Ditch The To-Do List And Get Shit Done


 

Abstract:
 

Am I harping on about this? Probably. But it’s such a universal phenomenon, and it’s the bane of our existence: The feeling that we should do more.
 

The Should (with capital “s”).
 

We’re more stressed, dysfunctional, mentally unhealthy ever, and at the same time, we feel like a failure for not being perfect in every last area of life: Health, exercise, money, career, love, friendships, and of course looking amazing.
 

Here’s how to stop the madness, feel good about yourself, and get shit done.
 
 

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Task 1: Ditch the to-do list

 

As the title says, this is about kicking to the curb the favourite tool of modern times’ perfection tyranny: The to-do list. Just chuck it.
 

A to-do list is like a physical reminder of the all the “should”s in your life. It shows, black on white, what you haven’t accomplished yet – it’s a recipe for feeling bad about yourself!
 

Get rid of it, and do the following instead.
 
 

Task 2: Get smart about reminders

 

You may protest that your to-do list reminds you of things you need to do. I’m all for writing down tasks, but a to-do list is not the place for them.
 

If you haven’t done it yet, learn to use the calendar on your smartphone or your computer – bonus points if it synchs between your devices – and put in appointments, invites, and anything else you don’t want to forget.
 

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Task 3: Focus

 

Every day in the morning, pull out your calendar and check if you have any appointments that day. Once you have an idea, pick out two things to focus on.
 

Don’t make it more than two things, or maybe three. You’re allowed to do more, but only put two or three on your focus that absolutely have to get done. Also make sure one of them is a passion.
 

You’ll be suprised how much you get done, and how good you feel about yourself. Try it!

Obstacles: Just A Test, Or A Sign It’s The Wrong Path?


 

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When you work on your passion or your purpose and obstacles show up, some self-help experts say it’s a test of how serious you are. Others tell you to go with the flow, and if it doesn’t flow anymore, it’s a sign that your goal wasn’t meant for you in the first place.
 

So what’s true? The answer is, as usual: Both. The tricky bit is learning to know when you need to dig in your heels, and when you should quit.
 

Your mission is to learn how to tell the difference.
 
 

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Task 1: Check your alignment

 

Whether it’s a passion, a goal or your life purpose: If they are really yours, then they’ll be aligned with your chosen lifestyle.
 

Example: You have a family with young kids, and the passion you’re working on involves a lot of travel to distant places. It’s certainly possible, but if you value lots of quality time with your children, it might not be the best match for you.
 

Ask yourself how you want to live. On your own, with a partner, with a family? Do you want to stay put or try out living in different places or countries? Choose your goals and purpose accordingly.
 

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Task 2: Feel your way around the obstacle

 

This one requires you to know yourself fairly well. Take a few deep breaths and relax. Then think of your situation. Don’t dwell on the obstacles too much, but on your goal, the passion you’re pursuing or the life purpose you’re trying to live.
 

Place your hand on your stomach. How do you feel inside? Does it feel scary, but exciting and expansive? Or is it a constrictive feeling, like a knot in your stomach or like you almost can’t breathe?
 

Your reaction gives you your answer. It’s almost always accurate. Fear is universal, but how this fear actually feels deep down, tells you if it’s worth sticking with your goal in spite of obstacles.

Get Set For The Last 3 Months Of 2019


 

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¾ of 2019 are over! Maybe you’re flying and your goals for the year are well underway. Maybe you lost track of them and feel too ashamed to even look. Or perhaps you never set goals in the first place?
 

It doesn’t matter where you stand, if you just bear with me, I’ll show you how you can make the most of the last three months of 2019.
 
 

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Task 1: The whys and wherefores of goals

 

Why would you set goals? Because the 2% of people who have written goals they review regularly, are by far the most successful, happy, and content humans on the planet.
 

Let’s break this down.
 

  • Have goals: “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” -Jim Rohn
  • Written: It’s not enough to decide to do something. There’s magic in putting it in writing.
  • Regular reviews: Goals are achieved, or need an extension, or become irrelevant. Set regular reminders (a few weeks ago, I talked about using your calendar!) to review and update your goals.

