure on your time. It’s very clean and logical, just like maths!
 

Your mission is to learn the one-in-one-out method.
 
 

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Task 1: Learn the method

 

The basic principle is that for everything you add to your schedule, you take something else out. Sounds easy, right?
 

The rub is that most of us are too busy as it is. Adding in passion just by eliminating an equal number of chores doesn’t cut it. Passions don’t fit in neat slots; they require peace of mind as well as simply blocks of time.
 

That’s why it’s important exactly what you add into your schedule. You’ll learn this in Task 2.
 

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Task 2: What to add to create enough time

 

Get pen and paper and write down the following:

  • Anything passion related you’d like to create time for (i.e. practice the guitar, read up/study your chosen subject).
  • Find an equal number of chores or other items in your schedule that you can eliminate. Be ruthless!
  • Now, find an equal number of self care acts (anything from doing nothing to taking a walk in nature).
  • Again, find the same number of chores or other items you can remove from your schedule.

This may sound crazy, but I promise you, it’s always doable. The truth is, you only have 24 hours a day. If you’re not letting go of some things, you won’t make room for others and create more space and peace of mind.

You Do Have Time (And Money) For Your Passions


 

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One thing I keep hearing from my Coaching clients is: “I don’t have time to pursue my passion” and “I don’t have the money”. It’s either that, or a combination of both.
 

I’m going to be a little in-your-face today and say that you do have time and money. I’ll also argue that you feel like you don’t have them because of internalised patterns.
 

Your mission today is to break through the patterns which keep you from doing what lights you up.
 
 

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Task 1: You do have time

 

Do you need to volunteer for every bake sale? Do you need to outdo everyone else at the fancy-dress day at work? Unless these things are among your passions, consider cutting back in favour of something that lights you up.
 

Are people taking advantage of you? It’s not them, you know – it’s up to you to stop allowing it. Set boundaries; get support in learning this if you need to.
 

Examine what you think you “have” to do. Is it really necessary for your house to be spotless all the time? Consider getting help. And if you think you can’t afford this, then the next task is for you.
 

Time and Money

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Task 2: You do have money

 

I once went broke, was forced to educate myself about finances, and lived extremely frugally to pay back debts for over 10 years. I know a thing or two about money.
 

Just like time, money is subject to a lot of beliefs. You may think you don’t have the money to pay for a cleaner, or for your laundry to be done by someone else. But you’re already spending money you don’t need. Examples:
 

  • You don’t need new clothes for at least another year. Really, you don’t.
  • You don’t need to spend a lot of money when you go out. One drink can last all evening.
  • You don’t need a TV license. Pursue your passion, and you won’t even have time to watch TV.

A History Of Time And How To Create More Of It


 

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Most people will see the title and expect another list on how to get more done in a shorter time. If that’s what you’re looking for, I’ve got to disappoint you.
 

I’ve made a discovery about time that’s so huge, it could change your whole life. Your mission is to find out how to literally expand time for what lights you up.
 
 

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Task 1: Time is a new concept

 

The concept of time is relatively new. The first public clock on a church appeared in the 14th century, but it only struck the hour. Regular people lived by the sun and the day length.
 

Only in the 17th century did clocks become more accurate. It took a lot longer until they became anywhere near as omnipresent as they are today.
 

With the industrial revolution, timekeeping became important. Workers had to be punctual or wouldn’t get paid. These days, we live by the clock, but all in all we’re really bad at it.
 

Is it any wonder, considering how new an invention it is?
 
 

Task 2: Focus

 

Nowadays, we do more than any people in history ever did. Historically, people did one job, one role, had one responsibility. Now we’re trying to do it all. In addition, technology gives us access to the whole world, which is great but had added additional tasks that demand our attention.
 

Of course we’re exhausted and never have time!
 

Your task is to simplify. You don’t have to do it all. Pick one thing you want to do for each part of yourself: body, mind, soul, spirit. Focus on this one thing.
 

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Task 3: Passions expand time

 

Even though we measure time accurately these days, it’s still relative (just read the chapter on “Einstein Time” in Gay Hendricks’s The Big Leap). You can use this concept by consciously prioritising things you love.
 

Focus on your passion or passions. Don’t worry about anything else, just focus on them. Keep the four things from Task 2 in mind, but otherwise it’s passions first.
 

It sounds strange, but this literally expands time. You’ll find yourself relaxing and feeling less stressed. You’ll be able to concentrate better. And you’ll find that you do, in fact, have time for what matters.