The One-In, One-Out Method Of Having Enough Time


 

Abstract:
 

I’ll talk about prioritising passions until the cows come home, but the last thing I want is to add more stress to your life. Passions aren’t supposed to be yet another item to fit into your schedule.
 

Fortunately, there’s an elegant way of making space for your passions whilst at the same time easing the overall pressure on your time. It’s very clean and logical, just like maths!
 

Your mission is to learn the one-in-one-out method.
 
 

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Task 1: Learn the method

 

The basic principle is that for everything you add to your schedule, you take something else out. Sounds easy, right?
 

The rub is that most of us are too busy as it is. Adding in passion just by eliminating an equal number of chores doesn’t cut it. Passions don’t fit in neat slots; they require peace of mind as well as simply blocks of time.
 

That’s why it’s important exactly what you add into your schedule. You’ll learn this in Task 2.
 

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Task 2: What to add to create enough time

 

Get pen and paper and write down the following:

  • Anything passion related you’d like to create time for (i.e. practice the guitar, read up/study your chosen subject).
  • Find an equal number of chores or other items in your schedule that you can eliminate. Be ruthless!
  • Now, find an equal number of self care acts (anything from doing nothing to taking a walk in nature).
  • Again, find the same number of chores or other items you can remove from your schedule.

This may sound crazy, but I promise you, it’s always doable. The truth is, you only have 24 hours a day. If you’re not letting go of some things, you won’t make room for others and create more space and peace of mind.

You Do Have Time (And Money) For Your Passions


 

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One thing I keep hearing from my Coaching clients is: “I don’t have time to pursue my passion” and “I don’t have the money”. It’s either that, or a combination of both.
 

I’m going to be a little in-your-face today and say that you do have time and money. I’ll also argue that you feel like you don’t have them because of internalised patterns.
 

Your mission today is to break through the patterns which keep you from doing what lights you up.
 
 

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Task 1: You do have time

 

Do you need to volunteer for every bake sale? Do you need to outdo everyone else at the fancy-dress day at work? Unless these things are among your passions, consider cutting back in favour of something that lights you up.
 

Are people taking advantage of you? It’s not them, you know – it’s up to you to stop allowing it. Set boundaries; get support in learning this if you need to.
 

Examine what you think you “have” to do. Is it really necessary for your house to be spotless all the time? Consider getting help. And if you think you can’t afford this, then the next task is for you.
 

Time and Money

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Task 2: You do have money

 

I once went broke, was forced to educate myself about finances, and lived extremely frugally to pay back debts for over 10 years. I know a thing or two about money.
 

Just like time, money is subject to a lot of beliefs. You may think you don’t have the money to pay for a cleaner, or for your laundry to be done by someone else. But you’re already spending money you don’t need. Examples:
 

  • You don’t need new clothes for at least another year. Really, you don’t.
  • You don’t need to spend a lot of money when you go out. One drink can last all evening.
  • You don’t need a TV license. Pursue your passion, and you won’t even have time to watch TV.

A History Of Time And How To Create More Of It


 

Abstract:
 

Most people will see the title and expect another list on how to get more done in a shorter time. If that’s what you’re looking for, I’ve got to disappoint you.
 

I’ve made a discovery about time that’s so huge, it could change your whole life. Your mission is to find out how to literally expand time for what lights you up.
 
 

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Task 1: Time is a new concept

 

The concept of time is relatively new. The first public clock on a church appeared in the 14th century, but it only struck the hour. Regular people lived by the sun and the day length.
 

Only in the 17th century did clocks become more accurate. It took a lot longer until they became anywhere near as omnipresent as they are today.
 

With the industrial revolution, timekeeping became important. Workers had to be punctual or wouldn’t get paid. These days, we live by the clock, but all in all we’re really bad at it.
 

Is it any wonder, considering how new an invention it is?
 
 

Task 2: Focus

 

Nowadays, we do more than any people in history ever did. Historically, people did one job, one role, had one responsibility. Now we’re trying to do it all. In addition, technology gives us access to the whole world, which is great but had added additional tasks that demand our attention.
 