 

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Task 2: Celebrate your goals review

 

This task is twofold: First, take some time and get comfortable. Light some candles if you like, put on soft music, and if you’re part of a couple, absolutely involve your partner in this. Then do the following.
 

  1. If you don’t have written goals yet: Do the Life Audit and afterwards, set yourself 1 or 2 goals per life area, that will improve your score in that area.
  2. If you have written goals: Put them in front of yourself.
  • Note any progress.
  • Eliminate goals that no longer have meaning.
  • Celebrate goals you’ve achieved.
  • Set the next step for each goal.
  • Lastly, schedule in your calendar when you’ll take these next steps, and when your next goals review is going to be (I suggest 1 month from now).

The Real Reason Why You’re Exhausted


 

Abstract:
 

My clients are as diverse as the passions that light them up. And yet, the majority of them fights exhaustion – they’re just tired all the time.
 

I remember feeling like this myself, and there were a few rather solid, physical reasons for it. But the underlying bigger reason is more important, and I’d like to share my insights about this with you.
 

Your mission: Kick exhaustion to the curb and feel full of energy.
 
 

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Task 1: Exclude the other root causes

 

Before I get to “the big one”, I’d like to make sure there’s not something more mundane and obvious going on here. Lack of energy may be caused by:
 

  • Lack of sleep. Here’s a TED talk about how much more serious this is than we tend to think.
  • Lack of nutrition. When I lived mostly off junk foods, I was eating rather too much, but mostly empty calories. And I was tired all the time.
  • Some other medical reason. Don’t skip your medical check-ups to make sure you’re not overlooking something.

 

All of these can usually be fixed rather easily. This is the most basic form of self care and you deserve it.
 

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Task 2: Exhausted no more

 

If your basic physical needs are met and you’re still tired all the time, you may be suffering from modern times. Yes, I just made that up, but bear with me, I have a point.
 

I’ve said before that we’re busier than we’ve ever been in history. There are more different things fighting for our attention than ever before. Distractions abound. At the same time, we have the sole responsibility not just for ourselves, but often also for our families.
 

And you wonder why you’re tired?
 

The remedy is to simplify:
 

  • Look at your life and cut out everything that isn’t essential. Leave in the passions and the people you love, and as much of your income source as you need.
  • Find ways to get help in stressful areas of your life (hire an assistant, or a cleaner. I promise you, it’s life changing).
  • Take up self-care routines, like the morning routines I talked about a few weeks ago, and/or a daily meditation practice of 10 or 15 minutes.

How To Instantly Get Out Of A Rut


 

Abstract:
 

Playing the piano is one of my main passions, and has been since I was 8. But there have been times – and it continues to happen – when I’m just uninspired.
 

Does that mean my passion is no longer my passion? Of course it doesn’t.
 

The truth is, just like love and friendships, jobs, projects, and everything else, passions go through phases and cycles and won’t feel equally exciting all the time.
 

Your mission is to learn how to get out of a rut, fast.
 
 

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Task 1: Find out if it’s just a phase

 

Most likely, there’s nothing wrong with your passion (or relationship, or project or whatever). You’ve just hit a bit of a plateau where things are ticking along but aren’t particularly exciting.
 

I’d like to invite you to take a closer look. Is this really all there is to it? There are situations when a passion doesn’t suit you anymore, when you’ve outgrown it. If that’s the case, then you should just drop it, instead of trying to rekindle your interest.
 

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Task 2: Inject the magic ingredient

 

I’ve teased it for long enough, haven’t I? The silver bullet I’m talking about, to get out of a rut and revive the spark in just about anything, is the power of the new.
 

If you’ve been working with the same group of people for a long time, the addition of someone new, even temporarily, might break it all wide open and give everyone a fresh, exciting perspective. If your passion feels stale, try doing something differently. Buy a new tool, try a new technique, or a new angle. Visit other people who share your passion. Take part in a workshop. The possibilities are endless.
 

At the piano, I’ll find a new piece to practise and fall in love with, or reach out to a friend to play something together. Instantly, everything feels new and the love and passion are back.
 

There’s magic in the new.