3 Reasons Why You Need A To-Don’t List


 

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Hands up who’s sick of to-do lists? If you haven’t tried them – don’t. I have actually suggested them in the past, but only ever in specific circumstances. In general I think to do lists are keeping us in a hamster wheel forever, reminding us that the work is never done, that we’re always on the go, and adding to our stress.
 

Your mission is to learn how to use a To-Don’t List for the benefit of your passions and your peace of mind.
 
 

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Task 1: Avoid the pitfalls

 

A list of things that you shouldn’t do? Sounds great. There is, however, the danger that you’ll inadvertently set yourself up for failure if you’re not careful.
 

General wisdom is not to focus on what you don’t want. The way energy and the law of attraction works is that you’ll attract what you give most energy to. So the danger is to put a lot of energy into this list, which will lead to you getting things you’re trying to avoid.
 

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Task 2: Why you need a To-Don’t List

 

So why create a To-Don’t List at all? There are a few good reasons.

  1. It helps you to set boundaries. You may know that you don’t want to spend time with a certain annoying colleague (or even relative). One day you’re overwhelmed, lots going on, and they spring an invite on you. Before you know it, you’ve said yes.
  2. It nudges you when you’re about to go wrong. How many times do we end up focusing on what doesn’t light us up? If you have in writing what you definitely don’t want to waste energy on, you’ll remember much more easily when it’s about to happen, and can course-correct.
  3. It helps you make decisions. If you write down things you don’t want to spend time on, every time you’re faced with a “do I go to that event/meeting/workshop” kind of question, check it against your To-Don’t List. If it resembles any item there, use your time for something that lights you up instead.

Ditch The To-Do List And Get Shit Done


 

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Am I harping on about this? Probably. But it’s such a universal phenomenon, and it’s the bane of our existence: The feeling that we should do more.
 

The Should (with capital “s”).
 

We’re more stressed, dysfunctional, mentally unhealthy ever, and at the same time, we feel like a failure for not being perfect in every last area of life: Health, exercise, money, career, love, friendships, and of course looking amazing.
 

Here’s how to stop the madness, feel good about yourself, and get shit done.
 
 

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Task 1: Ditch the to-do list

 

As the title says, this is about kicking to the curb the favourite tool of modern times’ perfection tyranny: The to-do list. Just chuck it.
 

A to-do list is like a physical reminder of the all the “should”s in your life. It shows, black on white, what you haven’t accomplished yet – it’s a recipe for feeling bad about yourself!
 

Get rid of it, and do the following instead.
 
 

Task 2: Get smart about reminders

 

You may protest that your to-do list reminds you of things you need to do. I’m all for writing down tasks, but a to-do list is not the place for them.
 

If you haven’t done it yet, learn to use the calendar on your smartphone or your computer – bonus points if it synchs between your devices – and put in appointments, invites, and anything else you don’t want to forget.
 

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Task 3: Focus

 

Every day in the morning, pull out your calendar and check if you have any appointments that day. Once you have an idea, pick out two things to focus on.
 

Don’t make it more than two things, or maybe three. You’re allowed to do more, but only put two or three on your focus that absolutely have to get done. Also make sure one of them is a passion.
 

You’ll be suprised how much you get done, and how good you feel about yourself. Try it!