Of course we’re exhausted and never have time!
 

Your task is to simplify. You don’t have to do it all. Pick one thing you want to do for each part of yourself: body, mind, soul, spirit. Focus on this one thing.
 

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Task 3: Passions expand time

 

Even though we measure time accurately these days, it’s still relative (just read the chapter on “Einstein Time” in Gay Hendricks’s The Big Leap). You can use this concept by consciously prioritising things you love.
 

Focus on your passion or passions. Don’t worry about anything else, just focus on them. Keep the four things from Task 2 in mind, but otherwise it’s passions first.
 

It sounds strange, but this literally expands time. You’ll find yourself relaxing and feeling less stressed. You’ll be able to concentrate better. And you’ll find that you do, in fact, have time for what matters.

The Biological Reason Why We Don’t Have Time


 

Abstract:
 

Let me start by saying that yes, we DO have time. There are a few of us who really are busy every minute of every day, but they’re in the minority.
 

When we count the hours we spend on sleep, household and other chores, and work, we’re usually left with an astonishingly – and frankly, embarrassingly – large number of hours of “free time”. How come we never have any left?
 

There’s a biological reason for this, in fact! Your mission today is to learn about this reason, and learn how to outsmart your own brain.
 
 

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Task 1: Why you don’t have time

 

The largest part of our brains could be called the rational brain. It’s for reasoning, making decisions, logic. However, the most powerful, because oldest part (from the standpoint of evolution) is the limbic brain, which could be called the emotional brain.
 

The rational brain tells you that you need to get the housework done so you can pursue your passion. The limbic brain has no concept of time and seduces you to scroll through Facebook instead or spend the evening on the couch watching Netflix.
 

Get it? The limbic brain doesn’t understand time, it only understands emotion. It’s like a little child that wants everything now. To try and overrule it with your rational brain is like fighting a war against yourself.
 

Why we don't have time

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Task 2: Work with your brain, not against it

 

To counteract this, you need to get on your limbic brain’s good side. Feed it plenty of emotional rewards. This is why you need to prioritise your passion!
 

When you feel compelled to watch a movie instead of painting, dig for the emotion behind this impulse. What’s your limbic brain trying to feel? Maybe it’s cosiness and comfort. Give that to yourself through Self Care. Then surprise the limbic brain with the joy of pursuing your passion.

What To Do If Time Gets Away From You


 

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My clients often tell me that they should have more time left outside of work, sleeping, housework etc, to pursue their passion. But in reality, it never seems to work out that way.
 

This is very common! Your mission today is to understand how time gets away from you, and to learn how to actually use this to further the pursuit of your passion or passions.
 
 

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Task 1: Understand that you’re not lazy

 

Practically all of my clients think they’re lazy. I used to think this of myself as well. It’s a fairly universal misconception, because it’s quite simply untrue!
 

We come to this conclusion because of two things:
 

  1. We might be “wasting” time watching Netflix or just vegging out on the couch, or scrolling through social media endlessly.
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  3. Especially creatives tend to spend time “daydreaming”, scribbling or doodling, dropping one project to start (yet) another, and having long periods of time that are seemingly unproductive.

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Task 2: Use your patterns

 

This is about looking at what you do in those periods that make you call yourself “lazy”, and use this to your advantage. Here are examples according to my points in the first task.
 

  1. If you’re spending too much time on social media or binge-watching TV series, it’s a sign of mental overload. In our day and age, we may no longer do back-breaking physical work, but we’re mentally overstimulated and fatigued.
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    If this is what you do, find another way to get downtime. Don’t judge or compare yourself, just give yourself the gift of self care. Do nothing at all, or do a yoga class, meditation, a walk in nature – whatever you need to get back into balance.
     

  3. If you spend time idling and wool-gathering as a creative, recognise this as part of the creative process. It’s not linear, it needs “gestational periods” of seemingly low productivity. Allow yourself these time periods, schedule them in, and use them to further your creative inspiration.